He probably wants u to have easy access to his home.

Maybe when u wanna visit and he isnt there or whatever.

What am saying is that it isnt a sure sign for anything - just take the key and even take permission before u go round sha.

Well if u believe that they are, then urs will never come to u.

Ma believe is there is one person for each person - and am definitely looking out for ma own.

We are still in the eggs, we aint even hatched yet.

No they arent.
I may be a bit harsh when i say once a person is dead, they are dead.

I would probably be paying for ma funeral expenses. I would put money aside that would pay for the funeral. I wont be letting them foot all the bill.

samanthaZA:

Hello Adeebo, it is a pleasure to 'meet' you and thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my plea for advice. Yes, you are correct and I am very grateful to have met a man like 'him', it is also quite possible that he is just being kind as he no doubt is that kind of person. I have decided to take the advice of yourself and that of other members on this site which is to just let things be as they will and to trust that my love for him will bring us together one day, but on the other hand if it does not, I will continue to love him and be grateful to know him as my love asks for nothing in return other than to merely love

Thats real nice girl.
I know how it is - the thing is that things will fall into place for sure.
Dont worry about it - i have people in ma life that are like that - they were real good to me, but when i decided to have a relationship with them, things just went haywire.

The bottom line is that there are some people that come into ur life because they are there to help u out - some are not here for relationships.

stillwater:

I think that phrase should be changed to infatuation at first sight.

Or even attraction at first sight.

Oga o.
And u took the time to notice all this - the hips, boobs etc.

What u need to do is make sure u tell her to get the heck outta ur house.
What are u doing?

This is ur home, this is ur family, what are u playing with?

Cause its just human nature to give up on chasing something when u have it in ur possession.

I feel that when u see the person, initial attraction begins - then that is what leads to love cause am sure u have to be attracted first before it turns to love abi?

whitelexi:

Life and experience has taught me that money does matter in a[b] relationship with any Nigerian girl[/b]

Many will frown and deny it but the difference is clear when u date someone from a different nationality, infact, it seems as if our girls are the only women in the entire world that one needs to spend money to keep.

As unique as it is, its got its bad side.

I find these statements deeply offensive.
It may be right or wrong i dont know but maybe its something in our culture - seems it seems that its alll Nija girls that act like that.
I feel that our men have a part in us being like these too - they usually feel that they can impress u with the money they spend. Then we have just simply been spoilt by Nija men so thats that.

Well, with every other nationality - maybe u should try the Irish girls, they are tre materialistic and trust me when you dont got - they step and their men say that too.

So i feel that painting Nija girls in this light is just tre negative.

Keep your heads up Nija girls - Nija females for life!

Wow - this made me think.
I actually dont know - will have to think hard sha.

I feel so bad for u Sam girl.

The fact of the matter is that whether he is the ideal man for u or not, u went into that relationship tooooo sooooooon.
Girl, i have to agree with the guy that posted straight after ur initial post- just cause he is available and friendly doesnt mean that its love.
It could just be that he is just truly a nice person that can go outta his way to help others.

The other thing is that the fact that 'he was in ur life' when u were with ur fiance then it is inevitable that u start 'falling in love' with him.

Like its been said, he is very principled and that is why he is staying away from u. I just pray and hope and wish more guys were like him - they would have taken advantage of u and even maybe impregnated u.

But girlie, u must be very wise.

I understand that u want things to go ahead real fast, but things will sort itself out don't worry. You will see that things will fall into place by itself - very very soon.

If u cant sort out ur issues with ur man - then u need to find someone else - someone that is neutral, that has no ties to ur ex or whatever.

Which one is the siren environment[b]?[/b]

Finance definitely matters in a relationship.

You need money to do so much - u may not have too much but you gotta have enough to do certain things like going out etc.

We were just talking about this the other day, when we watched a nollywood movie when the guy pretended to be poor to see if the girl liked him for his money or whatever. I just simply replied that God has to be on ma side to pass that test - cause omo i dont know o.

Its not like i am after a millionaire but we must be able to afford the basics now.

I just seem to agree with some guys here sha.
When they say that - girls born abroad are usually very arrogant and rude.
They feel having that passport is the way to get whatever.

Like someone rightly said, when the time comes, they will marry their red pali.

HR.hotness:

@adeboo

u would be surprised how easy it is for some women.

i have a friend who was in labour for a total of 30mins,
the baby popped out immediately we got to the hospital, she was still dressed and hadnt even laid down properly
she said she thot she was going to pass wind, the next thing there was a head sticking out between her legs,

of course being so easy for her she has decided to produce children every other yr, she has 3 now and she only just turned 25

Oga o.
When some women e.g my sister was in labour for three days.

Inside a toilet as well, what a way to start ur life.

ikamefa:

simple solution! join the church this very minute renounce your old church kia kia!

when you finally get your girl you can go back! abi?

Gbam!

And make sure that since the church will not marry u, play them at their game.

Oga o in a world where we are not even enough to spread the good news, one church turns themselves into Idiagbon's rulership.

Oga o.

Fileki:

i had a similar experience, NOPE! i dint loose my boyfriend, i lost my sister in her boyfriend's house, she slipped and fell on her tommy.(some story we cldnt question after wards) . . internal bleeding . . . intensive unit. . . operation. . . blah blah. . . we sha lost her. we were too sad to ask questions, d boyfriend was at the burial, u should see the way people were behaving to the guy, they could not even wana think he shared feelings with the late girl. . . some said, ''boya o tie gun l'obe ni'' {mayb he stabbed her] , some said,'' e beere lowo e dadaa[ ask him what he did to her]

some uncles felt they would ''deal'' with the guy

(bad enough dad was not supportive of the relationship)

All sorts of things that cld make one cry more. . .

the long n short of it was that after the whole burial, the guy came back once with his family to check us bt what can anyone do, the dead is gone. k'oloun maje ka ri iru e jare.

u just can't run from your shadows!
bt i have learnt that a man's old enough to die d day he's born.
NAIRALANDERS may God give us long life!

Eyah sorry about this girl.
Amen to ur prayer o.

Oga o - but what i know is that if u did something wrong, it will always come back to bite u in the backside.

Oga o.

After what i went through to deliver mine, i find it difficult to believe such a story.
Na wa o.

I feel that here are loads of men that have the best intentions but they still end up cheating. I am not saying its right but it happens.

I am yet to find a man that hasnt cheated on his wife - and if there are any out there, then ma hat off to u. Keep up the good work.

God forbid!

If it happened in that Nija, there is no way you can come outta this.
Cause there are no autopsies, no investigation etc.

They will just say u used magun for her and she died.

NaJa HaJe:

when I was a lot younger and very curious I managed 6 at one point in time. Secondary school was too much fun

I won't do it right now as am a lot older. It would be very silly to do that. I may just end up the oldest spinster

True true When u are older, we gotta think of these things.

I think u can date two people at once but having a relationship is definitely not possible.

I just say as long as am gonna be with ma man, i dont mind if there were just 50 people there.

There is no way of getting outta people using aso ebi etc - so i feel i would probably wait till i can spend big before i do it.
I really am not one to be pressured to do something i dont wanna do, so that means my day will be my day.

For sure there are no two ways about it.

You do them wrong, they do u wrong.

Well, i would be tempted to keep ma gub shut but when it involves someone i know, then tere is a problem.

You have to tell someone, maybe an elderly person in their family or whatever.

The foundation of the relationship is already shaky so what can the righteous do?

I suppose the next thing to do now is come out with the truth.

Maybe u should answer urself.
She said its an issue u had kept quiet about - so u should know.