pendo89:

Prenup is the way to go for these wealthy people. Wonder why he did not even consider a post nup when he started accumulating wealth.

At the close of day,one person goes home smiling. The Lawyer.

chaircover:

Many of the men talking are not married. I am married and I know that a lot goes into these partnerships from both sides and money is just part of it but lots of other things make up a marriage.

If many successful married men were to be true to themselves, many got there with support from the wife and I dont mean financialy. You have a spring in your step when you know that there is someone there for you; Your number one fan. Someone who tells you that the sky is the limit, someone who crys with you and laughs with you. Someone who beleives in you. Someone who interceeds for you. Someone who wants the best for you and so on.

Many of you look at it as a business partnership and marriage isnt like that.

As regards the house, unless he has full custody of the kids which I doubt, then the kids should be able to live in the affluence that they are used to. Its not the kids fault that mummy and daddy cant live with each  other.

Like I said, If he is indeed a billionaire then 40 million will not kill him; he could have easily lost that amount on the stock exchange or in a bad business deal. He also has the consolation that some of that money is going to go towards making his kids comfortable.

If many successful married men were to be true to themselves, many got there with support from the wife and I dont mean financialy. You have a spring in your step when you know that there is someone there for you; Your number one fan. Someone who tells you that the sky is the limit, someone who crys with you and laughs with you. Someone who beleives in you. Someone who interceeds for you. Someone who wants the best for you and so on.

Many of you look at it as a business partnership and marriage isnt like that.

Like I said, If he is indeed a billionaire then 40 million will not kill him; he could have easily lost that amount on the stock exchange or in a bad business deal. He also has the consolation that some of that money is going to go towards making his kids comfortable.

damola1:

I think your mind is made up. But I comment simply to continue to enlighten myself and perspective to issues.

damola1:

For a fact, I am not married, but I am closer to marriage than most married people,

damola1:

The only set of people who have absolute right about my wealth are my parents, because all of what I am today, my business acumen, my education is directly linked to them, and I will gladly give everything I have back to them, but they never even ask.

damola1:

In my own case, I give business free consultation advise , not the other way round, and have been doing that for so many years. I am her number one fan, whether I like it or not,,  this is a fact, introduced her to her first writing work, give her shocks for so many years to continue writing even without a single kobo coming back, closed my account to pay half of her school fees, continue to help create a balance in most part of her finances. The more I look at it, the more I see that I have given more advise, more support than she's,

damola1:

This isn't a bad business deal, it's not a loss, it's a greedy woman who wants more than she deserves. She probably went to a better school, has two hands , two legs, let her go and get her own things done.

desertboom:

@queensmith. . . So, this man will gain nothing at the end of the day. Rather, he will be counting his losses.

queensmith:

tbh with you, i think because we're not in his shoes we don't really know how it is. It probably goes to show how much a woman is needed, how important marriage is in spite of all the odds, the benefits to a family. If his money was that important he wouldnt have risked them. He could have just got her pregnant and continued his life abi?

besides, him giving up 20million is not going to make him poor, its going to make him a responsible father and ex husband to a millionaire 

rhymz:

stop posting this rubbish. Your way of reasoning is appalling. You keep making it look like the woman is a victim or something. Are settlements meant to spite the man or to ensure that the woman is adequately taken care of even after the collapse of the marriage and not for her to exploit the man. People divorce for different reasons, one person do not neccessarily need to have done wrong. It is not like the man has not given her anything, what the man gave her is moderate and by any means very satisfying. Don't forget the woman did not bring anything into the man's business, it is called compensation not vengance. Even if the man can afford it, it still does not make it right. Are you trying to say if this man was your elder brother, you would rationalize this woman's demand with such weak arguments. Most of the alleged contributions you claim she made could as well have been done by a nanny it does not justify such an obscene request. Stop fabricating excuses that do not exist.
Do unto others what you would want them do to you.

chaircover:

Many of the men talking are not married. I am married and I know that a lot goes into these partnerships from both sides and money is just part of it but lots of other things make up a marriage.

If many successful married men were to be true to themselves, many got there with support from the wife and I dont mean financialy. You have a spring in your step when you know that there is someone there for you; Your number one fan. Someone who tells you that the sky is the limit, someone who crys with you and laughs with you. Someone who beleives in you. Someone who interceeds for you. Someone who wants the best for you and so on.

Many of you look at it as a business partnership and marriage isnt like that.

As regards the house, unless he has full custody of the kids which I doubt, then the kids should be able to live in the affluence that they are used to. Its not the kids fault that mummy and daddy cant live with each  other.

