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What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Charlesbro: 4:12pm On May 27, 2012
What's wrong with being picky?
Can someone ever be too picky when it comes to something as important as a relationship?

I've never been married. I've dated regularly and have been in one relationship that lasted three years. That's long for me. I would love to settle down and get married, yet I can't seem to find someone who truly fits my relationship requirements. My mom and some of my friends think I'm too picky and that I should just settle down because I'm "getting old."
Can someone ever be too picky when it comes to something as important as a relationship? Should I give up on what I'm seeking and just settle? I'm wondering if perhaps my mom is right -- I'm not getting any younger. I just don't want to make a mistake by giving up on what I want. Any thoughts on what I might do? sad
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Rocktation(f): 8:47pm On May 27, 2012
Isn't it peculiar to the best of us? Our penchant for finding Mr. and Mrs. Perfect? You're not in the wrong but then again, you know what they say about doing too much of everything. Just look to reduce your selection touchstones, and accept that full packages don't always come on trenchers. You can't go wrong in that. You won't go wrong in that. Good luck.
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by slimyem: 9:10pm On May 27, 2012
nothing wrog with being picky but somethings wrong with being too picky.
Your standards should not be too overrated or beyond the ordinary.
There is nothing wrong in desiring certain qualities/standards in a partner...but there is fantasy/dream land and then there is reality.
Just know where to draw the line between the two.cheesy
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Mynd44: 10:42pm On May 27, 2012
Being picky is all right as long as you don't set unrealistic parameters
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by pendo89(f): 10:59pm On May 27, 2012
Mynd_44: Being picky is all right as long as you don't set unrealistic parameters
true.
By the way I realised that one it's not easy to find that one person that fits our expectation.Look within yourself and you will see ur shortcomings.
But there are certain standards one may not necessarily have to compromise on. These ones are not physical but behavioural.
For instance.I dislike people who disrespect women so much and have vile tongues but when they approach you they forget that you are one.
They change their attitude and talk immediately they meet you.
Those ones I don't spare time for because I know it's only a matter of time before they start disrespecting me.
If that is a high standard,I will never let go of it.
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Mynd44: 1:09am On May 28, 2012
pendo89:
true.
By the way I realised that one it's not easy to find that one person that fits our expectation.Look within yourself and you will see ur shortcomings.
But there are certain standards one may not necessarily have to compromise on. These ones are not physical but behavioural.
For instance.I dislike people who disrespect women so much and have vile tongues but when they approach you they forget that you are one.
They change their attitude and talk immediately they meet you.
Those ones I don't spare time for because I know it's only a matter of time before they start disrespecting me.
If that is a high standard,I will never let go of it.
yup
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Nobody: 1:38am On May 28, 2012
Don't mind the "getting old" talk. Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with is the one thing you should be picky about. Like Mynd_44 said, however, the parameters must be realistic. I used to have high expectations in guys, but I eventually realized it was unfair as I'm not perfect myself. I would never just settle. Your mother is already married (I'm assuming). The best she can do is advise you when you have a guy friend in mind.

Note: the people who become our Mr. Rights and Mrs. Rights are almost never who we imagine, so be open-minded.

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Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Mynd44: 2:40am On May 28, 2012
ogugua88: Don't mind the "getting old" talk. Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with is the one thing you should be picky about. Like Mynd_44 said, however, the parameters must be realistic. I used to have high expectations in guys, but I eventually realized it was unfair as I'm not perfect myself. I would never just settle. Your mother is already married (I'm assuming). The best she can do is advise you when you have a guy friend in mind.

Note: the people who become our Mr. Rights and Mrs. Rights are almost never who we imagine, so be open-minded.
Now it takes a matured mind to say that. The problem with most people is "inflated expectation" they watch/read fantasies and they get brainwashed into thinking it is real and applicable to the real world.

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Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Nobody: 5:21am On May 28, 2012
Mynd_44: Now it takes a matured mind to say that. The problem with most people is "inflated expectation" they watch/read fantasies and they get brainwashed into thinking it is real and applicable to the real world.

You can't blame them though. Orlando Bloom and the like are quite mesmerizing lol.
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Rocktation(f): 8:32am On May 28, 2012
^^Exactly. And the people who marry them, are never ten-headed. smiley
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by fubbyy(m): 8:35am On May 28, 2012
@ poster, your I.d didn't specify if you are a man or woman and you didn't mention that in your post, so I don't know what to say, if you are a man,you can be picky to the last extent(its a man's world)but if you are a woman..hmmm
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by maclatunji: 9:47am On May 28, 2012
'Pickiness' reduces your chances of getting hitched soon but it increases the chances of you picking a compatible person as your spouse- this will be true if you have clearly defined and realistic parameters you want the other party to match.
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Mynd44: 10:04am On May 28, 2012
Rocktation: ^^Exactly. And the people who marry them, are never ten-headed. smiley
but there are not many "Orlando Blooms" around na
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by mykali(m): 10:13am On May 28, 2012
i am also picky. hardly stay in a relationship for more than a year. 3 years you stayed in one shows you are not too picky

there is nothing wrong in wanting the best for yourself...but you can never find a perfect partner
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Rocktation(f): 10:22am On May 28, 2012
Mynd_44:
but there are not many "Orlando Blooms" around na

Yeah, but the not-so-many are open to everyone that's willing to take a shot at finding them. Who knows who the prize winners will be? Lol.
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by richy5(m): 10:34am On May 28, 2012
I like banana chewgum dan sisipelebe..Nothing bad2 b a picky type but only 40% fall nd get d type dey wish for there life..Well me i lyk slimyem
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by tellwisdom: 10:45am On May 28, 2012
Guy, wetin u dey pick?
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by richy5(m): 10:59am On May 28, 2012
tellwisdom: Guy, wetin u dey pick?
dick
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Mynd44: 11:01am On May 28, 2012
Rocktation:

Yeah, but the not-so-many are open to everyone that's willing to take a shot at finding them. Who knows who the prize winners will be? Lol.
Which brings us to the problem that started this thread
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by tellwisdom: 12:09pm On May 28, 2012
@richy:
dick
sexyshitz, u again
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by MissyB3(f): 12:25pm On May 28, 2012
If I'm going to entrust my life to someone and spend the best part of it with him w/out fear of any evil, I'd say there's need to be picky. Not everybody should be qualified.

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Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Rocktation(f): 12:32pm On May 28, 2012
Mynd, you are so predictable and impossible as well cheesy
Re: What's Wrong With Being Picky? by Mynd44: 12:36pm On May 28, 2012
Rocktation: Mynd, you are so predictable and impossible as well cheesy
I win
*doing his victory dance*

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