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Politics / Re: Nairaland On 'Keeping It Real With Adeola' And Punch by Abali1(m): 8:11am On Mar 10, 2013 |
One day one of my thread will get the attention of someone higher up, and something positive may come out it. Am happy to be associated with NL, since 2008. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 4:31am On Mar 09, 2013 |
@Unicorn22, We don't call ourselves Warriors because we want to boast or feel important. But we call ourselves Warriors, because after all the Trials and Tribulations we come out smiling. Sometimes those that Jilted you because you are SS will see you in the future, say 5 0r 6 years down the line, and they get shocked because you are still standing and even doing better than the last time the saw you. The topic of this thread is MARRIAGE AND THE SICKLE CELL DISEASE. I purposely chose it, because I want to pass across a message to people out there. Of course it takes more than Love to go into a marriage relationship with a SS. IT TAKES HEALTHY DOSE OF FAITH and being able to look beyond the physical. I have had relationships were the girl tells me that "I am everything she ever wanted in a man......BUT", once it gets to that "but" I smile and tell her...."I understand". Then I move on. It is not easy, but I know that I am more of an assets than a liability to that BOLD AND COURAGEOUS LADY who will stand by myside and be counted. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 5:52pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
amarush: Smh at all this misdiagnosis. Same thing with my husband, two tests in Nigeria both results AA. Husband was tested in the UK at the insistance of the hospital after I got pregnant and I tested AS. Husband result came back AS. Anyway we have to beautiful children, first born AA, second AS. Both pregnancies opted to have CVS, a procedure where a needle is inserted through your stomach to extract amniotic fluid to test for SS in the babies. 2 week wait for the results, the longest two weeks of my life. This thread is all about sharing experiences, gaining knowledge about SCD, creating awareness and I can now add letting the public know that it is not enough to visit just any laboratory for the purpose of Genotype testing. Please, ensure that you at least get yourself tested once in a Teaching Hospital or a Lab that sometimes send their samples to the teaching hospital for testing. The future of your unborn child is very important, do your best to protect it. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 10:57am On Mar 08, 2013 |
palmasglobal: My dear, do yourself and family a favour and go to A Teaching Hospital to conduct and genotype test. Most road side Laboratories do not have the equipment to differentiate differences in Genetic Make up... If it turns out that ur child is SS, please do her a favour by keeping yourself updated in the treatment and management of SS person. Thank You. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 7:59pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
3215 views, guys we need more responces. Don't shy away from the topic. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 7:55pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
uhuns: 1. guys pls stop quoting long post. In addition to what you said above, I will advice that people should have themselves tested at least once in a teaching hospital. PLEASE IT IS NECESSARY. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 7:52pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
Ladapo: I have heard of AC, cos my family doctor was the first to diagnose me as SC. Most private Lab I have had my test in, always return the result as SS. But after the AA incident above, my blood sample was sent to a Teaching Hospital and it came back as SC. I believe SD, SC, Sickle Beta etc are all milder forms of Sickle Cell Disease. It's good that you have started educating your daughters. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 7:39pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
queen binte o: @ OP - come to facebook let's chat. All will be well ma guy Binte I just saw this. But am going there right away. |
Politics / Re: Photo Of President Jonathan In Borno With A Sword by Abali1(m): 6:00pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
NL, you guys are so funny. But take easy with GEJ, abeg naw. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 5:49pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
opeoluwa2: Well for me,I'm lucky not to be an SS because my parents never had the genotype test before marriage.Fortunately for me I am AA. It's so unfortunate that a lot of wo/men of my generation still gambles with the future of their kids. To be honest with you, I have sometimes entertained the thought of staying single for life. But I really don't think it's wise, because am an only son. Looking at my aged mum, I often feel a pang of pain knowing how much she wants me to settle down. Moreover, people who know me from afar think I like playing around with women too much that I don't even feel the urgency to settle down. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 4:44pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
eahk: Well funny thing is having SCD is not a death sentence. I'm a Doctor married to an SS ( one of the most beautiful woman in the world ) and I never knew she was cos we were friends for a long time until when we got serious and she came out to tell and it never changed a thing. And its funny when I hear people look at those with SCD as walking corpse..gosh that's so wrong, we need to change our mindset. WoW. I believe someone out there will read this thread and reconsider his or her plan of dumping that SS. Thank You Doc. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 4:31pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
deobaba: My dear, am sorry to hear about the Love you lost. But please stay focused on your marriage. I can't begin to recount the disappointment I have faced in reltionship because of this genotype issue. To make matters worse, some of my ex will want to keep the communication channel open even after getting married to someone else. But trust me, I never allow that to happen. I always say to myself "You are married, please stay married. I am not going to be a reason for distraction in your marriage". |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 4:24pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
sanb: You're welcome and I’m also learning a lot here as well. Thank you for opening this thread. It'll be nice to see others respond as well too. keep it up....Mind me asking if your research is for an MSc or PhD project? The research is not for academic purposes. I have a passion for SCD, just unfortunated that I am not science inclined. But I will use the data gathered, to help create more awareness. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 4:03pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
sanb: Thank You for taking time out to respond. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:57pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
malipalina: You are welcome, but I will appreciate it if more people will take the survey. Thank You. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:40pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
