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Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Tgirl4real(f): 4:39pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
I kinda like enigmatic people cos i get bored easily. So, I see it as something to unravel. However, I doubt if I can date such a person. I prefer when someone is straight forward and easy to study. I prefer someone I can easily understand. But we see many go into relationships, eventually marriage without understanding their spouses. Some men find it difficult to open up. They would rather keep things to themselves leaving their wives confused. So, which would you prefer? |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by ronkebp(f): 5:04pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
I prefer a 'straight forward' guy and someone i can easily understand, i don't have time trying to understand anybody....especially in a relationship...biko!!! ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 6:08pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite. ![]() Women claim they like straight-forward, honest guys but once the guy starts telling them the truth or starts being honest, they start complaining and accusing the man of being too emotional or too harsh or too insensitive. The truth is, ladies love to be lied to. They keep fantasies in their heads and minds and they usually seek men who will fulfill those fantasies even though those men are liars and posers. I stopped being completely honest with ladies many years ago. These days, I just tell them whatever it is they want to hear. Makes everybody happy. ![]() My typical convos with a girl I just met a few weeks ago: Girl : "Where are you?" Me: "At home, thinking about you" (what I am actually thinking: "Eating dinner at another girl's place" ) Girl : "Do you love me?" Me: "Yes dear" (what I am actually thinking: "Are you crazy? We just met" ) Girl: "I want to have your babies" Me: "Sure" (what I am actually thinking: "God forbid bad thing" ) Girl: "I want a princess wedding in Paris and a blue box from Tiffany's (2 carats VVS minimum)." Me: "Baby, we can make that happen if you like, no problem" (what I am actually thinking: "Oloriburuku onigbese! You and your family barely have a pot to piss in and you're dreaming of Paris wedding!" ) 31 Likes |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by ronkebp(f): 6:24pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
^^^^^yeah only because you meet loosers and not real women... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I do not have time for long thing.....if i am feeling you at the moment you will know...if i am not...you will also know...i do not have time for pretence.... 3 Likes |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 6:42pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
ronkebp: ^^^^^yeah only because you meet loosers and not real women... Ronke you are married! You are thinking like a married woman! You really need to meet more of these single Nigerian ladies in the diaspora! They form grown and matured in church and to other ladies but in private, they throw all caution to the wind when they meet correct bobo! Desperation and insecurity does horrible things to otherwise great ladies (they start seeking confirmations of love as soon as they decide the man is a keeper). Of course, the guys will say anything to gain access. ![]() But I only gave a romance example because I have never being married (btw, it wasn't the same girl that said all those things. It was different girls). However, almost all my close friends are married and they lie to their wives all the time to keep peace (I am pretty sure the wives catch some of those lies, but they seem to accept and like things this way.) We go out for drinks after work and they tell their wives they are still are work. They grossly inflate their work titles and work responsibilities. They withhold material facts about their past (e.g. educational accomplishments) and never tell their wives they slept with half the ladies in church before marriage. I could go on and on. Their wives are not complaining; they mistake silence for enigma and fetishize a man with secrets. Works for both parties. 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Nobody: 6:49pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
Sista Tgirl4real would you really marry a man that you didnt fully know/understood? although there is nothing wrong with it, it is a dangerous stand......especially if what you discover is against your beliefs. also, dont you think that there are issues where it is ok to be enigmatic (non important ones), and others where it is OUT OF THE QUESTION?! |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by ronkebp(f): 6:55pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
Moremi dear, i was single here in the States before i got married, i met my hubby here, my marraige is not even up to 3 years yet...and i have mingled with ladies that know their worth and respect themselves. Maybe i do not attract nonsense people as friends that is why i find it hard to believe that some women are like that. We have gullible ones' and i have had very few friends that are just foolishly gullible and their arses had been dumped severally by the men in their lives... What i can't stand is for one to be pretending, for who kwanu ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 7:04pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
ronkebp: Moremi dear, i was single here in the States before i got married, i met my hubby here, my marraige is not even up to 3 years yet...and i have mingled with ladies that know their worth and respect themselves. Maybe i do not attract nonsense people as friends that is why i find it hard to believe that some women are like that. We have gullible ones' and i have had very few friends that are just foolishly gullible and their arses had been dumped severally by the men in their lives... Hahaha! Thank God not all ladies are like you. Otherwise, awon boys go suffer for town. Madam strict-strict! Sha take-am easy. ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by ronkebp(f): 7:16pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
moremi2008: Naaaa!!! i am not strict, very emotional though, but i know what i want in a man...no time for dilly-dallying...i go for what i want... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Nobody: 7:39pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
moremi2008: All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite. Small boy, small girl romance. Still playing games at what age, moremi? ![]() ![]() ![]() @topic Don't care as far as he's not a noisemaker or one of those Nigerian men that razz up the whole place in a bid to be real. 3 Likes |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Tgirl4real(f): 11:06pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
