kay9: @OP, u said u wana love again (as opposed to being loved). Well, for a woman, thats easy as pie. Find someone u like and respect - oh, u already have one, good - and get him to give you a shot of his best. Get him to jump your bones, no strings attached, again and again and again. He may not love u for it, but i guarantee u will love him after that.

Why did you people gloss over this? Looks like a viable solution to me o.

Can u date me if u dunt mind

sexkillz: You cannot change the past, but you can as hell influence the future. In solving your predicament, you have to break up with your current boyfriend, cos believe me, you are never ever going to love him. Why is because he came into your life when you were looking for succour, looking for comfort. At a time when you were desperately trying to forget the former. You were so shrouded in denial or whatever it is, that you really did not have time to study this current guy to see if he is who you really want. And that is why, even after 3 years, you are still in square one! Not your fault, since it's natural for all emotionally heartbroken humans. You may like him and respect him, but love is what you need to finally heal the scars that were caused by your first love, and since this guy is not giving you the love you need, or should i say, the love he gives you is not enough to make you heal and whole again, pls leave him! For with him, you are taking one step forward, and two steps backward, and you and i know how catastrophic that would be to your ministry. . .

When you've done that, you have to completely forget the first guy from 3 years ago. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you control your emotions and hence, you'll never allow your emotions control you. Cry if you have to, smash things if you have to, scream to the high heavens if you want, but make sure you let him OUT of your system. Severe all ties if any. Stop asking his whereabouts if you used to, just EX HIM FINALLY!!!

Now the most important part is yourself. Let go of your pride. Let go of that bullshit "miss independent" mentality that permeates the minds of most ladies to day. You have been independent, but now you realize that you actually need someone to depend on, for love! So what does that tell you? Let go of your pride, and not of your values. Meet new guys and see them for who they are. Never ever compare Another man to your ex. Even if you notice some similarities, never come to a conclusion, since it will obviously be biased. You may at this point, reconsider this present guy. Study him again and see if he meets your new requirements. If he doesn't, jog on.

Make sure you rediscover yourself and let go of your hurt before you re open your heart. Less i forget, never tell a new guy about how bad your ex hurt you or blah. That will only make him hide his personality, he'll work with the info you have fed him and will try to be the man your ex never was, so that you now see him as your knight in shiny armour. . . . Don't delay the movement of your ministry to the permanent site.

Let me give you an example. . . If you are too weak to cook and i cook for you, too weak to eat, and i feed you, will you also be too weak to swallow?
You have to make an effort and play your part well. Take yourself back to when your heart was free, rediscover yourself, fall in love, and then live your life!!!

....and they lived happily ever after. The End.

Godmother: I dnt know what is wrong with me. I find it hard to fall inlove. The last time I loved a guy was 3 years ago. He hurt me badly n I haven't been able to love again.

I have a bf now whom I like and respect but I dnt love him as much as I have tried to. Its like my ability to fall inlove dried up with that guy 3 years ago.

Its making me lonely and scared. Need advice pls people. I'm thinking of letting this guy go cos I dnt think I'm being fair to him.

Mature responses needed pls

summary
new bobo is not nyanshing her rite, she misses d old koboko,
men dat koboko must have made an impression even after 3yrs

D last time I fell head over bum bum...I came awt wid a stretcher. I rather u build d love life u ® looking for. It takes patience π time. I gat a huge collection of books u can read...eg, 5 L♥√ع languages for singles, why u act d way u do,men aя̩̥̊ε from Mars women aя̩̥̊ε from Venus, etc.
Ciao.

Why do people quote the original post? We all read it! And secondly, why are people quoting sexkillz's long but interesting post too.. Y'all are making the thread tiring ..

Just address the damn issue\poster

@Poster...
I used to be like you... My experience was worst. I was abused, used, cheated upon and finally, dumped!
Vowed never to fall into the web of love again.
Wanted to hurt every man, played games, broke gentle hearts, But i did fall again, It was a serious battle btw myself n Mr. Cupid, but i lost dat fight. Today im d happiest gurl alive.
So, just give it time, don't stress it, Love will find you.

