it is left 4 both partieds to decide on wat they want for themselves

Most couples consent to that; knowlingly or unknowlingly.
How else can you explain child delivery six months after wedding?

Let's be realistic. Some couples resort to that as a means of consolidating the marriage or arm-twisting domineering parents.

Some women however resort to that in getting the man to 'hurry up and settle down'.

While it goes against the 'no-sex-before-marriage-thingy', how many virgin brides, and grooms do we have these days?

I am a woman and really, I'd be very confused. I mean what is his reasoning

@SHOWBOBO




ur really said it all, come all this yoruba's boys and girls way ful here, u wan tell me say u don 4get ur traditions,

High rise in childlessness-High rise in divorce.

If pregnanting is the best for the man let him go ahead.

He is not a Christian and besides, he does not trust himself of fathering a child after holy wedlock.

We do not know the full details and circumstances surrounding the guys desire for the bride to get pregnant. The fact that he demanded that, doesn't automatically make him a non christian. He may not have matured to take a stand against tradition which makes the word of God of no effect.

Is the girl in question a christian? If she is, she should consel him based on the bible. A medical examination should be able to clear any doubts about fertility.

That can't be an option, instead i wouldn't get married to such a man, cus its obvious he has security and trust issues i would not want to deal with.

what if you get pregnant for him and he dumps you even before he marries you?

sharp man

Matter of choice

@poster
but you'll have sex before marriage?

Dont tell me you're a virgin.

since you've agreed to marry the guy, whats wrong with that? you've both been sleeping together for the fun of it, so what difference does it make.

its just a matter of no longer using condom or contraceptives.

As long as the guy has paid your bride price, carry goooo

, sorry u're not ready to marry moi.

thank God its condition.at least condition by force n really it won't make sense 4 me especially when its a gal dat has neva had sex all her life n some insecure dude is already giving her a condition of pregnancy b4 marriage.some galz fall 4 such cheap blackmail anywayz but me refuse 2 fall.i remember when i convocated.my ex (benin man) told me 2 get pregnant n i told him dat can wait till after marriage.he begged,persuaded n called his mother 2 convince me i still stood my ground.b4 he gave up he asked me 2 name d state i'll have my baby i said i'm not going 2 change my mind,eventually he said if i'm not ready 2 get pregnant b4 marriage then i dont think i can continue making arrangements 4 wedding n i said i'm okay with dat,dat was how we went our seperate ways.i can't be threatened or go against my values 2 please anyone cos all dis nonesense of getting pregnant b4 marriage is just a ploy invented by men 2 some dumb women laid.some guys will take off after d gal claims she's pregnant,4 d gals dat r lucky enough 4 dia pregnancies 2 be accepted after a short while d same men dat said dey want pregnancy b4 marriage will start saying i'm tired of rice i want 2 eat eba n egusi.after marriage infidelity will start n d answer is simple d foundation of their marriage is sex n kids,not God