hello guys, please any advise? i have a child with a girl we just met, and she took in, and she moved in with me, with her parents consent as they said they can't stand the shame having a pregnant daughter out of wedlock in their house. we lived together till she delivered and i paid all the expenses hospital bills from the start till she put to birth. i did the naming and obtain birth cert from the hospital. now the parents said their daughter should come home with the baby because i have not pay a penny on her. and really to be honest i am not comfortable going to her parents house to see my boy, i don't want to rush into marriage and rush out as everything seems too in a rush to me. because of my child i am willing to go and pay the bride price, but i am also worry as the girl is Ibo girl and i am from Benin, from the beginning the mother complained about where i came from that we witch that fly in the afternoon we are this we are that and my girl also use that statement sometimes, we are witch pegans and so on. i just want to know my fate if i make the effort to go and pay the bride price and they refused to collect? there is no fight between me and the girl just she said she is obeying her parents advice and their ibo culture.

i have a child with ibo girl, and during the pregnancy she was in my house after i met with the parents, they said i cannot pay her bride price because she was married, now she put to bed when she was still in my house, that is i have been responsible for the child finance, now they my girl back to her parents house, and they said she cannot longer come to my house because i am not married to her, and now i don't have the financial means to do that, and i am also worried they might not accept me because from the one they were on about benin people are bad and they are this and that. the father have no male child five girls, the mother of my child is the eldest, now my child is a boy. they have been planning adopting a male child according to my girl for 500,000naira. any lawyer in the building? i understand their customary culture, but i am not ibo, i am from benin and we also have our customary law. i do not want my child to be raised by one parents, i am not asking for full custody and as well don't want to be visiting my child in the parents house.