Op, I think your problem is purely psychological. It's just your mind-set, but this happens mostly when a guy or girl has in so many occasions had canal knowledge of a particular girl or guy, hence he's tired of it already. But in your own case it seems that you haven't even had much sex with the girl in question. Marriage is a lifetime affair, inotherwords u must be sexually attracted to each other. Talk to yourself or u seek an advise of a councilor, but if nothing changes, no need going ahead with the marriage.
Altimately, pray about it.
Good luck

Madam, u really have nothing to worry about. The Almighty God that we all serve has heard ur cry n prayers. Ur child is well. The funny thing here is that i had thesame experience with u. My wife delivered my son at less than 7th month,,,,he was really really tiny. He couldnt eat or do anythn for himself, all we had to do was Prayn, prayn and prayn and today my Son is 18months old today and very very well. U cant even believe hes born a premie! God has taken care of ur child already. just keep praising him....

@Op, there could be a couple of reasons for their being so nice to u now. Did u get a new flashy car? Did u get a very lucrative job? Do u live in a lovely apartment? I'm sure there's something or somethings that are positively new in ur life. It happened to me, so I know. So better watch it. They r now seeing u as dat their dream man. But mind u, d moment u marry any of them, her true self comes right back. Be wise!

I'd do anything for love- meat loaf (1 ex)
Secret Rendezvous- karyn White (2nd ex)

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@Op, @34yrs u r datn and claiming to be inlove with a guy 5yrs younger than u. Babe Dats pure desperation! Dont be desperate, God already has plans and purposes for everyone. Marriage is not bf & gf relationship where age might be said to be just a number. In marriage, love isn't just enuf. There is companionship, tolerance, respect, adaptability etc. There's no way that u can be submissive and totally respectful to a Man 5yrs younger than u.Do u think that his Parents will accept U if they know about this age difference? ell NO! Do u think this guy will still love u 10yrs from now when ur supposed Babyface must have shrinked away? He definitely won't. Babe relax, there r many matured men out there lookn out for matured girls to marry. Ur friends r right this time around. Think twice n God Bless.

@OP, i've been following ur post with keen interest as well as all the responses that uve gotten so far. My advice to u, pls dont let anyone discourage u. That they denied u twice before now doesnt mean they can never ever grant u visa. It had never been a crime to give birth in US, neither will it ever be. The only problem is that they think u lied about being pregnant at the point of interview, but even at that, theres still a possibility u didnt know u were pregnant. So all u need to do is to insist, i mean INSIST on ur previous claims. If u dare change ur story, apologies wont save u, rather it might earn u a BAN! Since uve already gotten a date for ur interview, pray well and go for it with full confidence. God will grant u d Visa. I have a relative who had dsame case with u. She had her child in US and paid all her bills, time for renewal, she was denied..... she tried again after 3months on my advice and she was granted a Visa. Go and grab tha visa, but pls insist on ur ignorance.... Goodluck.

Op, this guy u r referring to as "short", going by the other good qualities u mentioned he possesses might be the one God has kept for u. Marriage goes beyond outward beauty....but rather the inward qualities. This is the mistake most unmarried old spinsters made that kept them how they are today (Frustrated Church Goer). All the same, if u r sure u dont like him, then leave him alone. U can stop pickn his calls and with time, he will get over u.
U need to start changing ur views about life, otherwise, life might change its views about u. BE WISE !

@OP, ur write-up is cool.... These days when i look at some single girls, i wonder which planet they come from. For instance, when a girl is really decently dressed, she looks a lot more beautiful and instantly earn her respect from men. Also, u see Single girls without any meaningful Jobs want to wear very expensive shoes, carry very expensive (probably) LV, Prada, Gucci, etc bags just to feel among.. Besides, most of the women or girls who they try to copy are comfortably married with possibly great well paying jobs. Real Men don't trip for such.
As a Lady, u must not be seen in every party or club in town, it doesnt make u a BIG girl, rather u r ruining and belittling urself.
Another trend for some girls now is carryn very expensive phones just to show off unless u have a great job. Most single girls these days on meeting them for the first time, try to speak some British/US phonetics....just because they just came back from a 2wks trip Dubai... Its a big turn-off for Men. JUST BE URSELF..
HUMILITY is the key. With humility, d heavens will be open for u to devour. Always put a smile on ur face.
All these not withstanding, there are loads of well-mannered, beautiful Single girls with brains out there.
N/B, Some Boys equally have some useless characters, its just unfortunate that however a man is, he can and will always find a good woman to marry.

dcraigy: @slyfoxxjoe & @Anthony247 This is part of my internet (re)search, as I was hoping to encounter mostly people who have experienced it themselves or know someone who has. Nairaland is indeed oart of the internet, so I'm not mistaken to be here, asking a question that's related to Nigerian Citizens.

Haha, I guess there's huge unemployment in Nigeria, and that's why most of you guys have ample time to become "Internet Warriors". No offence to the guys who of course mean very well!

@Poster, i have a Cousin who had d same issue as u do now; he was eventually deported though, but we had to import a British Babe into naija and they wedded in d court... his papers came out swiftly and he had to go back to London. So u can do dsame..

dcraigy: Are people really looking at this ^^^^^^^^ before commenting SMDH!

Inasmuch as some of you mean very well, the advise/answer I'm seeking at this point in time, is HOW DOES THE UKBA DEPORT PEOPLE?

Stop telling / suggesting things to me, which I already know. I'm trying to learn about something I know nothing of.

@Poster, u can S(ur)DH for all i care...... u really sound desperate for answers to ur question. Meanwhile, d UKBA has every right to deport any illegal immigrant without any further permissions. U must have come into d UK through an airport and ur details must have been documented. And if u want further answers, u can google it or better still ask UKBA website. But on another note, find someone u can pay for an arranged marriage. It takes a lil time but surely works..

philips70:

This is a nice and matured advice from a seemingly responsible guy devoid of insults and demeaning words. They might not be what poster want to hear at the moment but they were honestly and maturedly rendered. And if he sees more of these who knows he might just heed to them. Grow up dudes..

Thanx Philips70, ....but that is the honest truth. @Poster, pls heed to this advice, u wont regret it...

My Bro, my humble advice to u would be to find a way and come back home. I have loads of friends with similar problems there and i have adviced each one of them to come back. Life is not as rosey as pple might think in London and Europe in general. There are loads of opportunities for u here in Naija. Just take that bold step and come home. I know most of u have this "fear of the unknown", but i bet u, its worth it being here in Nigeria. I have traveled to and spent little times in so many Countries all around this world, and i bet u....there's no place like home. Money is easier to be made here... Just courageously come back, u will equally make it here.

He's paid his dues. It's well-deserved. Congrats Sir!

They should be prosecuted and if possible ,