I don't have any and will never have.

It is wrong for her to police you. if she refuses to take your explanation. Delete her from your life. Love is build on trust and never allow a woman to hold you on an emotional hostage.

It is wrong for her to police you. if she refuses to take your explanation. Delete her from your life. Love is build on trust and[b] never allow a woman to hold you on an emotional hostage[/b].

Now that is where you're wrong,once somebody falls in love(i mean real love)that person(man or woman) is exposed to a feeling that leads to emotional hostage,emotional hostage is what makes u really know that you're inlove wt that person

Styrax,

Is she saying u are a liar or a womanizer? Talk some sence into her greasy head!! If she really loves you from the explanation you gave I don't see a reason y she should be shaking her head. Anyway that is life. Some relationships are broken by that. Look at Femi Kuti and his wife? Didn't it happen to him? Man move on. If she really likes/loves you she will get over it and if not your concience is clear so move on. It isn't the end of the world.

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My text messages have caused some wahala for me sometimes last year. There was this girl i wanted to date in Ibadan but she was always asking for money, credit, etc. One evening when i left the office, i called my present baby, but as the phone was ringing, this IB chick's text message came in as "My love, hw r u? please send me some money for me to travel to come see u. my acct number is xxxxx. I miss u". i was about deleting the text when my girl came on

Blackmann,
I wonder how ya face for look like that day. Haba you be Ole! Your woman no fine reach? Later una go the talk say women dey bad. Abeg Mend your ways o.

The thing wey pain me pass na say she no even talk am say she don see the text and i never knew. It was when she got home that nite and she called that she asked "who is so so so?" I knew then that i had made the biggest mistake in my life. I had to beg this babe for a week before she accepted any explanation from me. even at then she still raked for me. I had to pet her afterwards cos i just couldn't explain.

@poster,
are you sure that she is not looking for excuse to leave opt out of the relationship?
i believe the explanation should be clear,
dosent she know that the phone is not yours? is she not aware of how the fone came into your possession? i dont even understand why she should be so mad

Gbam!!!!!

frank 3.16:

@poster,
are you sure that she is not looking for excuse to leave opt out of the relationship?
i believe the explanation should be clear,
dosent she know that the phone is not yours? is she not aware of how the phone came into your possession? i don't even understand why she should be so mad

Please don't blame the woman because it's not her fault. There's an option to delete text messages and calls if you have the type that is nosy. It was his responsibility to make sure that he did that before giving her the phone. Does he think that women are stupid and don't know how to use phones? This is 2008, even a baby if given the chance can use a cellphone.

@poster, before you gave her the phone why didn't you tell her the circumstances surrounding the phone and how you were trying to get a new one for her while she uses your friend's phone?

jennykadry:

Now that is where you're wrong,once somebody falls in love(i mean real love)that person(man or woman) is exposed to a feeling that leads to emotional hostage,emotional hostage is what makes u really know that you're inlove wt that person

Emotional hostage or bondage is a puppy love. It is a sign of a highly manipulative or domineering parter. I wonder how you say you love someone but cannot trust or believe the person. Most men melt like jelly before their so called girlfriends who hold them hostage with the emotional blackmail. I pity the poster because his type might make a good husband. Staying late in office or giving a lift to a female co worker will attract hot slaps from the almighty madam who will never believe him.

Emotional hostage or bondage is a puppy love. It is a sign of a highly manipulative or domineering parter. I wonder how you say you love someone but cannot trust or believe the person. Most men melt like jelly before their so called girlfriends who hold them hostage with the emotional blackmail. I pity the poster because his type might make a good husband. Staying late in office or giving a lift to a female co worker will attract hot slaps from the almighty madam who will never believe him

i understand your point,but its not straight, you're making it sound as if it shouldnt be in a relationship,Emotional hostage or bondage comes in a relationship when both partners are having a misunderstanding,but like i said it goes in a relationship,c'mon lets be real for once,when there is a misunderstanding between two partners and they are not talking to each other,except one of them or both of them aint inlove wt eachother but if they are madly or really inlove wt eachother there is this weakness in them,even though we girls will like to do shakara but we r always empty when there is a little quarell between us and our partners,that is when emotional hostage comes in,emotional hostage comes in when we r both weak,now these same hostage is what makes d guy (that is if he is d one at fault)come begging her,because his emotions is like d conscience in him that judges him,this same hostage or bondage is what connects d guy and girl so much that they can't cheat on each other.

lets be truthful to ourselves,when we r quarelling wt our partners(d ones we r madly inlove wt),are we emotionally happy?do we rejoice because we r quarelling?'are we focused?do we concentrate?this questions i just asked is connected to that emotional hostage and bondage we r talking about

love itself is a bond that connects two people together,and love has so many things to d wt emotions now,infact love is emotion,that is what we call emotional hostage


You r explaining trust here,but my dear there is a difference between EMOTIONAL BONDAGE AND TRUST

Emotional hostage or bondage is a puppy love. It is a sign of a highly manipulative or domineering parter. I wonder how you say you love someone but cannot trust or believe the person. Most men melt like jelly before their so called girlfriends who hold them hostage with the emotional blackmail. I pity the poster because his type might make a good husband. Staying late in office or giving a lift to a female co worker will attract hot slaps from the almighty madam who will never believe him.

Eh? Who said that? Trust like respect, is earned not given. It is not automatic. And once it gets broken, it is difficult to restore the fragile bonds. It is something that is built, and must be nutured to give any relationship true meaning and value.

Distrust can creep in due to a variety of factors. If the chap had a tendency to stray in the past, and this issue suddenly came up, she might feel the phone thing is a pointer to a recurrence of the past.

Making it sound as if a woman must swallow any story her guy tells her, simply because they are in a relationship is carrying things too far. Is the guy infallible? Is he a demi-god whose word is law and must be obeyed at all times? C'mon. . . . .

Secondly, the poster could easily have called his friend who gave him the phone to explain to the girl, how those text messages got into the phone.

Thridly, maybe there are some underlying issues between them that linger from a while back, which haven't been fully resolved. that could explain her current mindset.

Don't blame the girl too much. There are always two sides to a story.

Making it sound as if a woman must swallow any story her guy tells her, simply because they are in a relationship is carrying things too far. Is the guy infallible? Is he a demi-god whose word is law and must be obeyed at all times? C'mon. . . . .

@laudate

my point exactly

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