ameenahz: My dear, from your previous post you stated that your sister is 14years old. If you have gone through my other thread on SCD, you will see where I stated it clearly that the most trying times for a SS is when the person is still very young. I can tell you for free that when your younger sister hits adulthood 21 and above, the crisis will start subsiding. Why? Because by then she can sense the onset of a crisis before it finally comes, and if she is sensitive to her health she will take appropriate measures to prevent the crisis or minimize it. Thank you. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:32pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
jaidopor: I can see you are an optimistic person, keep it up. But what I said about family & friends influencing people during courtship is as Real as Real can be. Thank you bro. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:29pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
lola.luv: You can say that again. The most painful aspect is that some of us living with SCD are so shy of stigmatization that we normally shy away from discussing the topic. I AM A NORMAL HEALTHY BEING, WHY SHOULD I BE ASHAMED OF DISCUSSING SOMETHING THAT WASN'T MY FAULT IN ANY WAY. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:27pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
nwaka1: Thank you Nwaka1. But I find your response to question number 5 a bit funny. Yes with God all things are possible, but we should equally strive hard to educate ourselves in things that concern us. With a good knowledge of Sickle Cell and a good Dose of Faith, there is nothing that a SS won't achieve. And Yes, we are highly intelligent beings. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:20pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
mujiboy: Am with U bro,the thing is we are scared of death @ the long run, do pple without SCD doesn't die at tender age. Many people don't look at things from that angle. What you will likely hear is that "it is better to marry someone whom you know is healthy, than getting married to someone who may suddenly die tomorrow". Natural that is the way humans think. It has always been like that; Poor vs Rich White vs Black Tall vs Short Igbo vs Yoruba vs Hausa, and so on. It's a vicious cycle out there. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 3:16pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
jaidopor: A question for everybody, Thank you. I like your opening question. Having experienced so many reltionship break ups myself based on genotype, I think the best option is just to open up to a potential partner in the first few weeks before things get heated up. But am sorry to say that even after opening up to some people and they agree to date you irrespective of genotype, when you people must have gone far along, you see parents, siblings, and friends discouraging the person. In my case, it wasn't as if the girls do not like me, but family pressure always make them to bow out of the relationship. So this thread is about, letting Parents, Siblings, Friends and well wishers to make their position known early on in the life of their "healthy" AA kids about going into a relationship with a SS person. It's all about enlightment. Thank you, for responding. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 2:41pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
Thanks MODs. I appreciate. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 2:37pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
thanks itsModella. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 2:34pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
Olu-Emma & Ass.: Yeah, it's a big stuff for some people (SS, AS) and for some other people they don't really give a hoot. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 1:33pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
Aqva: it seems like op wants to whip up sentements for pple living.with ss. Too bad parents were ignorant back then. It's a pity for pple to suffer for ignorance sake. I wouldn't call it "whipping up sentiments". But I guess everyone sees things from his/her own perspective. Thank you. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 12:42pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
[quote author=ameenahz][/quote] *My reply was not directed at you in particular* correction made. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 12:12pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
biolabee: Front page will help with your cause but also the rif rafs and derailers will camp In I understand how NL works. But if Front Page can help get more people informed, I wouldn't mind the 'rif rafs' and derailers. This is a path I have choosen, I will do everything in my will to see that more and more people get enlightened about these beautiful and amazing people known as SICKLE CELL WARIORS. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 12:08pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
oluplus: . Thanks. I stay in Kaduna, so I'll go to a general hospital and do it again. @Abali, I read abt CVS test online, it determines the gntyp of unborn babies. But it's best done at 11th or 12th week. But now, it's almost 26th week now. I spoke wt the coy secretary and I think the cost i around 200K which is still affordable. A doctor friend said we should forget it as we can't do anything abt the result at dis stage. Oluplus, let's have Faith that your baby will be born AA/AS. Even if the worst case scenerio happens which is SS, you are better armed with information to handle the future. Like I said above, Sickle Cell is not a death sentence. For one, I am a living witness who believes that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to do, Sickle Cell or not. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 12:04pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
biolabee:Why? to me this is to get an objective view of things concerning Sickle Cell and also to get a sample opinion of people. Moreover it helps the SS people among us to prepare our minds, and also will help those AA/AS to see how people view SS people. Sickle Cell is not a Death Sentence so I don't see why I/we should get all emotional and teary eyes about the way other people see SCD. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 11:18am On Mar 07, 2013 |
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Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 11:18am On Mar 07, 2013 |
ameenahz: please don't get me wrong, my reply was not directed at you in particular. I am talking generally from the experience I have had and those of other SS I have heard about. Of course there are challenges associated with SS, but most adult SS people rarely have crisis. In fact I know of people who have gone for upwards of 2years and more, without being hospitalize. As an adult SS, you are more aware of things that will trigger off a crisis. My concern is mainly about getting those that are not SS, to stop sterotyping and stigmatizing SS people. If you know you will not be able to live with an SS person, why go into a relationship with that person in the first place? Parents, Siblings and friends out there should be able to feel free to talk about Sickle Cell and let their loved ones know where they stand in the scheme of things. It can help reduce some of the heart breaks. |
Family / Re: Marriage And The Sickle Cell Anaemia by Abali1(m): 10:33am On Mar 07, 2013 |
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