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Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by pendo89(f): 1:18pm On Feb 23, 2012
Financial stability is key. I will not assume so, whatever will be will be.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Idowuogbo(f): 1:19pm On Feb 23, 2012
Pendo Pennisula,stop writing literature madam.In Nigeria its unrealistic for d poster to carry forth such task,like seriously 40k cant cover nada.He can only proceed IF! D fiance gets a job.Yes d comfort bladi bladi blah! Shud motivate him,but trust me d frustration of living in rations cud tear dem apart.Hmmmm u will be shocked as 2 how some 9ja gals do a take off like no oda Virgin altantic Pilot has ever done.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 1:26pm On Feb 23, 2012
When financial problems come knocking at the door, 'Love' flies out thru the window! wink
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 1:29pm On Feb 23, 2012
I married Idowuogbo when i was earning 30k, we believed our love was strong enough. Now see us today. undecided
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by yme1(f): 1:31pm On Feb 23, 2012
4OK bros nor try am ooo
If you don't want to end up being frustrated all because of marriage by the time the pressure begins LOVE will be the last thing on your mind
so focus dude strike out a plan be comfortable and secure your future then you can talk about marriage
marriage is never a bed of roses, so go about it with care and caution
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by kelz88(f): 1:38pm On Feb 23, 2012
Wait a bit longer before getting married. Even if it means putting 200# away every month. No point spending the little you have on a wedding only to go home and soak garri. No newlyweds want to live like that. It could easily tear them apart. I pray you get a better job. 40k is shite!! Naija sef cry
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by pendo89(f): 1:40pm On Feb 23, 2012
Idowuogbo:

Pendo Pennisula,stop writing literature madam.In Nigeria its unrealistic for d poster to carry forth such task,like seriously 40k cant cover nada.He can only proceed IF! D fiance gets a job.Yes d comfort bladi bladi blah! Shud motivate him,but trust me d frustration of living in rations cud tear dem apart.Hmmmm u will be shocked as 2 how some 9ja gals do a take off like no oda Virgin altantic Pilot has ever done.

LOL  grin grin I surrender. True dat you are better placed to understand the situation better. I hope his love waits for him and jobs come knocking fast.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by MrsChima1(f): 1:43pm On Feb 23, 2012
What if Nairaland Organization pay for the wedding and first year accommodations?
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Idowuogbo(f): 1:46pm On Feb 23, 2012
~Killz~:

I married Idowuogbo when i was earning 30k, we believed our love was strong enough. Now see us today. undecided
Eeeem dude I got tired of eating only baked beans,Like seriously do u expect me to watch our neighbours dog eat 3 square-meal while am busy struggling for 1? HELL TO MUDASUCKIN POWER OF 3 NO!!!!!!

Mrs, Chima:

What if Nairaland Organization pay for the wedding and first year accommodations?
Eeeemh IyawoChima I would send my pet Lefroggie d tanned bull-dog on u oo.D org don't take on cases dat aren't extreme me lovely kiss kiss
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by MrsChima1(f): 1:49pm On Feb 23, 2012
I thought Nairaland Organization help anyone in need. My apologies. kiss
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 1:49pm On Feb 23, 2012
What if Nairaland Organization pay for the wedding and first year accommodations?
^^^
If they try it, expect a minimum of 10 threads a day requesting for help! grin grin grin grin


Eeeem dude I got tired of eating only baked beans,[size=14pt]Like seriously do u expect me to watch our neighbours dog eat 3 square-meal while am busy struggling for 1?[/size] HELL TO MUDASUCKIN POWER OF 3 NO!!!!!!
OP, pls honestly answer this question! wink


@ID  tongue tongue tongue Thought you said you loved me!
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by bsalva(m): 1:51pm On Feb 23, 2012
Money will never be enough if you feel you want to get married discuss with your partner because people will always confuse you and they will never help ,no money is too little or too much.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by MrsChima1(f): 1:54pm On Feb 23, 2012
Don't forget petro expenses.  You will need at least N20,000 to maintain petro flow. 

