monakii:
cost pls

give me a call then i can know your exast need.

I love this part. Nice read. Please update soon.

Confusedgirl869:
It's going to be hard. Thanks dear

miss ask him strongly why baby mama and not marraige. From his responce u would know what to do. Reach me via dm or 07065039057

AmIaYahooGirl:
Hello Nls,
I'm not really someone who listens to what people say but I just want to share this so that y'all can air your views.

I'm a young girl, 23 and an orphan, dropped out of school and came to Lagos to make ends meet. When I first came to Lagos, I stayed with a married female cousin of mine, along the line, the husband started making advances to me which I politely declined. He got angry and told his wife to throw me out of the house, and yes she did.

I was thrown out of the house without anywhere to go and as someone who has survived losing both parents at such a young age, I literally lived and survived in the streets. Did all sorts of menial jobs, hawked purewater, soft drinks, worked in a bar and all that before I finally got an apartment.

The story isn't quite necessary but when I get talking with people and I tell them that I stay alone, next thing I'll hear is "you're too young to stay alone... it's not a good idea...blah blah blah. Some older woman even told me to go back to my cousin's house and beg them so I can continue staying with them, another told me that it's better I stay with my boyfriend than staying alone.

I really don't understand all these talks, like despite all I've been through, isn't staying alone the best option? Or is there something wrong with staying alone as a single young lady?

Your humble opinion is needed, thanks

dear sis. You are not too young to have your own apartment. As long as you can afford it, no problem. It will enable you to be financially independant. You can reach me via a dm if u need more advise.

Boss can u kindly drop ur digit or mail me johnbright197@gmail.com. I may need u to guide on issues.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

OP, i think she's okay. Did she agree to "no sex until marriage with u"? If not, it's just your own decisions & she's not pleased with it. She may not be a virgin. Once she female have had sex before, u can't just deprive her of sex like that. In summary, the no sex b4 marriage decision must be agreed upon by you both.

tunmiluabi:


Glorious! Thanks. In my marriage I was the one deprived of affection and everything that comes with being married. I never for once looked else where and never discussed with anyone except now on this forum. I have always known that my condition was not permanent. I and believed that I was going rewrite my own story. All I wanted was a go at an opportunity and for her to stand by me and which never came. But when it finally came, the deed has been done. Forgiveness is grace, I have done that already. I swear I have nothing against her. To be honest, she doesn't even know that I have a job. She only knows I am not dead. She has called to let me know that I should work hard to help raise my kid. I am sure she is surprised, I send money to her account on a monthly basis for our kid's upkeep. There is no need for me to brag to her about my current status. If she finally knows, it will great for her. I believe the greatest gift in life is not just knowledge or wisdom but grace to believe, believe, and believe again. At the moment, I have not taken a decision on what next line of action is but what I do know is that she is not in any of the my plans. At the moment I am concentrating on re-certifications that I have not done in years. I will update you guy as LIFE gives me more "feedbacks".

bro i sent u a message please reply. Or can you drop me ur mailbox. At the moment, do you feel your wife still have affection for you? Has she ever asked of your wellfare regarding if you have a job.

southniyikaye:
don't buy that phone, you no go enjoy am.
I have one right now, I can even dash you for shikini money if you can repair the screen.

if u didn't enjoy the phone, that doesn't mean another person wont enjoy it. If u buy a good phone, u would love it. That LG is a sleek phone.

Please update. Nice update.

More update please

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

if you both love yourself, brace up and get wedded low key. As long as you both are financially independant, u guys can relocate, get married lowkey, get a kid and all parties we accept.

Ndeoma:


See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

bro i understand you. Do this, tell her how you feel for her and ask her to be sincere with you if she's engaged or not? Tell her you have observed her reaction these day. Speak openly about it. Remind her that you need to know her stand because you would want to put your energy & emotion to what will work.