StateOfMind: Why do people quote the original post? We all read it! And secondly, why are people quoting sexkillz's long but interesting post too.. Y'all are making the thread tiring ..

Just address the damn issue\poster

i dont understand, pls can u explain

Agree with Killz to an extent on his Summary.
Dont feel she needs to break up with Mr Current to forget Mr Ex.
Given his caring, supportive nature despite her " issues"
Yes, she may need some space..... but why go hurting another
Continues a chain of broken hearts.

For others, who feel good se.x Is the answer: u all need to stop generalizing n
understand women better.

.

doe-eyed:


Agree with Killz to an extent on his Summary.
Dont feel she needs to break up with Mr Current to forget Mr Ex.
Given his caring, supportive nature despite her " issues"
Yes, she may need some space..... but why go hurting another
Continues a chain of broken hearts.

For others, who feel good se.x Is the answer: u all need to stop generalizing n
understand women better.

.

Sexkillz's summary or thesis

Lets cut him some slack.
He's got his Dr Phil hat on!!!

Hi,

I will advice you not love for now, but like until you get married, you can now love the guy so much.

like you stop spending naira cos someone gave you a fake note....you are finding it difficult to fall in love again cos you want to re- enact the same feelings you had with your ex...it will never happen. its in the past and there it belongs...love is out there...it will find you when it will....dont force it but do get a life....make new friends....get a breath of fresh air (not the gej type ooo) and flow you wou will be in it and with it before you know it. a warning though not many people like being hooked up to a lady still crying over her ex...

sexkillz: You cannot change the past, but you can as hell influence the future. In solving your predicament, you have to break up with your current boyfriend, cos believe me, you are never ever going to love him. Why is because he came into your life when you were looking for succour, looking for comfort. At a time when you were desperately trying to forget the former. You were so shrouded in denial or whatever it is, that you really did not have time to study this current guy to see if he is who you really want. And that is why, even after 3 years, you are still in square one! Not your fault, since it's natural for all emotionally heartbroken humans. You may like him and respect him, but love is what you need to finally heal the scars that were caused by your first love, and since this guy is not giving you the love you need, or should i say, the love he gives you is not enough to make you heal and whole again, pls leave him! For with him, you are taking one step forward, and two steps backward, and you and i know how catastrophic that would be to your ministry. . .

When you've done that, you have to completely forget the first guy from 3 years ago. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you control your emotions and hence, you'll never allow your emotions control you. Cry if you have to, smash things if you have to, scream to the high heavens if you want, but make sure you let him OUT of your system. Severe all ties if any. Stop asking his whereabouts if you used to, just EX HIM FINALLY!!!

Now the most important part is yourself. Let go of your pride. Let go of that bullshit "miss independent" mentality that permeates the minds of most ladies to day. You have been independent, but now you realize that you actually need someone to depend on, for love! So what does that tell you? Let go of your pride, and not of your values. Meet new guys and see them for who they are. Never ever compare Another man to your ex. Even if you notice some similarities, never come to a conclusion, since it will obviously be biased. You may at this point, reconsider this present guy. Study him again and see if he meets your new requirements. If he doesn't, jog on.

Make sure you rediscover yourself and let go of your hurt before you re open your heart. Less i forget, never tell a new guy about how bad your ex hurt you or blah. That will only make him hide his personality, he'll work with the info you have fed him and will try to be the man your ex never was, so that you now see him as your knight in shiny armour. . . . Don't delay the movement of your ministry to the permanent site.

Let me give you an example. . . If you are too weak to cook and i cook for you, too weak to eat, and i feed you, will you also be too weak to swallow?
You have to make an effort and play your part well. Take yourself back to when your heart was free, rediscover yourself, fall in love, and then live your life!!!

Yawnssssss...ds ur article dy make sleep catch me

190_@:
Godmother im afraid you can never love again

BAD ADVISER, she cud be loved u kno n luv is infectious

Please, what is a BOYFRIEND?