Like I said, If he is indeed a billionaire then 40 million will not kill him; he could have easily lost that amount on the stock exchange or in a bad business deal. He also has the consolation that some of that money is going to go towards making his kids comfortable.

desertboom:

The court grant you ownership of the kids, I will have to give away 50 percent of my wealth, I will still have to pay large sum of money to you every year for maintenance. Oh. . . My God! Can someone please enlighten me what this man has as a profit to the marriage? What did this man achieved out of this marriage? In fact, what will he profit after paying all this money? The man looses in all ramification. This law is senseless and useless in all aspect. Please, someone must answer me, wetin this man gain?     

rhymz:

seriously, I am done with this emotional laden crap of what she did to make the man successful. If you can't put in words what the hell this woman did to deserve half of this man's wealth then take a trip to GTFOH. . You are just as lame as her greedy attempt.

rhymz:

stop posting this rubbish. Your way of reasoning is appalling. You keep making it look like the woman is a victim or something. Are settlements meant to spite the man or to ensure that the woman is adequately taken care of even after the collapse of the marriage and not for her to exploit the man. People divorce for different reasons, one person do not neccessarily need to have done wrong. It is not like the man has not given her anything, what the man gave her is moderate and by any means very satisfying. Don't forget the woman did not bring anything into the man's business, it is called compensation not vengance. Even if the man can afford it, it still does not make it right. Are you trying to say if this man was your elder brother, you would rationalize this woman's demand with such weak arguments. Most of the alleged contributions you claim she made could as well have been done by a nanny it does not justify such an obscene request. Stop fabricating excuses that do not exist. Do unto others what you would want them do to you.

rhymz:

seriously, I am done with this emotional laden crap of what she did to make the man successful. If you can't put in words what the hell this woman did to deserve half of this man's wealth then take a trip to GTFOH. . You are just as lame as her greedy attempt.

pro01:

I've long realized that it's a waste of time to argue issues relating to sense and logic with most women. It's like casting pearls before swines. . . an utter waste of time.

rhymz:

Seriously, a lot of women make very stewpid passionate statement that defiles common sense.
This feminism thing has become an avenue that criminal females exploit to get rich. How can anyone in their right senses support a woman that knew nothing about how this man made his wealth to bequeath to her such obscene amount of money all because she was married to him in the UK. Does it even make sense? Most of these guys talking about the man being stingy and wicked wait until it happens to you then you will know how easy it is to dole out a million dollars to a gold digger whose only job through out you were with her was to bear you childrien and spend your money. Yesterday I was in a similar argument with a friend in the UK, she kept on talking about how it was possible for Anne Macauley to get 2face to settle her bigtime( if 2face marries her in the US or UK) in the event of a divorce. I was like, how does a court compel a man whose source of livelyhood, wealth and properties are not in the west but in Nigeria. Is that even possible?
A lot of women these days are just so obsessed with the prospects of getting half of a man's worth in the event of a divorce, it renders marriage a useless union and affair to get into. Whatever happened to moderate settlement, why do feminists have this misconception that whenever there is a divorce it is usually the fault of the man and that the woman must have suffered in the marriage and deserves a settlement that looks like a revenge on the man. A lot of people make senseless arguments and demands they wont even oblige if they were in such conditions. Very stewpid laws that is gravely political and unneccessarily vengeful.

chaircover:

I haven't read all the replies to this thread, but this is my take on this.

2.1 million sounds like a lot but in reality it isn't. It will just about buy her & the kids a house similar to the one that they probably live in now.

The 35K a year will NOT be enough to pay for the bills and maintenance of that house alone, talk less of other things.

chaircover:

By all means if indeed the money used ot set up the company didnt come from them both but from the husbands family, then that should be taken into consideration, however on the flip side, how many married men with access to $13,000 are able to do anything tangible with it. Wifey could at the time could have encouraged her hubby to buy a car or go on holiday and blow the whole lot. She gave him her support when he used the money to start the business and over the years would have supported him in various ways.

chaircover:

Ive said this before and the fact that a woman doesnt put money down doesnt mean that she is useless. An encouraging word here, a prayer there, a shoulder to lean on cannot be expressed in monetary values and this should not be overlooked. Sometimes when you know that someone has your back, you become more confident and you tend to take more risks and these risks may pay off.

chaircover:

I personally think that if the man can truly afford it, then he should give her what she wants and let her go on her way. The Lawyers are probably getting more than the figure we are talking about here anyway which is a shame and the children are watching the acrimony and it cant be doing them any good. The Law suit is also going to affect both husband and wife mentally an healthwise whether they loose or win. Going to court is stressful in its self.

The other side of love is sure worse than hate if there is such a thing and I hope they can sort this out without too many casualties.

chaircover:

Many of the men talking are not married. I am married and I know that a lot goes into these partnerships from both sides and money is just part of it but lots of other things make up a marriage.

If many successful married men were to be true to themselves, many got there with support from the wife and I dont mean financialy. You have a spring in your step when you know that there is someone there for you; Your number one fan. Someone who tells you that the sky is the limit, someone who crys with you and laughs with you. Someone who beleives in you. Someone who interceeds for you. Someone who wants the best for you and so on.

