stanliwise:
Then fate is your best chance. For the main time you need space. The space will help clear your thought. Moreso avoid doing date to get her jealous. Master the feeling until you get so comfortable with it. It will help you in your other or next heartbreak .
Cold mind is part of the game. Ladies are terrified when they can’t shake your emotions easily.
You only date other girls When you find them attractive

Thanks so much sir, this will go a long way...........

stanliwise:

Before I go on, do you really like this girl? Like do you actually want anything romantic with her? Or you just crave for attention? Or you are in for FWB?
This questions are fundamental, if this feeling is because of loss of the spotlight then you let it go and work on yourself. If you want FWB then you were taking a wrong path.

I really do like her. But I'm prepared to move on if our rapport can't be salvaged.

stanliwise:
you are welcome.
Sorry to ask, but how well do you know this girl?

I only got to know her in the office oh! I've not been to her house to know how she behaves at home. From what she has told me and what I have seen, she seem churchy, she's even a deeper life member. She's hyper extrovert, and from my observations, she likes boys a lot, especially cute ones.

Remmedy:

.....
You want to get her ? Get another girl
and arrange a double date with your male friend
This is where Jealousy does all the work

Nice suggestion... Thanks bro.

apstpaulg:
Moreover, being heart broken, is just a state of mind.
Face your career, there's a season and time for everything under the sun.

Apostle Paul Eshiet
08142304453

Thanks a bunch sir, I will definitely reach out to you via your contact.

horpeyemmi66:

Lol

My guy, see, there are more important things in life than a piece of ass. You're just 22, you want to add woman palaver to your life?

She is intentionally doing somethings to make you jealous, just ignore the girl and face being a better man. She's 18, which sense dey her head?

Work towards being a better man and forget the trivialities of an immature girl.

strongs words.... i really do appreciate your input sir.

Liposure:
Why are you crying over spilt milk. You had the chance yet you blew it away. Though quite understandable. You better move on. Your continued sadness will not change anything

thanks for your advice sir

CosmicPhoenix:

you better count your losses and move on,you rejected her then you messed up when you tried to patch things up.delete her number from your phone,stop every form of communication with her and for your sanity please stay away from her because she will do everything to pepper you,girls dont give a fvck about your feelings.

thanks for your input sir.

Dpsychologist:

Were You not thesame person that says a quite number of ladies ask you out but you Refused?

It is a woman who choose you not the other way round. If a woman sees something she likes about you, she will try to make move on you. Next time when you sense a woman is genuinely interested, you are allowed to do small shakara but stop wasting the opportunity, grab it.

Ok sir, I guess I've learnt my lesson, though in a hard, but at least I have gained some insights. Thanks for your input.

hahn:


You just have a wrong idea towards women.

Visit this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6096237/redpill-constitution-bitter-truths/

thanks for your contribution sir..

hahn:


Awwww. You are such a nice guy.

That's why you'll always finish last

Baba na how God take create me oh!! i'm really trying to become less of a nice guy..

Dpsychologist:

I get pissed off when i read this kinda thing.
Bro what is actually the problem.
Girl likes you but you are rejecting her then you are still complaining. Bro stop this your childish behavior and man up or i bet you that you will be age 30 and will open a thread here complaining that you have not yet dated any girl in your life.

it's not like that sir, I was ready to give in but didn't because I also had my friend's interest at heart. If she truly loved me, why did she choose to hook up with my friend in the first place

Kobicove:
There are other ladies outside...don't kill yourself over a lady

noted sir, thanks...

stanliwise:

We never know of how precious things are until we loose them. You have a chance and you blew it. It seem you don’t understand your feelings anymore and you don’t know when someone is amazing for you and when someone is not.

No time for long story. You need to find distance, if you keep communicating with her and thinking of her then this will only make situations worse. Off sight off mind. I actually don’t know if you like this girl from the way things has happened but how you can know is to heal first then you speak well

Moreso stop the apology already, apology is a thing you do few times and then you give space for people to heal. If you think this girl will come back to you then fate is your best chance. Flow with the time, time needs patience. While you wait take time out to explore other things and read book to better yourself.

Right now start learning how to live with the wobbly feeling, it is part of being a man, don’t let this guilt make other beautiful soul pass you by. Don’t let us shrink your social life and fun moment.

The best way to equal what has happened to you is to master the feelings and learn how to live with it. And eventually becoming greater than it.

You are so full of wisdom sir. This lovely piece you wrote has lifted my mood. Thanks a bunch sir, I really do appreciate.

MajesticKris:
You didn't play smart when given the chance..you don't know girl's...

I guess so, I really do appreciate your input..

MrBrownJay1:


Of course you lost your chance and need to step back and let your buddy sample her 1st.... It's obvious this babe is just playing games, looking for the attention you guys throw at her.....and wants everyone as her "friend" and nothing serious.

you have a point sir, Thanks for the advice.

fayded:
Why are u stressing Urself??
She gave u a chance and u said no, I get why u said no sha, u were trying to be a nice, courteous guy.
Now 1st things first, nothing u ever do with that girl will work cos she's still a kid (upstairs sha), work romance is bad, she never get admission and u re naive in girls matters. Just Dey repeat these things to Urself, and move on.


Orrrrr...
U can play the game, she's playing. Find another cute hot girl, preferably outside ur work place and chyke her, just Dey chat with am, follow her talk and if she can, let her visit u at ur work place. You'd be surprised as to how much you'll turn the table.

