i am so much pain right now emotionally,have cried so much and have got a strong personality so you can imagine how much this affects me.have been dating this guy for three months and every thing has been going smoothly, well apart from knowing he flirts with girls(which every guy does) nd he never brought it around me.
then suddenly a few days ago he told me he was engaged(ring involved)to another person,he was already before we started dating, he did not know he was going to have feelings for me and he has been living with guilt,blaalaalaaa....and all dt bullshit...am so in love with him cause am a career lady, dont have time for casual dating and all....am a go-getter too.should i fight for what i feel and build on the feelings he has for me and hope he breaks up or i should just let go (which is not easy......i love him beyond words!!!)

*sighs*
i'm wondering how you didnt see the signs.na wa o
I don't even know what more to tell you now.
He's not meant to be yours babe.let him go!
It aint gon be easy but do it anyways.

sorry girl, from what you've said, he's intentions were to string you along and possibly have one last fling before exchanging the vows but he now has "feelings". I use the words feelings lightly because if you do decide to fight for him, chances are you might win however bear in mind that when he puts a ring on you, there just might be another girl who he'll start casually with again and perhaps develop "feelings" for her.....then what happens to you? would you rather know now that you've only lost 3 months to a nonentity that years?? the choice is yours to make.

Madam move on. The feelings he has for you is crocodile in nature. He only pretended to love you in order to have a piece of you. Btw, how many times did he shine the Congo?

Control ur feelings woman! dumping d fiance for u is no option dearie!

Karma is biatch! face ur fears and move on! Its a lot easier dat way.

Op, put ursef in ur bf fiancee's shoe. hw wud u feel is ur fiance wake's up one day n cancel d. engagmnt? Dnt boda 2fight because its a wrong fight.

I kno it hurt, try to disengage ursef frm him. Dis i kno is nt gonna b easy. U made up ur mind 2luv him, u can also make up ur mind 2do odawise.
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The OP got what she deserved jorh. He flirted around and you said which man doesn't are you dumb or what? I will always say that if you allow yourself to be taken for a f00l then, you are one.

Babe now u know its time to fall out of love. *Punked*

This is sad Op but like it has been said already, as hard as it is u have to move on. This guy is soo not worth d trouble. He'll get what's due him in front.

Luvie, he's an animal, and he's not planning on leaving that girl for you. His guilty conscience is pricking him, which is why he told you, and if you agree to continue, he's keep sleeping with you till two weeks to wedding (my ex's friend did this to a lot of girls, while he was collecting his aso-ebi, heck he invited some to the wedding, for the ones who refused to believe he wouldn't leave his fiancee for them, their eyes cleared sharp). This man who deceived you is an animal, and you don't wanna marry a cheat. My cousin is like this, first wife vex divorce, 2nd wife hustled to get him, he cheated to such a crazy level, I moved out of their house, lest she accused me of sleeping with my cousin (he never hides his cheating, and I was worried she'd come home and discover CD and slap me, wild-eyed in anger).
Be glad God has shown you the devil to avoid.
A cheat is a weak, selfish man and will only change with God. That change is rare. Ask my sister. I've given you 3 examples, make your choice. You're an adult.

natasha: sorry girl, from what you've said, he's intentions were to string you along and possibly have one last fling before exchanging the vows but he now has "feelings". I use the words feelings lightly because if you do decide to fight for him, chances are you might win however bear in mind that when he puts a ring on you, there just might be another girl who he'll start casually with again and perhaps develop "feelings" for her.....then what happens to you? would you rather know now that you've only lost 3 months to a nonentity that years?? the choice is yours to make.

I totally agree with you. OP shine your eyes!

Nothing in this world happen by accident, so follow your mind. Meeting the guy, falling in love with the guy and the guy reciprocating the love was not an accident. Whats going to happen between you two tomorrow is not going to be an accident as well.

So, live your life the way you see it...fight for the guy if thats what you want. If its destined for you guys to be together, it will be.

However, be prepared to deal fully with whatever happen afterwards positive or negative).

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