pro01:

^^

Yuk my broda. That's just grisly. The thought of it freaks me out. I'd prefer an actual human, nubile female - thank you very much. [s]Actually, human (young and voluptuous) females aren't that bad. . .as long as one needs them only for physical intimacy and not for (long term) emotional, intellectual or spiritual purposes [*chuckles*].[/s] Silicone mannequins can never be a viable option.

debosky:

Sagamite a pre-nup is different from car insurance or making alternative plans to get to a destination.

debosky:

The two latter examples is protecting yourself from external, unknown factors largely out of your control, while a pre-nup involves one party keeping separate what both are vowing to join together - it goes against the basic vows of marriage of 'what is mine is yours'.

debosky:

If, however, both parties willingly want a pre-nup, then it is a mutually understood basis for the relationship might be a good thing in my view.

debosky:

Why? Because it removes the fear, suspicion and attempts to hide things from one's partner when problems occur in a relationship. If you know the other person can't cheat you, then you're free to devote yourself fully and be open because they can't take it away from you.

TV01:

Hmmm, isn't it encouraging the possibility of divorce by bringing it to the fore? By making it a more readily available and clear-cut option when problems come?

Divorce should be be a very last resort if at all. Why not discuss and agree recourse to structures, counselling or other remedial measures.

Divorce is not a corrective measure, it's a destuctive one. If one feels one is best served by being able to exit a marriage with their worldly goods, quite frankly, they really don't get it and should probably not have been in it in the first place.

Kutey:

Ehrm ,  TV01 remember the phrase: "Never argue with an 1diot , they drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"

debosky:

Sagamite a pre-nup is different from car insurance or making alternative plans to get to a destination.

The two latter examples is protecting yourself from external, unknown factors largely out of your control,

debosky:

while a pre-nup involves one party keeping separate what both are vowing to join together - it goes against the basic vows of marriage of 'what is mine is yours'.

debosky:

If, however, both parties willingly want a pre-nup, then it is a mutually understood basis for the relationship might be a good thing in my view.

Why? Because it removes the fear, suspicion and attempts to hide things from one's partner when problems occur in a relationship. If you know the other person can't cheat you, then you're free to devote yourself fully and be open because they can't take it away from you.

TV01:

No, no, no. "The Sagman" is altogether a great guy, otherwise I wouldn't bother. He just needs a lil' nudge to fully appreciate that the human dynamic  - life even - and particular the marriage relationship is not a business transaction and not optimised  by "control", risk mitigation, algorithmic logic,etc. etc.

The pool of  5% on the male side is to shallow to allow an inherently good one like Sag to not get snapped up . His concerns though are valid, I'm just trying to help address them.

Very shortly Saga is going to stare that fear in the face and get his. Can't wait.

Best
TV

desertboom:

@Theblessed. . .  Theblessed indeed. After reading your written  junk, I really felt pity for your husband only if you have one. The way you've acted/behave on this thread does not speak good about you. What make you think you're any better with your arrogant and know-it-all attitude? You're not any better than a motor park tout. So, even somebody like you (with your useless attitude) will ask for settlement upon divorce too? No wonder, you dey sound like greedy goat. Please, go off this thread if you've got nothing to offer. Mumu she-goat like you  

debosky:

I don't see getting a prenup as precluding having all of the above - my view is that it needs to be mutual to give the marriage any hope. Despite some widely held views that divorce is glibly entered into, I think couples still try to make things work before giving in.

TV01:

The essence of marriage has been lost to many. Without understanding and embracing that - even intuitively - a lot of the value can be lost. It means the benefits are not fully grasped and people are more likely to not commit to it or give up if there are problems.
I find the notion counter-intuitive. "I will spend the rest of my life with you and give all that I have. For better, for worse etc". "But oh yeah if it doesn't go right, I won't re-double my efforts and search myself, I'll take my stuff and go"! It's almost like second guessing yourelf before you even guess?

