What can u say about this? You have a babe u want to marry but your Pastor said that she is not the one for u (that she will make u unhappy in future)and u love this girl so much up to the point thst u are willing to prove that he is wrong. Then you brought another name for your pastor and the one that you dont really have much feelings for, your pastor accepted as the one for u. the one God is saying that u should marry.

If u were in my shoe what will u do, considering that the said pastor has told u things that will happen in future and it came as he said. If u were in my shoes will u disobey the pastor to marry the one u love or will u obey him to marry the one u like but dont love.

Also how do u go about seperating urself from the one ur pastor refused u to marry.

Guy, what so urgent about this now
i just hate all this

Tell your pastor to pray that the woman you love will give you joy and nothing but joy.
God can change anything and any situation.

But why did you have two names to give to the pastor, deos that mean you were double dating?
If you had only one name, there wouldn't have been any confusion.

LOVE IS NOT A TWO - WAY AFFAIR; IT IS A TRIPARTITE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MAN, WOMAN AND GOD.

there are 3 p's 2 confirm ur choice- PARENTAL, PASTORAL AND PEACE(inner peace).

God had shown the pastor how ur marriage will be like if u marry that ur love.she may be pretending just 2 hook u first b4 she will show u what she is really like.or maybe something more than that may happen after marriage.
   
why don't u pray on ur own because marriage is a miraculous union which cannot be consummated without prior prayers. pray and tell her the outcome.

get seperated from her and get wedded 2 the other girl if u want peace in ur marriage.

  be wise! marriage is all about maturity.
    goodluck

thanx t means alot to me.

Your on the fast lane to self-destruction my guy. Sorry I sound rather harsh.
Who made your so-called pastor the decision maker here?
Is he God? U no sabi pray? God no send u abi? U no sabi hear from God shey?
This is what makes so many folks easy prey to these so-called men of God.
Look my brother it is your life. You are the one who's going to live it.
Unfortunately you are the one who's going to face the consequences of any decision
made so you had better take full responsibility. This kindda stuff only happens when peeps
believe they need some nonsense intermediary between them and God. If u are a true christian,
Jesus Christ is the one & only intermediary. Pray to God thru Him and get ur life sorted out.
He'll hear u 'cs He loves u, and believe me He don't love/hear any so-called pastor any
more than He does you. Ya heard?

BTW, whazze point bringing up d name of some dame u don't have it for?
 Beats me hands down.

Bolarge:

Your on the fast lane to self-destruction my guy. Sorry I sound rather harsh.
Who made your so-called pastor the decision maker here?
Is he God? You no sabi pray? God no send u abi? You no sabi hear from God shey?
This is what makes so many folks easy prey to these so-called men of God.
Look my brother it is your life. You are the one who's going to live it.
Unfortunately you are the one who's going to face the consequences of any decision
made so you had better take full responsibility. This kindda stuff only happens when peeps
believe they need some nonsense intermediary between them and God. If u are a true christian,
Jesus Christ is the one & only intermediary. Pray to God through Him and get your life sorted out.
He'll hear u 'cs He loves u, and believe me He don't love/hear any so-called pastor any
more than He does you. Ya heard?

BTW, whazze point bringing up d name of some dame u don't have it for?
Beats me hands down.

Never a truer have I ever heard!

marriage is a life long affair-so no messing around with what people say, it never really

matters,. i see it dis way though;

first, the inner peace must be there that she is the one, if their is one atom of doubt in ur

mind, then u need more time and prayers.

u may believe in u're pastors revelations based on the past but i tell u from the little

bible tales i know and have read, there are so many times that God had threatened to

destroy a nation or punish them for their sins only to pardon them cos of just one man's

plea and prayers, so ur pastor may be right and i may require ur steadfast prayer to turn

things around. so my only advice is for u to be spiritually minded, pray,fast and listen up

until u get that inner feeling on whoever it will be-d one u love or d one u like

@ Bolarge

word!!!!!!!

@ poster
Just pray to God through Jesus Christ, i don't believe it is wise for you to marry someone you don't really feel for because your Pastor said so _{i seriously don't like all these Pastors s**t}

Probe further with your pastor

@ bolarge
true that you hit a home run with your comment

@ poster

What signs have you seen with this woman? because before you marry someone you have to know them do you in your heart of heart think that this is a person you would like to spend your life with ?? or you are just getting cold feet and need an excuse to escape

Keep this in mind- GOD and GOD alone knows tomorrow and the beauty of this life is that the only thing we all know is that one day we would die. I say this to say that let no man tell you what only the GOD you serve can tell you. yes you might marry the woman and have problems down the line but which marriage is perfect?? if you know tell me. The thing is, there's bound to be problems and its how you work out the problem that would make you stronger. You know what why dont you tell the woman what yor pastor said and see how she would react you could start from there.

