I have read previous comments and I can tell you everyone has provided the best advice they can. OP, it's sad that you were treated this way but I am going to give my comments from a lady's perspective. My comments are going to be harsh, but I will do so with all honesty.

1. "I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy."
Unfortunately, she doesn’t love you as much as you do her.

2. "We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school."
LOL, you are still living in Disney world

3."Now this lady has been supportive all d way"
Lies!!! She has been with as a backup until she gets someone better, she only stayed by your side until she gets her type. painful, but the truth.

4. "after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have"
You made a mistake, you shouldn’t have lived with her in the first place, I’m not trying to judge you but that’s the truth.

5. "she earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there"
She now finds herself on another level, sadly, you hastened this process.

6. "She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job"


She gave you hints on the type of person she is, but since you have been blindfolded by love, you couldn’t read between the lines. Don’t be surprised if she already found someone when she started giving those excuses.

7. "but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status."
Now you have been given a forced ride to reality

8. "I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before"
Please stop doing that and stop embarrassing yourself. Her level don change and its left for you to move on

9. "She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind"
Yes, nau, her man don come. She was holding on to you until she gets her man, man of her standard with a well-paying job, big car, bigger than the car she has now. What do you expect

10. "She still loves me"
Lies! A woman who truly loves her man, would do anything to defend her man, with or without a job. So she spent seven years with a man she loves and can still imagine having a future without him, you should redefine what you mean by love because it seems you are confused

11. "Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days"
No body will stop you from doing that, but, remember whether you commit suicide or not, she will get married to the highest bidder that comes her way, have kids with him and forget you ever existed. Be smart. Don’t waste your life because of a woman.

12. "I try to let go but cant"
Why do you have such low esteem, if someone you ve been with for 7 years tells you she has found someone else. Don't you think you don’t deserve someone else or even better? You better wake up.

13. "am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back"
That will be your biggest mistake if you do that. So you want to get a job so that you win someone who dumped you over your employment status, nawa for your kind person. You better look for a job to advance yourself and your career and forget about ever winning her back even if she comes begging. She is not your wife and will not stand by you through thick and thin and sees no future in you.

OP to be honest, you have been living in Disney land for 7 years. The love you described here only exists in your head and it means absolutely nothing to her. You have devoted your time and invested your emotions trying to please someone when you should have invested on your career.

14. "She is not after riches just d basics"
You are only deceiving yourself, what would you call 35 to 40 000? She is after the riches and you don’t have it now, so she moved on , why be with someone like that?

The way forward (my opinion):

1. You should be grateful to God for removing such a woman from your life
2. Commit your life into God's hands
2. Remove this lady from your head, there are many women who will be willing to accept you despite your predicament, I’m sure they exist, but your love for this lady has blinded you. NB: Not all women are like your girl
3. Concentrate on looking for a job
4. Once you get that high paying job and she realises you are doing better than the guy she's with, (even if she is married she may try to contact you), don’t listen to her and move on


A word is enough for the wise.