I met this really cool guy that i started to av strong feelins for, im a girl that gets alot of advances form men, but 4 sme funny reason i never tke them seriously i never even giv them the time or day to prove themselvez, because they r all the same, they use the same pick up lines, say erthng to mke me feel good bout masef,, and i hate it.This guy was seriously diff he has a goal and is really focused in life, he dsnt try to flatter me and all he was jst to real 4 comfort and and i started to get attracted to him, i forgot to add that hes a very funny and down to earth person,erthng that ive alway wantd in a man. A call from him could sen shiverz down ma spine,love reading hes messgz, and we chat all the time(via our Cell fonez). When we started to get close he told me that he was in a serious relationship that lasted 5yrs and was heading towards the marriage line, but the girl cheated on him with sme1 he said wasnt even up to him facially, Body Structure wise, intellectually and so one it was only because the gut was the X-presidentz son( i knw ba that was xtremly mean of her). They really shared alot of memories and the sad thng bout this is that he can't seem to get ova her. He still has her pix on his laptop, their pic is hes wallpaper on his phone, they is this large portrait of both of them, in his lounge(parlour), her pix are erwhere in hes room.

I must admit its totally painful esp now that ive fallen for him, i can't seem to get him out of ma head,i also noticed that ever since hes break up he dsnt go out much he dsnt even av alot of frnds because hes alwayz indoors feelin sad and depressed, but when eva hes around me hes lively and dsnt even look sad @ all, it cud be an act not to let me feel bad. The problem is that ,till he learnz to love again i don't think i av a chance with him even though we hang out alot, hes even asked me to av a relationship with him but i can't afford to share he's feeling because it lookz like hes not ready to let go of the feelnz he has for hes ex.I recently sent him a messg that i can't see him n.emre because i don't want to fall to deep in love with him( that was ystday)

Nairalanders please help me wot do u think i sud do.Sud i Wait 4 him to get ova hes ex which might tke foreva and tke bac wot i said to him ysday because i really av being battling in ma head about it, or jst let him go and move one with ma life,

im a girl that gets alot of advances from men

Just so you know, every outgoing/loose young girl gets a lot of advances from men. Once you grow older, it will stop.

Seun:

Just so you know, every outgoing/loose young girl gets a lot of advances from men. Once you grow older, it will stop.

u are always very harsh with ur replies thats not what she asked you to comment on but advice her.

@poster
i think the best way to go about it is sit down the guy and talk to him, find out what he really wants from you maybe. from his words u can detect whether he is just after getting a revenge at the women folk but nevertheless u can still work it out with him. Let him understand that its Gods work that it happened now not after marriage. if u into him tell him its not a bad thing to do. but its all ur choice anyway.be cool

@ Poster
The guy is still very much in love wit the other girl, & i don't think ur presence in his life has made much/any difference. Perhaps he needs a companion in u.

Don't even think of having a relationship with him at this stage, 'cos believe me, he hasn't noticed u yet, although might be around u often. U have enough answers already, wit the ex's pix still all over the place & all. And mind u, u don't have to be the most beautiful girl in the world to be noticed, especially by this guy.(in answer to ur first two lines)

Be wise, or u'lld be surprised that the same person that swore never to get back his 'ex, will one day tell u, they are back together. 5 years is no joke.

jkpretty:

@ Poster
The guy is still very much in love wit the other girl, & i don't think your presence in his life has made much/any difference. Perhaps he needs a companion in u.

Don't even think of having a relationship with him at this stage, 'because believe me, he hasn't noticed u yet, although might be around u often. You have enough answers already, wit the ex's pix still all over the place & all. And mind u, u don't have to be the most beautiful girl in the world to be noticed, especially by this guy.(in answer to your first two lines)

Be wise, or u'lld be surprised that the same person that swore never to get back his 'ex, will one day tell u, they are back together. 5 years is no joke.

word!

jkpretty:

@ Poster
The guy is still very much in love wit the other girl, & i don't think your presence in his life has made much/any difference. Perhaps he needs a companion in u.

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Is not ONLY the matter of not adding difference in his life.
Firstly, For i must admit that things are hard on him at this time, And for him to forget passed memories Is by keeping you closed,thats why he asked you out the 1st place, And when things started moving on fine (ur relationship with him), He'd starts removing all his ex pic from the house and from his phone trying to move on and do something he enjoys and if u know any, try to fill in the space for him,
But since u turn down that offer of being his girl friend there is NO way he can afford to erase those memory.
Sorry about the subject "Can I Help Him Fall In Love Again?" is not about u helping him fall in love, is about u respecting the same feeling u have fall him.
So go ahead and have that spledid relationship b4 u know it things would move on just fine, Yours

but the girl cheated on him with sme1 he said wasnt even up to him facially, Body Structure wise, intellectually and so one it was only because the gut was the X-presidentz son( i knw ba that was xtremly mean of her).
pls which of the ex-president?
is it Obasanjo?lol

u said u like him and he gave u an opportunity to show it but u refused.

Hi Rhema,

I so much believe this other (ex girl) has done a lot to have made him so sick to leave her. I’ve been there……, Remember all you need is just to be better than this other girl. Try to find out what he really likes in a girl, try to know what makes him happy, only that way will you win his heart.

Remember that you are beginning to love him. What happened or is happening to him might soon befall you. Believe me, once you leave him, you will regret it.

I will not advice you to leave him but I will only tell u to prove to him that his ex girl is not the best he can get.

@ poster
ur mail is just too long.

Thnx guyz i really appreciate ur replies and guess wot i took ur advicez, i av chosen to be mre of a frnd to him than a girlfrnd, who knwz thngz may jst get better, thnx again and for y'all the advicez where totally cool, u guyz r the best expect mr 4rm me, L8r

u're welcome.

i believes all this words are great if only you take them very carmly

jkpretty:

@ Poster
The guy is still very much in love wit the other girl, & i don't think your presence in his life has made much/any difference. Perhaps he needs a companion in u.

Don't even think of having a relationship with him at this stage, 'because believe me, he hasn't noticed u yet, although might be around u often. You have enough answers already, wit the ex's pix still all over the place & all. And mind u, u don't have to be the most beautiful girl in the world to be noticed, especially by this guy.(in answer to your first two lines)

Be wise, or u'lld be surprised that the same person that swore never to get back his 'ex, will one day tell u, they are back together. 5 years is no joke.

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