TV01:

Hmmm, isn't it encouraging the possibility of divorce by bringing it to the fore? By making it a more readily available and clear-cut option when problems come? Divorce should be be a very last resort if at all. Why not discuss and agree recourse to structures, counselling or other remedial measures. Divorce is not a corrective measure, it's a destuctive one. If one feels one is best served by being able to exit a marriage with their worldly goods, quite frankly, they really don't get it and should probably not have been in it in the first place.

Best
TV

Theblessed:

[b][size=20pt]What kind of a man is this that came here to disrespect his mother, his grandmother, his sisters, aunties, nieces and cousins by showing their 'Butts' on here to the world?? And, I ask, who would ever find happiness, marrying this kind?

What a sad man, you are?? Pity!!

What a sad and confused man you really, are! And not only are you sad but also, greedy and wicked.

Imagine how low you stooped to disgrace all the females in your family, just to make a point - shame on you!!!

It goes to show how low you'd stoop to prevent a woman you loved and married - the mother of your own children from getting her divorce settlement if it happens to you - you could even murder or kill her cold blooded for asking for divorce let alone - settlement.

You are, a disgusting and evil man - a messenger of satan sent here on Nairaland to capture some weak souls for his  kingdom of darkness - And you all, who like this sort of a thing will rot in hell, soon!!

Sure already, some weak minds on N/L have started placing an order for their mothers plastic, shame on you all!

Since Miss Plastic is the only way out and solution to the marital hell, most marriages experience and also, an avoidance strategy for paying out divorce settlements perhaps, Miss Plastic would would also, cook your meals, run the home and resolve your need for an "HEIR" for that your silly dirty kingdom? I mean, someone to takeover that your silly kpako when you finally depart to hell! 

Or, are you going to look for a "LIVE" Barbie to perform that role, Mr clever?  You dare not contact any living being of a woman for that role else, the day you dare, would be your last - hypocrite. 

Keep riding your plastic horse, evil wankerpervert!! [/size][/b]

desertboom:

@harakiri. . . It's because most of the women commenting here are greedy. Bros, where have you been? I've been searching everywhere on this site for you.

rhymz:

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Sagamite:

I will challenge you on this.

Hello, bruv. I am sorry to say: Marriage has never been, by and large, some wonderful institution from time immemorial. It has always been generally faulty. I really don't know what essence of marriage you refer to. The benefits of marriage has historically been detrimental to one party: the woman. From the stone ages to recent history, they had the short end of the stick. Marriage has never been good. Women stuck around because they usually depended on the man financially and for social respect. The marriage of our ancestors and even the generations closer to us is filled with men having extra-marital affairs and offsprings outside marriage, especially those living in big habitats (e.g. cities) and are decently wealthy enough, and the wives accepted it. The unwealthy ones used whores and beat their wives. Majority of the long-term, so-called successful marriages of some recent generation gone-by we tend to point to are not immune from this fact as well. If the woman is of high-society or aristocracy back in the day then there are numerous cases of infidelity as well because they tend to be the beautiful ones and/or less dependent on her husband's finances since they live in circles of men with means that can replace him. Go and read about Roman women for example. Societies tried to use religion to control these but mostly only applied it to the women.

Sagamite:

Essence of marriage? A lot of women have been miserable in marriage but hang on. Now that women are no more dependent on the man financially or for social respect, we have a relationship culture flux, hence the rise in divorces.

Sagamite:

So when you refer to the "Essence of Marriage that is forgotten", all I can think of is an obedient, subservient wife sticking to it for better, for worse while the husband ruled at home and shagged his life out outside when he felt like. I have no interest in making anyone miserable for my own happiness.

Sagamite:

The essence of marriage you refer to are fantansies written in Mills and Boons or practiced my a very small minority of pious individuals with fear of Hell. It was never the norm. The muslims just said "Fck it. Man take 4 wives and stop your greediness".

Sagamite:

This is the real world, not Fantasia.

I don't think you really like reality. You really refuse to realise you have no control over the mentality and decision of others.

What if your partner does not want to discuss and recourse the structures?

What if your partner are not interested in counselling and other remedial measures because they are simply not interested anymore?

Let me guess. You would say you know that would not happen, you have selected carefully after 3 months?