moremi2008: All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite. Sincerely Moremi, I feel like strangling u right now. I'm sure datz d second tym I will be saying that to u. Be careful not to cone near me o . . . ![]() ![]() ![]() U got me ROFLOL. People around me are wondering was up. Hehehehe Btw, Ronke, which wan be Ronke dear, Moremi darling ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 11:12pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
stillwater: Hahahaha! You can't have a serious big-boy relationship with every lady you mess around with. Some women are just not marriage-quality so you date them for a while and keep it moving. Still searching for the right one! When I find her, my player days will be over. ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Tgirl4real(f): 11:15pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
MRbrownJAY: Sista Tgirl4real Sir, read the post well. I prefer a straightforward and sincere person. I don't like going in circles trying to unravel the mystery around the guy when he can easily open up. The post is not about me though. MRbrownJAY: also, dont you think that there are issues where it is ok to be enigmatic (non important ones), and others where it is OUT OF THE QUESTION?! Yea, I agree. But moi is a naturally inquisitive person. I like to know which sometimes land me into trouble. ![]() With my hubby sha, I have learnt to allow some things fly, esp. things about his biz and money. |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Tgirl4real(f): 1:55pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
Thinking of things, I don't think I can stand an enigmatic guy. U berra be open n straight forward. I don't want no surprises. |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Nobody: 2:27pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
Straight forward spouse... |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by ronkebp(f): 2:36pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
^^^^ Hey you....where have you been.....? ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Faithlovewinner: 3:13pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
Straight forward guy pls |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by slimyem: 3:28pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
i've seen enigmatic and i've seen straight forward. Straight-forward is boring but easy.. Enigmatic is exicting but works hand in hand with head and heart aches! ....a little of both won't be a bad idea as long as it balances out. ![]() ....i hate boring and aches,i love exicting and easy.......my hands are up! ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Tgirl4real(f): 3:35pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
slimyem: i've seen enigmatic and i've seen straight forward. Indeed! ![]() ![]() ![]() Ur hands are tied girl. ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Tgirl4real(f): 3:36pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
I don't want head n heart ache. Predictable is better. ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by redcliff: 3:56pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
moremi2008: All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite. But come to think of it, this bros is actually right. See the thing is, girls/women like enigmatic men and also like straightforward men too but the thing is that u can't have it all. But they want to. The are so full of greed. Once u start openingup to them, they'l see you finish but when u r not open with them, they want to understand, at the begining its interesting to them, later when they find out that their fish brain cannot comprehend, they start becoming afraid and looking for exit strategies cos at that point you become a stranger to them and they don't know what you are capable of. Truly,really....they don't know what they want.. 1 Like
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Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by koolJ1(f): 4:18pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
He'd berra be straightforward cuz I'm already enigmatic. Can't have two enigmas ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by y2kaustin(m): 4:28pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
ronkebp: Moremi dear, i was single here in the States before i got married, i met my hubby here, my marraige is not even up to 3 years yet...and i have mingled with ladies that know their worth and respect themselves. Maybe i do not attract nonsense people as friends that is why i find it hard to believe that some women are like that. We have gullible ones' and i have had very few friends that are just foolishly gullible and their arses had been dumped severally by the men in their lives.......Am sensing,arrogancy..Just my 1cent. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by nnacent(m): 4:31pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
moremi2008: All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite.my broda, u don knw dem finish. I cudnt have said it better. Though i have decided nt 2 make ladies change my person(straight foward), but guy u no go envy me at all, they jst avoid me like hell upon how hansome i am. God knws wen i go c who 2 marry evn at 29. Sha! I no send 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by ronkebp(f): 4:36pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
y2kaustin: ....Am sensing,arrogancy..Just my 1cent. How ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Nobody: 5:16pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
straight foward spouse,iced wiv a little bit enigma... I think dat wil do d magic 4 me |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Yorisb: 5:58pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
moremi2008: All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite. PMSL! Lawd! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Nobody: 7:25pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
Staight forward one but with a creative, adventurous spirit and open mind. |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by Audrie(f): 7:35pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
Everyone, both male and female would like a unique combination of a spouse who is both enigmatic and straight forward. Now, this combo is not so easy to find but there are exceptions... |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by xpensive05: 11:13pm On Jun 23, 2012 |
Being straight forward wit a grl mkes everytin borin bt whn u re enigmatic it gets dem excited n wnt 2 knw wht u re up2.... |
Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by 9zeros(m): 8:38am On Jun 24, 2012 |
moremi2008: All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite.extremely smart. |
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