ok, so I'm new to this sight. I'm just simply trying to understand a few things. First let me say, I am posting this for true insight and advice. I'm 29 years old, previously divorced from an american guy with two kids from my marriage. For the past 2 years, ive been dating on and off and just recently i met a Nigerian (igbo) guy. He's 33 years old, He's an optometrist who resides in london. I, myself reside in the states (Georgia). I met this guy a few months back and there was no immediate pressure for a relationship, just great conversation and enjoying eachothers company. We laughed, talked about anything from serious issues to just being jovial with one another. i noticed almost immediately that he had a warm spirit, cared for other's feelings, very sentimental, and seemed very honest. He made it be known up front that he despised liars.As time passed he started telling me he loved me and i would verbally voice to him that that was impossible! he would say that he's met many of women and only few piqued his interest as i have, He tells me all the time that he feels ashamed that he's the only one in the family not married with kids, he feels like he's getting old, he's studied all his life, gotten three degrees and hasnt had time to work on relationships ( to lead to having a family) I recently, unwillingly, but naturally started to feel for him, i noticed that i'd become more open tohis feelings, i admit, i think i love him, well i do love him, i think he's wonderful. I'm a single parent, in nursing school and i work at a local hospital full time, He motivates me, he encourages me to challenge myself on a daily basis, almost as if he empowers me. He's asked me recently could we date, start a relationship, I said yes, He's paid for my passport and has asked me to go to nigeria to meet his parents, I've met his brother and a few friends, they are cool. I learned that he's told a couple of his co workers that he was engaged to me all because he was too embarrased to say that he was single at his age. i love him, gosh do i love him, he's beautiful! also, He recently paid for my transportation to and from london for a week in march to come spend time with him. He's constantly sending me things from london, all the time, clothes, cards,etc. Ive been reading the posts and u think you know  a person but you never know. He mentioned getting married and i said to him everyone knows that nigerians only want to marry for citizenship, he scoffed at me and said really? is that the stereotype in your country? and i said yes! he laughed hysterically and said i dont  need your citizenship, i truly care for you, i confronted him with some of the other stereotypes, nigerians being temperamental, dominant to their women, etc, he said wow, some of them are actually that way,especially yorubans, that they are promiscuous, his parents didnt teach me to be that way. He refers to most american men as "shitguys" because of how they treat us women, Can anyone give me some kind of insight, does he seem genuine in his efforts?