Be Friendly Not Scary

Shy people can feel intimidated if you’re too boisterous. If you tend to wave your arms about when you talk, you could scare her off as your gesticulating hands move into her personal space. As much as you want to appear fun to be around, if you come across as too intense she’ll write you off, thinking you’re just not compatible with her.

Open the conversation with a smile, but try to make it look friendly rather than like the malicious grin of a Halloween pumpkin. Modulate your voice so that it’s not too loud and doesn’t vary wildly in pitch, so you come across as comforting. Shy women will open up once they feel comfortable with you.
What to Talk About
It’s best to start the conversation about a boring, general topic that doesn’t require her to answer personal questions. If you’re at a party, ask her how she knows the host. At a club, talk about the music or how hot it is. Before the conversation gets too dry, find a common interest or tell a funny anecdote – for example, if you’re talking about music, tell her that whenever you put that kind of music on at home, your dog barks along to it. If you tell that story though, you better hope you end up at her place, because you don’t want her to get to yours and realize you don’t have a dog. Gradually step up the topics to more interesting and personal ones, so before she even notices, she’ll be having a fantastic time chatting to you.

Whatever you do, don’t mention that she doesn’t talk much. She already knows, and won’t appreciate hearing it.



Mirror Her Body Language

To put her at ease, try to copy her stance to a degree. If you come across as too confident, it will backfire – but it’s a fine balance. If you mirror her too well, you will seem shy, and the interaction could get awkward. You can be yourself, but a less animated version of yourself.





Initiating Physical contact

Touching is an important part of flirting – but if you start too early, she will want you to back out of her personal space. Wait until she seems comfortable with you, and make sure any touching is light at first. Try brushing against her arm or leg to test how she reacts. If she goes tense or doesn’t seem to do anything, slow down and proceed with caution. If she moves closer, you can figure out what to do next!

Try cracking a couple of boiled guinea fowls eggs on her head, she will ease up in no time !!!