Buh Las Las, all ds games are for kids. Guy, leave dt girl and find another one.also,wts all ds virgin talk?? Have u tried to go down there and it was sealed?? If not, keep shut bout bout d virgin talk. Them no Dey trust girls abeg

I guess I will have to play a matured guy, look for another girl and move on with my life. thanks for your advice.

MrBrownJay1:
You are highly confused and need to answer this simple question: DO YOU WANT THE BABE?!?!

I do, but I have the feeling that I've lost my chance...

fuckingAyaya:
Re you a Jehovah witness member

nope, why do you ask?

MajesticKris:
Oga go and sleep...

Cus what you're looking for, won't happen again...
LISTEN GIRL'S HATE NICE GUY'S...

so love is now beyond nice guys??

dingbang:
She gave you chance and you threw it away.


She even asked your slow ass out! Damn nigga..


You slow!

my decision was influenced by her initial action of collecting my friend's number who she hadn't seen before in real life, i was pained. But i'm now left with feeling of regret...

Good day guys.
I'm 22 years old, i'm tall and good looking. I have a strong Christian background and it has hindered my rapport with the opposite sex. Ladies have asked me out a few times in the past, but I declined, stating I was not ready to be in a relationship.

There is this girl in my office where I work that was all over me, she's 18 years old and yet to be admitted into the university. To be honest, I liked her, but I suppressed my feelings for her. I occasionally tell her that she's more like a younger sister to me. We got close and I became fond of her, she confided in me with all her secrets and tell me about guys toasting her. I started entertaining thoughts of asking her out, until one day, she was going through my phone and saw a picture my friend who is short, dark and handsome, she asked for his number and requested I sent him her pictures, they exchanged numbers and started chatting. He comes to visit her in the office at times and me being a nice guy usually give them some space to interact. I started losing interest in her as a result, but she kept assuring me that she takes him just as a friend. She later asked me out on WhatsApp, but I declined, owing to the fact that she still retains close friendship with my friend. After that, She started getting more closer to my friend, changed her phone's password cos she told me the previous one. She started making flirty calls and calling other guys and my guy honey, baby, I love you in my presence. She started ignoring my chats and calls. Each time my friend comes visiting, she laughs as loud as possible when they are discussing. Our vibes died off, but I'm the one suffering it as I frequently get jealous and heartbroken each time I see her making calls and communicating with guys on longer hours, especially with my friend.
I have tried to patch things up with her, but she keeps getting me jealous and hurt. This said girl is very beautiful, a virgin who has been in only one relationship and a devoted Christian. I have tried to forget her and move on, but I just can't. I keep feeling depressed and hurt whenever I see her and my friend online simultaneously. Please how can I move on? Do I still stand a chance with her? was I wrong to turn her down? Please I need your advice.

Uzomacharles:


If I tell u my story eeeh...

Thank God for stanliwise...

Bro
Girls Plenty

Bro, u too much, I gat to work on my game, and start attracting the girls of my choice..
for the time being, I go try to move on from this babe quickly....

Uzomacharles:


Just forget her cos she don lose interest I think or maybe she has plan with your friend to make u feel for her...

Start getting close to her if u need her...

Read this thread from beginning

I would have preferred to move on, but it's hard cos I see her everyday at work.. I just hope to move on with time..
Thanks for your advice.

Uzomacharles:


She asked u and u said u don't want to date her....

Bro forget her or if u like her go for her now that the relationship is not far

I still love her, but I have lost the confidence to talk to her because it looks as if she send-less now. As I'm typing this now, she's just laughing uncontrollably with my guy at the office. I believe our rapport has been broken.

Good day guys.
I'm 22 years old, i'm tall and good looking. I have a strong Christian background and it has hindered my rapport with the opposite sex. Ladies have asked me out a few times in the past, but I declined, stating I was not ready to be in a relationship.

There is this girl in my office where I work that was all over me, she's 18 years old and yet to be admitted into the university. To be honest, I liked her, but I suppressed my feelings for her. I occasionally tell her that she's more like a younger sister to me. We got close and I became fond of her, she confided in me with all her secrets and tell me about guys toasting her. I started entertaining thoughts of asking her out, until one day, she was going through my phone and saw a picture my friend who is short, dark and handsome, she asked for his number and requested I sent him her pictures, they exchanged numbers and started chatting. He comes to visit her in the office at times and me being a nice guy usually give them some space to interact. I started losing interest in her as a result, but she kept assuring me that she takes him just as a friend. She later asked me out on WhatsApp, but I declined, owing to the fact that she still retains close friendship with my friend. After that, She started getting more closer to my friend, changed her phone's password cos she told me the previous one. She started making flirty calls and calling other guys and my guy honey, baby, I love you in my presence. She started ignoring my chats and calls. Each time my friend comes visiting, she laughs as loud as possible when they are discussing. Our vibes died off, but I'm the one suffering it as I frequently get jealous and heartbroken each time I see her making calls and communicating with guys on longer hours, especially with my friend.
I have tried to patch things up with her, but she keeps getting me jealous and hurt. This said girl is very beautiful, a virgin who has been in only one relationship and a devoted Christian. I have tried to forget her and move on, but I just can't. I keep feeling depressed and hurt whenever I see her and my friend online simultaneously. Please how can I move on? Do I still stand a chance with her? was I wrong to turn her down? Please I need your advice.