Hello Nairalander,

I have a friend and she is into a relationship for about five years now, actually the relationship have not being going fine because the girl said she didnt love the guy, I tols her to leave the guy but she said she can't because the guy made her swear that she will marry him. finally she want to drop the guy but she is afraid of what will happen to her, and she even tell the guy that she didnt love him but the guy said even if she didnt love him she will marry her because he love her. And i don't think the marriage will work because the girl didnt love the guy and i think it will not be a happy home.

please she need some advise please

kindly help out.

I am always peplexed when I read people saying they don't love someone and therefore can't be with that person. This is traversity of emotional judgement.

What is love? Isn't love supposed to be a verb? Does nouns and verbs mean the same? Weren't verbs supposed to be action words? That is to act? If you don't love someone, definitely you must him.

For being with someone over five years, then love must be there. But the desire to marry due to some factors may not be there. Marriage is not just about love. You can as well love a brute who hit you regularly.

If you know that the elements of successful marriage are absent, then look elsewhere and stop collecting his money. But if it is just about this feeling that are often motivated by the masks on people's faces, then you are missing a point.