To control the outcome of anything, you control the action at the point of decision making. If you let others make decisions for you, you give up control. When you control the descisions, you control the actions. It's your life. You decide what you are going to do with it. If you don't run your own life someone else will. You are in control of your life to the degree you make decisions. Take charge of your life so that there is no longer a need to ask permission of others. When you ask permission, you are giving someone else veto power over your life. Take control and start making those decisions. Only you are responsible for your life. A successful person makes decisions.