Many of you look at it as a business partnership and marriage isnt like that.

chaircover:

As regards the house, unless he has full custody of the kids which I doubt, then the kids should be able to live in the affluence that they are used to. Its not the kids fault that mummy and daddy cant live with each  other.

Like I said, If he is indeed a billionaire then 40 million will not kill him; he could have easily lost that amount on the stock exchange or in a bad business deal. He also has the consolation that some of that money is going to go towards making his kids comfortable.

moremi2008:

Death and devastation @ Sagamite thinking he really started his company with 13k GBP!!

Triple death @ all this acetaminophen-guzzling for another man's migraine!!!

Sagamite, your foolishness is terminal. You have locked yourself up in a cage lined with mirrors; now you are only barking at yourself.

damola1:

Prenup, postnup to me is an option, but really, this is family,  I personally don't think it's right to be so callous to start drafting agreements within family,  every other day I expect myself and my immediate family members to make compromises for the development of the family. so, even in the event of a dis agreement, being greedy shouldn't be an option, it's just,  ' sweetheart ',  am sure you know what is right to do,  am sure you'll make me at least comfortable,  that's all it takes,  thats really all it takes!,  but when greed sets in, then you want to take half of my business, half of my wealth,  excuse me,  did you work half the time, the people that did are partners in my company,  you are not!,  already you are taking away all the children, why don't you take half the kids and leave me with half,  I will choose my kids over money any day anytime,

damola1:

I think your mind is made up. But I comment simply to continue to enlighten myself and perspective to issues.

For a fact, I am not married, but I am closer to marriage than most married people,  The only set of people who have absolute right about my wealth are my parents, because all of what I am today, my business acumen, my education is directly linked to them, and I will gladly give everything I have back to them, but they never even ask. In my own case, I give business free consultation advise , not the other way round, and have been doing that for so many years. I am her number one fan, whether I like it or not,,  this is a fact, introduced her to her first writing work, give her shocks for so many years to continue writing even without a single kobo coming back, closed my account to pay half of her school fees, continue to help create a balance in most part of her finances. The more I look at it, the more I see that I have given more advise, more support than she's,  maybe because I never discuss my business with her, women never advise logically, they only know how to protect, which is important too, but not really how to build. not to take anything away, she's her strong points. But on the points you've established, the above is what I think.

This isn't a bad business deal, it's not a loss, it's a greedy woman who wants more than she deserves. She probably went to a better school, has two hands , two legs, let her go and get her own things done.

desertboom:

The court grant you ownership of the kids, I will have to give away 50 percent of my wealth, I will still have to pay large sum of money to you every year for maintenance. Oh. . . My God! Can someone please enlighten me what this man has as a profit to the marriage? What did this man achieved out of this marriage? In fact, what will he profit after paying all this money? The man looses in all ramification. This law is senseless and useless in all aspect. Please, someone must answer me, wetin this man gain?     

TV01:

I have to disagree here. I can't speak for all cultures or religions, but in most - and pertinently the one in view here - the spousal relationship is the "apex" human relationship. Even a "common-law" wife could be argued to have precedent over parents. The two have become one, it's no longer "your wealth", it's "your joint wealth". And in my opinion, it should not just be since vows were taken, but everything you have both accrued prior. Consider if you will the vows taken.

TV01:

I don't agree that marriage should be treated like a business deal. Or in the notion that it's a question of "deserves" based on that premise. Does money underpin everything? Are all things to be monetised?

chaircover:

TV that is what I was trying to say in a nutshell. Marriage is not like a perfect recipe for a cake; 200g of flour and 200g of butter etc; neither is it a business deal.

Affairs of the heart are a totally different ball game and you cant put a monetary value on some of the things that come in the marriage

rhymz:

stop posting this rubbish. Your way of reasoning is appalling. You keep making it look like the woman is a victim or something. Are settlements meant to spite the man or to ensure that the woman is adequately taken care of even after the collapse of the marriage and not for her to exploit the man. People divorce for different reasons, one person do not neccessarily need to have done wrong. It is not like the man has not given her anything, what the man gave her is moderate and by any means very satisfying. Don't forget the woman did not bring anything into the man's business, it is called compensation not vengance. Even if the man can afford it, it still does not make it right. Are you trying to say if this man was your elder brother, you would rationalize this woman's demand with such weak arguments. Most of the alleged contributions you claim she made could as well have been done by a nanny it does not justify such an obscene request. Stop fabricating excuses that do not exist. Do unto others what you would want them do to you.

Yorisb:

They got married in England, ergo, how could She have ''taken him to the US courts''?

Please read up on jurisdiction before making further deductions conjectures. Such ignorance can be contagious and It's not funny!