You tend to ignore biology and facts and stick with some populist idealism.

hannydarl: ABeg iF the man was abusIve towards her in the marriagE then by all means let him pay up. She deserves every Dollar for the abuse suffereD while trying to makE things work. But, if she was the one giving him headache then I hope she does not get that much out of him. He deserves to keep his money and peace after she is gone.

Yorisb:

If I understood u correctly, the Man would either lose or keep(?) some of HIS money anyway, whilst the woman would either gain/benefit prodigiously or lose nothing, at the very most?

Pray tell, If its good/bad enough for the Goose why is same not applicable to the Gander? Aha, I now know why......'Cos she's a woman? Save the rest jare! #Hisses.

hannydarl: ABeg iF the man was abusIve towards her in the marriagE then by all means let him pay up. She deserves every Dollar for the abuse suffereD while trying to makE things work. But, if she was the one giving him headache then I hope she does not get that much out of him. He deserves to keep his money and peace after she is gone.

Sagamite:

That is logic in her world na.

Real Men would agree with her sharp, sharp.

Frankly, I don taya for dis kinda selfishness, but then, Am not a rEaL Man.......thankfully!

Please explain to me why he has to pay her for abuse.

hannydarl: Ñ
Two scenarios yoUr son marries a woman who does not give a shit about family and home. She treats him badly and after thinking she will change for a long time he sees no change. decides to complain and then she says F you , hell I don't nEed all this monitoring I am leaving you and taking half your millions with me. Will you tell him to give her that money or you will argue for a fair sum for the kids sake.
Scene two, your daughter marries a guy who tells her she must quit her job and stay at home to look after the kids. She does everything to keep the home happy while he does little or nothing phySically or emotionally to run the home cos he is rich and thinks his money will keep her shut. If she gets tired and decides to leave will you not think its only fair for her to get as much as she can get from him? Hell if he was abusive like many nigerian men are then by all means let her get a million bucks for each slap, verbal insult and what Ever else she endured.

hannydarl: @ sagamite
NwokEm you are right there but not 100% sha. I guess where she is from women are empowered and do not need to take abuse from spouses. If she was from one obscure village with parents poor as church rat and women treated a lil lower than cows I will understand she has nowhere to run to. But some women are fools when in love and need a strong and dedicated support group to open theire eyes that lovE should not cause pain.
Let the case be judged fairly.

Sagamite: The fair judgement is for both parties to walk away with what they worked for + any opportunity cost of sacrifices they made - any asset they are independently willing to give to ex.

People should not think by marrying someone hard working, they are entitled to their riches.

ronkebp:

Too bad the court and law do not agree with this...

Ileke-IdI:
I think the smartest thing for women with prenup to do is to save money, in a separate bank, while they're still married to their source of money.

A monthly saving of $15,000 will do.

Ileke-IdI:
I think the smartest thing for women with prenup to do is to safe money, in a separate bank, while they're still married to their source of money.

A monthly saving of $15,000 will do.

Sagamite:

That is her business. It does not bother me.

When the marriage comes to an end, I am not parting with more than she is entitled to plus what I am willing to give as extra.

My success (and any money that it generates) is completely and utterly dependent on my brain, abilities and the hard work I have put in in my life when I was young, not any woman.

If I don't marry her and marry someone else or even not marry at all, I would still have been successful, so no bunch of utter cretins should come and tell me the union contributed in any significant way to my success.

BS!

ronkebp:

Thank you!!!! i trust myself... Z-ACCOUNT will be breathing.....

Ileke-IdI:


LOL so much anger, Dr. Sagamite.

Shey you dey hide million dollars somewhere hmm?

You and Dayo just dey vex for this thread, but una no even get million dollars wey pesin (like me) wan steal.

Stop am o, haba!

lol abi jare

MRbrownJAY: is the guy really a "billionaire" in £, $ or € ?! meaning wealth of over 1000 millions in any of these currency?!
if it is so then he should quickly settle and pay up the 21milla which is clearly CHICKEN CHANGE, unless heis not as wealthy as he claims to be.


(sorry i couldnt read through 9 pages of replies)