GOOD ADVICES FOR GIRLS:

1. A man won't let go if he really loves you.
- Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
- There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hang up on your past.
- Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough.

4. Do not look into images.
- How many times have you met a girl who didn't have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules.
- Set your limits on how far you'd go for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it. And it’s worth it if the guy is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him.
- Don't be scared that he'll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.

7. Avoid calling your guy.
- It’' a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you.
- There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don't lose hope. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can.
Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is. He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.

9. Always be the only one, no matter what.
- Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you.
- No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it.
- Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again.

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.
- Do not steal another girl's man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.
- Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.

14. Do not settle.
- If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.

15. A relationship has to have love.
- Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.

16. Don't be afraid to be single.
- It's fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.

17. Be a good girl.
- Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.

18. Love without limits.
- Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn't give your all, you get hurt for nothing.

19. You will get over him.
- Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.

20. Be the one.
- Act like you are the one. Don't be a nagger. Don't hinder his gimmicks. Don't give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don't be easy. Don't be like every other girl he had in his life.

A man won't let go, if he really loves you.

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u wan win best writer for nl or what?

abeg stop making noise mehn!

Wats with all these 'advise for girls', 'Advice for Nigerian girls', 'Advice for women', etc threads?

Nice write ups

i tire for all these people with their magazine BS articles.....ok:

Babasessy: GOOD ADVICES FOR GIRLS:
1. A man won't let go if he really loves you.
MBJ says a man who loves you would still let you go if you mess up!

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
MBJ says you need to KNOW why he dropped you, so that you can UNDERSTAND what the problem is/was, and possibly work on such issues in your next r/ship.

3. Do not get hang up on your past.
MBJ says, as much as you may be right on this one, people should learn from their actions. so if someone made mistakes in the past then they need to use their past experiences to better their future........ and become successful in love. example: if all your exes took your kindness for stoopidity, then you need to upgrade yourself so that you dont send the wrong msg to prospective mate.

4. Do not look into images.
MBJ says not everybody is strong like that and it all depends on who that person is. many are solely driven by social, peer and religious pressure, therefore in their little lives, their mates need to have the perfect reputation as well.

5. Always have your own set of rules.
MBJ says anyone who pre-sets limits to LOVE, clearly has no idea what LOVE is.

7. Avoid calling your guy.
MBJ says NONSENSE OF THE HIGHEST ORDER. call whenever you need to, and vice versa......not calling someone simply because you expect that other person to ALWAYS call is not only wrong but foolish.

8. There is a guy who will value you.
MBJ says what if that lady is actually a les[b]b[/b]ian? should she also settle for a man regardless of that fact?

9. Always be the only one, no matter what.
MBJ says so far as i know, polygamy is still legal in Nigeria.....and many are happy being 2nd, 3rd or 4th wives.

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.
MBJ says what?!!!!!! you shouldnt look for a r/ship if you are lonely? really?! i thought that this was the reason why most entered such union........... to NOT be lonely any longer.

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.
MBJ says what?! look is a superficial thing?! to whom? are you saying that people should settle for someone they found unattractive?

14. Do not settle.
MBJ says shouldnt you first COMMUNICATE to find out what the problem is, and possibly sort the issue out?

15. A relationship has to have love.
MBJ says love is only part of the formula/foundation that is needed to make a r/ship last, you need many other ingredients......and unless you have them all, then that r/ship will never last.

16. Don't be afraid to be single.
MBJ says so people in r/ships cannot go out whenever they want? wherever they want? you are making r/ships sound like prison.

17. Be a good girl.
MBJ says women should be THEMSELVES, and not forced themselves to be "good" if they truly aint. no matter how bad some people may think you are, someone out there will think you are great as a "bad" girl. pretending to be someone you are not, just to be in a r/ship, is wrong.

18. Love without limits.
MBJ says BWAAAAAAH! isnt that a contradiction to what you wrote in #5

19. You will get over him.
MBJ says are you saying that ALL love end?! lol you are starting to become comical!

20. Be the one.
MBJ says another contradiction to what you wrote in #3, lol! how could anyone compare themselves with his past GF, yet say:" Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex". if this is what you believe then comparing yourself to his ex is NO BETTER, duh!