Noblebrown7:
Once dated a girl who usually come to my place with a gun in her purse. Then one day, she asked me to help her keep it. I told her that my room isn't an armory mbok.. If it's bible & church hymnaries, fine, I'll gladly help you keep it, but definitely not a pistol. THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED THAT DAY.

guy, in Nigeria or what part of the globe?

Please could you send me your email so i can email you.

I would love to be mentored by you. I have fair knowledge.

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akpota:
How will he die if he have sex with her? OP, it depends on what you want. My responds is based on the belief. Firstly, if u have a broken relationship with ur wife, mend it. As men, sometimes we may want to explore our sexual lifes but do it with caution and dont allow any affair affect your family.

if u want to beep her to a means to explore, it must be on a mutual ground, u must find a way of knowing it's not a plan and you must let her know, it's just sex and you love your wife. Above all, it must be classified and use condom.

1stola:

Do it and die!

Don't say I didn't warn you...

How will he die if he have sex with her? OP, it depends on what you want. My responds is based on the belief. Firstly, if u have a broken relationship with ur wife, mend it. As men, sometimes we may want to explore our sexual lifes but do it with caution and dont allow any affair affect your family.

Budline1:



Hmmn, this one seems to be different. She dey tolerate me wella. Very obedient and never raised a voice at me. Her type is very rare honestly.

then go with her bro.

Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.

Go for DNA test asap. If you have to ask your family for financial assistance please do.
If they are yours, take the kids the two from her.
You can win even if it means court case under the umbrella of "financial stability". From the post you are better financially than her.
And her new husband cannot take care of your kids. That is a fact!!

OP. It is time you check on your quality of relationship with your G.F. She may not be into you enough. You may just be the one who love her. Your G.F may see you as a "side guy". If ur GF is in love with you, she would have known someone was with you in the house. Since you are aroung, she would have visited. So OP if the new girl seems good to you, go for her but do a backgroung check firstly. In the mean time treat her well, with love and respect.
In life change is constant!!

starbuck:
I can remember when our Pitbull and Rottweiler nearly used me for breakfast because dad missed the usual time for their breakfast... I was jejely coming out from the front door thinking that it was the usual play play when the next thing I saw was blood oozing out from my left arm and the other one aiming my stomach ....

When mom saw what happened and Dad wasn't doing anything to keep them out, she used broom and nack them for head... Believe me, the next week, mom poisoned the dogs and told dad he should do his worse ... Dad has buy a new breed too ( German shepherd and rottweiler) Cross breeding them till date

That mark is still their though....

ma, please can i get your contact.
Need to ask some things about your dogs.

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this is better.
Some people just decided to post prices that are even bigger than the market value.
Someone started a beautiful thread like this and they want to change its focus.

isahx04:


it's the same 18650 cells that are in laptop battery. You can source them locally. You may buy used powerbanks / laptop battery packs.

hello isahx04 please post your number.

mctfopt:


Do keep us updated on your findings, if not for the prohibitive cost, lithium batteries appears to be the way to go these days.

boss mctfopt please post your number.

ThothHermes:
As a freelancer you need just your laptop and phone no?

A small solar inverter should do it.

hello bro, you can send a mail to johnbright197@gmail.com or call 07055498513. There is a portable solution we can
work out.
A portable and cost effective solar system.
I use such myself.

name and pictures of the battery sir.

CSNg:
There is one thing I have come to notice about using a UPS in this ceejay's power project. The bug in using a UPS is that the transformer in the UPS will drain your battery faster than when you use a small inverter.

Secondly, a UPS does not adhere to the DOD rule. The DOD rule is that your battery should not be drained below 50% so as to keep it top notch and make it last for a longer period of time. The UPS alarm starts to beep when the battery is low which probably occurs when it is on a 20% or even 10% level and that is not good for your battery.

The only advantage the UPS has is that it follows the SOC rule which allows your battery to charge, float and trickle which is good for the battery but it does not adhere to DOD rule.

My advice, get a pure sine wave inverter instead of a UPS!

This can be solved by installing a battety monitor.