Not all men set out to cheat but more often than not you ladies leave us with lil or no choice. Lucky to be married to such a beautiful lady. Well, so they say. Na beauty I go chop? I give my wife so much loving, I'm faithful to her and always there. She knows it but it seems to mean nothing to her.  All I get back to so much disrespect, disregard and in subordination. I know that love beareth all things. Thank you I know the bible too. Divorce her? Not an option for now. She just might change then we'll live together happily ever after and it all will be a bad dream. For now I try to make her understand but all I get back is self justification, then apologies, then empty promises of a change.
I think its me who needs to change.
She will be off for a vacation soon and jeez I'm so looking forward to having my freedom once again. Hitting the clubs, rocking the joints, doing and undoing heaven only knows. I guess if I shag enough cheecks when she's away I might start to care less and not even notice it when she comes back and starts pulling her weights again. I'll just become a loyal husband again and see how things turn out then as investing all my love seems to be getting me no where for now.
I've started chatting up this girl online and I'm thinking of having a date with her when madam has left. She's young blessed with all necessities ladies covet and guys desire and seems interesting but I'm leaving it all online for obvious reasons. If the date turns out nice the vacancy in my bed won't be for long. That aside, I hooked up with my ex online and she's coming into town for a week. She's agreed to stay at mine as my wife'll be away then. The thought of shagging her once again is killing me. I've already told her all I expect of her and she's so keen to play along.
I know aids is real and the pregnancy thing. I won't disrespect my wife by going a round without a condom. 
Is there any MAN out there that has been through such. Please share you experience with me as to how you felt during and after such. Players only please.

Disturbing. This is why I dont want to be a wife.

Made up story.

^^^^ I hope so

Poster, I was taught dis - wen trying to solve a problem try not to create a bigger one.
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cheating on wifey doesn,t solve anytin. u only succeed in compounding shyte.

@Rokiatu: I really wish I made this story up.

For some men.d shit juz happens!

I feel and understand u poster. . . .
Some women just bliv we shud take shiit and not act on it. . . . .

I don't support infidelity but I feel it shud be done sometimes to save ones union. . .

Go ahead but don't get caught

talina:

Disturbing. This is why I dont want to be a nagging, disrespectful, foolish and inconsiderate wife.

fixed

kpolli:

I feel and understand u poster. . . .
Some women just bliv we shud take shiit and not act on it. . . . .

I don't support infidelity but I feel it shud be done sometimes to save ones union. . .  

Go ahead but don't get caught

How does infidelity help save a union  
[s]Maybe I wuld open a thread to address this issue[/s]

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Dabrake God bless u for fixing that

I dunno, its just a feeling I have . . . .

Next time she should not nag her husband into another woman's hands. . . . Men have feelings too

dabrake:

fixed

Ok, I undestand the why you wanted to "fix" my comment. It may have seemed one sided and its unfortunate what the poster is going through. But having affairs will not solve anything and will only add to the problem. If the poster thinks there is any chance his marriage can get better, why work against it and have affairs? Before it comes down cheating, he might want to respect himself and get a divorce.

^^^^
i roger that

Some men will blame a woman for his lack of control. Some women will accept the blame just to remain "in a relationship" status.

How bleeped up the people in this world.

@ Poster what is it that your wife is doing that is driving you to thinking of cheating no marraige is str8 forward but it is better to talk openly about your feelings with her tell her what your not happy with and tell her the consequences that you have been struggling with thoughts of cheating due to what is happening. I have been in similar situation usually if you tell your partner it will make them shape up a bit
Tell her you love her but there are certain things that is driving you away communication is the key if you did go and cheat you will regret it trust me.