A boy who is your friend or a boy who you need to fork you?
And when he is done forking you, he gets bored and tired of you and moves on to greener pastures?

Don't mistake your fork-buddy for a boyfriend.
Then you will find true love and not lust.

CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING

@O.D.B, @LIFESTYLE, @TUNAPAWIZZY
group of copycats,photocopiers. why shud u ppl av to quote long post,- A NOVEL sef. una go gud for highspéed dubbing o

she likes n respect him but did'nt luv him.....seems 2 me u r confused babe...

that guy in d past only kills your interest in Love, cosz, Love in a man can neva die, so rediscover your interest n Love again.

dear,my first advise lthough mite sound absurd is to break up wt ur current boyfriend cos u are never gona love him,cos u guys met wen ur heart was broken nd its obvious u av passed agression on him, and u only accepted to date him den cos u nided company nt becos u love him.it happened to me as well in d past,i just ad to sumoun d courage to break up d relationship cos i cant continue takin advantage of d inocent guy cos d feelins i tot i was gonna develop with time wasnt comin despite d guy's kindness and love shown towards me.

the ONLY person u can love again is your husband. free ursef but be careful n dont b loose,som ladies cud not get hus cos of their 'quick falling' nature,men kno a gud wife material.u wil luv again but luv to settle down not to av fun(u kno SEX KILLS- premarital).if u had no 'intimate' relp wt him, u wudnt av felt it much.let men kno ur mind abt pre-marital/-engagement sex- u dont need it wt ur present situation,- any man who wont respect ur wish concernin dis is not fit for u. wish u d best.CHEERS!

@OP:read ur story n i felt u.my dear,av bin there.giving ones whole heart to sme1 n tht person ends up breaking it 2 splinters....but i stil blivd tht i wil find sme1 tht lovs me cos i 4 one ws able 2 "love".just open ur heart(corteously though),n b non judgemental...lov wil find u,n u wil find lov.n refering to a post abov,when getin into any rltnship,make sure d end point is mariage..k.wishing u d best of luck.

Godmother: I dnt know what is wrong with me. I find it hard to fall inlove. The last time I loved a guy was 3 years ago. He hurt me badly n I haven't been able to love again.

I have a bf now whom I like and respect but I dnt love him as much as I have tried to. Its like my ability to fall inlove dried up with that guy 3 years ago.

Its making me lonely and scared. Need advice pls people. I'm thinking of letting this guy go cos I dnt think I'm being fair to him.

Mature responses needed pls

just let it be, free your heart miss. That pain is still inside of you and you might be feeling unsecured with anyone right now. Maybe you still think that they will still do like the other ones.

wola44: Hi,

I will advice you not love for now, but like until you get married, you can now love the guy so much.

Why will she marry someone she don't love? Not fair at all.

kristofa09: @OP:read ur story n i felt u.my dear,av bin there.giving ones whole heart to sme1 n tht person ends up breaking it 2 splinters....but i stil blivd tht i wil find sme1 tht lovs me cos i 4 one ws able 2 "love".just open ur heart(corteously though),n b non judgemental...lov wil find u,n u wil find lov.n refering to a post abov,when getin into any rltnship,make sure d end point is mariage..k.wishing u d best of luck.

weldone for this comment.

tunapawizzy:

Yawnssssss...ds ur article dy make sleep catch me

I tire. I don't know how come the 20 people that'liked' it managed to read the whole thing. :-/

Just leave the relationship aspect and do other things for now. Love will find sooner than you can imagine dear.

my dear ples do u'rslef a favour to forget the past and move on with u'r life

snthesis:
summary
new bobo is not nyanshing her rite, she misses d old koboko,
men dat koboko must have made an impression even after 3yrs

then she shouldn do an ultimate search for the old one nah. Life is not too difficult you know

i like this OP cos she is a good wife material, a person with dis type of attitude wil luv u wt all she has, total commitment n can go to any length to satisfy her man's desires; but if betrayed,it wud be disastrous n calamitous...they do their things to the extremes

^^
Seems like you are interested dude