For food, you can survive off of indo-noodles and homemade bread.  I tried the indo-noodles and it was disgusting.  The seasoning sucks big time.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 1:56pm On Feb 23, 2012
bsalva:

Money will never be enough if you feel you want to get married discuss with your partner because people will always confuse you and they will never help ,no money is too little or too much.
Can you marry on a 10,000 naira salary? Is it too little?
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 1:59pm On Feb 23, 2012
The last time i checked, being single is not a crime. . .
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Idowuogbo(f): 1:59pm On Feb 23, 2012
bsalva:

Money will never be enough if you feel you want to get married discuss with your partner because people will always confuse you and they will never help ,no money is too little or too much.
Sir can u conduct a wedding wiv 5 Indian rupee? Pls answer me b4 I send tornado ur way  angry angry
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 2:06pm On Feb 23, 2012
Idowuogbo:

Sir can u conduct a wedding wiv 5 Indian rupees? Pls answer me b4 I send tornado ur way  angry angry
He wont answer until he sees the tornado coming. . . wink
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by AZeD1(m): 3:03pm On Feb 23, 2012
OP
If you are in Ebonyi, Ekiti, Narsarawa, Gombe, Yobe and the likes go ahead,
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by cynthiafred67(f): 3:21pm On Feb 23, 2012
Idowuogbo:

Eeeem dude I got tired of eating only baked beans,Like seriously do u expect me to watch our neighbours dog eat 3 square-meal while am busy struggling for 1? HELL TO MUDASUCKIN POWER OF 3 NO!!!!!!


Buhahahahahahah I can't stop laughing.

@topic

40k is too small to sustain a family, unless ur fiance is working and she is ready to contribute.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Okijajuju1(m): 3:29pm On Feb 23, 2012
In Ekiti State, Yes

In Ebonyi State, Yes

In Lagos State, Lailai

In Port-Harcourt, Lailai

In Abuja, Niggar please!! angry
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by ade80: 3:56pm On Feb 23, 2012
@op
talk with your fiancee and let her start working on getting a job or starting a business.

I had a friend who was working in a bank and he got fired a day to his wedding, he had no choice than to go on with the wedding. He started his marriage with no money, his wife was pregnant and did not have a job.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by MarcAnthon(m): 3:59pm On Feb 23, 2012
~Killz~:

I married Idowuogbo when i was earning 30k, we believed our love was strong enough. Now see us today. undecided

cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy you no serious wallahi!

@OP, nothing is impossible to him that believes. The person in the best position to give you an answer is your fiancé. If she can live with it, and also find a way to contribute to the family purse, then you're good to go. I've heard worse stories of people in dire straits before marriage who had a turn around after. Remember, a farmer who keeps watching the wind may never sow. Also, he who marries a wife obtains favor from God. So talk it over with your madam then make your decision. Goodluck!
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Tosinville(m): 4:38pm On Feb 23, 2012
In lagos currently 1,350 for two
people is POVERTY in emboldened
capital letters! Well i just realized he
did not mention his state, and how
much he spends a day. . . If he is
that desperate to get married on
1,350, they should be ready to go
on a ration. ( 011 ,101 ,110) Where
"0" represents "No food" in the
morning, afternoon, night!



ROFL this nigga is hilarious, how bout 0-1-0 a day?lol the hardship in Nigeria is beyond what a man can consider & at the same time if you folks keep on discouraging a man of 33yrs not to get married now because of his income then when do u all expect him to marry? 40yrs? when he'll be 50 and his first child will be 10? i think the best advice u folks can give this man to watch the way he spend, to go family planning & a kid is alright for now and since they're both graduates then there are still brighter futures ahead life no end 4 dat 40k na.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by dabrake(m): 4:41pm On Feb 23, 2012
Mrs, Chima:

Don't forget petro expenses.  You will need at least N20,000 to maintain petro flow. 