Proverbs 4:7

Sorry man, hope u remember dt God chose a woman 4 Adam but whn Bleep up came Adam blamed it on d woman God gave 2 him. Now as a pastor I am tellin u dt God has stop chosing woman 4 a man. So who evr findeth a wife findeth good thing, so go ahead & marry ya luv because marriage na 4 beta 4 worse.

R human beigns dis foolish?

ild rather say u follow ur heart. God is no author of confusion, morestill u can speak with another pastor and ask him to pray too. that is if you feel you cant pray to God directly and get answers to your prayers. the Bible says of the mouth of two witnesses, the truth is established, but in these issues of marriage, i think the onus lies on you to make your decision following your heart and the Holy Spirit speaking to your spirit man, remember as someone said earlier, u dont need anyone to tell you about ur future, u speak to God directly and you will be surprised at how much you can receive from him

a work is enough,

@ POSTER

Please mind the way you take girls names to "pastors" because many things are happening these days.

If you want to take a wife, pray and ask God to show you whatz rite for you and he will.

The one you love may just be "acting" cos she wants to get married desperately.

Sojust keep your mind neutral and pray and God will give you answers.

about how to get rid of the other girl, you've been playing both of them, so just play your way out. Afterall you've been doing it so it's not a new thing. Good Luck.

@Bolarge

word, you hit the nail on the head.

Gosh!  I love those Nigerian pastors!   They see all the visions in the world for others but themselves!  The pastor is probably sleeping with the babe! What a busy body!

Amazing!

NEVER EVER EVER marry somebody u dont luv/have feelings 4,
the union is most certainly doomed.

as per what ur pastor said, its really a tough issue.
but one really has 2 have all the detaols b4 he can help u.u know this is a public form n all sorts of people are here, not all things are meant 4 public consumption, b4 some1 miscontrues what i want 2 say, ,< u know about the childrens fodd, >
u gotta find out 4rm the pastor why he rejected ur chic, n all meet well grounded christians.but above all, pray!!!

Woe to that man who puts his trust in a fellow man ( ie your pastor) . You must work out the way of your salvation

I find it so sad that grown and women will allow other mortals decide what goes on in their lives. Pray to God your self, why do you have to ask a pastor who you should marry

Thankx Kokoletz for an inspiring word .
U see ur pastor will not be there when the so called angel he wants u to marry will start show herself for who she is.

na wa 4 pastor o!
u sef! na waya! where did u fish out the supplement babe from?

Poster

Why bother asking everyone for advice? Pastor or anyone else.

@Poster

Tell your pastor where to go and give him the middle finger. If the woman pulls the strings of your heart and water the flowers in your heart, go for it. But if you allow the toxic like your pastor to get in the field of love, you will only kill the glow of flower she planted in your heart !!! Beware of pastors and parents when it comes to marriage, no one can play the role of God. Take their advice and weight it against your happiness and decide which one matters the most.

guy u better stop listening to pastors for matter of the heart.

U people that believe in pastors to be telling u jazz i pity una.

think twice.

whats up with givin names to pastors? his he a necromancer?
the God that told him the girl won't make u happy in future would also give u a warning sign, don't u think? unless u aint on speaking terms with "HIM".

like a poster said ,which decision gives u that inner peace?

Brother, remenber that your own destiny is in your hands, the most important thing is what you decide, your pastor will not be in that matrimonial home, however you will live with the consequences of your decisions for the rest of your life. my advice is that u take what he said as an input to the decision you will take, he can be right and can be wrong cos " we see in part and we prophesy in part" if you dont have that spiritual sensitivity to hear from God then i advice that you stand apart from the relationship and make a thorough assessment if u will really be happy in marriage or not with her. i believe you should know your babe enough to make such assessment. try to be objective pls. answer questions like; what is her most important asset to you?, Does she really listens most especially when you have different opinions abt issues(listen nt give in)? and so on. Take what he said serious in a sense may be you will see what he is saying bt the decision is your as i said and the most important thing, pray to God that he should give you direction cos He knows the end from the Beginning and You will be surprise what he will do. i believe you know that most times it takes pain to do the right things

Ask yourslf how reliable has the Pastor been in the past?
If he really isnt reliable then you just need to do ur thing.

What were the reasons the Pasto gave?

I advice that you seek a second, third opinion.

apes obey.moreover who made her your love?