For food, you can survive off of indo-noodles and homemade bread.  I tried the indo-noodles and it was disgusting.  The seasoning sucks big time. 
madam undisputable indomintable e-fighting champion, have you tasted expired oxford cabin biscuits dangote noodles before?
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 4:44pm On Feb 23, 2012
dabrake:

madam undisputable indomintable e-fighting champion, have you tasted expired oxford cabin biscuits dangote noodles before?
It's[b] indisputable indomitable. . .[/b]
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Tosinville(m): 5:06pm On Feb 23, 2012
dabrake:
oga, except you stay in jos 'cause
even me, despite being young and
being a bachelor, i get N90k
monthly and it's never enough.



Bros, u be apa if you actually earn that a month.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by freakcin: 5:57pm On Feb 23, 2012
Op, find your way to family section, you'll get better advise there. All these, bachelors, man[/b]chelors, spinsters no get better advice, they themselves are too scared to take the plunge, naturally, they'll dissuade you.
My take. . . if you're in Lag, Rivers or ABJ, it'll be extremely hard but not impossible, [b]if you have a plan to develop yourself
, anywhere else you just might be able to swing it with less hardship, goodluck.

Meanwhile ROFLMAO @ some of the replies, mehhhn, NLers are mean.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by mimi234: 6:20pm On Feb 23, 2012
To the OP,

You need to set yourself up before taking another person on your bandwagon.

Are you living independently i.e. in your own flat or are you still with parents?

If the above is yes then I think you can get married hopefully she will also have a job and together to can survive.

However if you still living under somebody be it parents, older sis/bro or cousins then you better not try get married o, Because you may end up breaking up out of financial frustrations lolol
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by SAFO(m): 7:38pm On Feb 23, 2012
What standard of living could you expect to have with a monthly take home of 942k

Just curious.
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by boy1(m): 8:11pm On Feb 23, 2012
Tosinville:

In lagos currently 1,350 for two
people is POVERTY in emboldened
capital letters! Well i just realized he
did not mention his state, and how
much he spends a day. . . If he is
that desperate to get married on
1,350, they should be ready to go
on a ration. ( 011 ,101 ,110) Where
"0" represents "No food" in the
morning, afternoon, night!



ROFL this nigga is hilarious, how bout 0-1-0 a day?lol the hardship in Nigeria is beyond what a man can consider & at the same time if you folks keep on discouraging a man of 33yrs not to get married now because of his income then when do u all expect him to marry? 40yrs? when he'll be 50 and his first child will be 10? i think the best advice u folks can give this man to watch the way he spend, to go family planning & a kid is alright for now and since they're both graduates then there are still brighter futures ahead life no end 4 dat 40k na.
u get some sense. . .some people no sabi wetin life dey talk. .dem no realised say d guy situation fit no change even in 20yrs time. . .besides, any woman weh no want am now,no worth am. . .
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by Killz3(m): 9:05pm On Feb 23, 2012
Marriage is NOT by force. . . It's either he suspends the plans, or wait for his fiancée to get a job. No matter the situation, i will never advise my enemy to get married on a 40k salary. It's preposterous!
Re: Plz Frnds I Need Ur Advice Can 40k Sustain A Family Jst Wants To Mary by dabrake(m): 12:02am On Feb 24, 2012
~Killz~:

It's[b] indisputable indomitable. . .[/b]
thanks a lot. Won't forget that
Tosinville:

dabrake:
oga, except you stay in jos 'cause
even me, despite being young and
being a bachelor, i get N90k
monthly and it's never enough.



Bros, u be apa if you actually earn that a month.

oga, i pay rent, transportation here na die, nepa bills, medical bills, man must wak, petrol for generator, gas for cooking, modem subscription, . . . Oga if you live with your parent and you are earning N40k, you are on the same level with a bachelor earning N120k and also on the same level with a married man with 3 kids earning N300k. BTW, i don't earn N90k. They pay me N30k/month as an i.t. student while mum gives me N60k/month

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