Well I am a lady and I will tell you this, from this write up, I can tell you 100% that your wife doesn't want you to be doing anything for your mother again or probably want you to reduce what you have been doing for her, that's why she want to make sure that everything goes through her incase it's too much, she will reduce it and send little and incase she sometimes feel the money is not necessary, she will keep it without sending
My advise to you is that if you want peace, when you do 100% of something for you mum, just tell your wife that it's 50% you did and that your other siblings contribute to the rest
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dre11:


https://thenationonlineng.net/woman-70-touching-n20000-cash-for-first-time-burst-into-tears-in-jigawa/

These people are clown, how did relief fund get to jigawa state that is not on lockdown, that doesn't have any corona case and yet we in lagos are yet to see anything, this country is a joke.
Who is deceiving who? Audio relief fund

UDOKABESTLUV:
Hello, My Fellow Nairalander, What Will happen to the person, if he/she fail to pay Loan he/she borrowed From Loan App Company Because Of One Reason Or The Other.
I Need To Hear From You Guys!

You can never get any loan from any bank in Nigeria again until you pay that one with interest (for the number of overdue days/years), don't be surprised if you will be paying X4 of what you borrowed then if you don't return it on time and did anyone tell you that you can't travel out of nigeria until you pay that money, i used to work for a loan bank and once your name entered the blacklist, you will be stopped at the airport for owing some money which need to be paid, if you don't go back to the bank to pay it in other to clear yourself with a written letter from the bank, then you are not stepping out of Nigeria.

You have to talk for where you are, in Ikeja here, agreement and commission is 100k (a room self) that's what i paid last year and that is the fixed amount except you want a room, that's where the agreement and commission is 70k
For Ikorodu, agreement and commission is between 30k-50k depending on the areas
Just yesterday at Ogba here, an agent was telling a colleague about a 220k mini flat with 100k agreement and commission, total of 320k

Do your findings very well.

somehow:


Another lie

Agreement and commission dont exceed 20 percent respectively

But mostly higher than 5 percent

I'm not sure Op is actually talking about Lagos rent because agreement and commission is 50% above of the rent not 10/15%, don't let anybody deceive you, if your house rent is 150k, your agreement and commission will be between 70k-100k depending on the location and you forget to add maintenance fee which is 10% of your actual rent.

CotenantNIG:
Hello

Lets look at fees you would be paying when renting an apartment in Lagos.

Renting an apartment in Lagos is a task.

So with this you can get prepared.

FEES TO TAKE NOTE OFF

Registration Form: This is the first money you would always pay before you see a property, this form is always ₦1,000 or higher some times



Rent:  Renting an apartment means entering into a legal arrangement with a landlord (the owner of the property) to live in the space for an agreed-upon fee. This fee, which is usually paid on a monthly basis or yearly, is called rent. The renter who occupies the apartment is also known as the tenant.

Agreement: This fee is usually collected by agents, but of recent Landlords are now collecting agreement money. The agreement is usually 5% of the cost of property you are renting, if you don't pay this fee you are not entering into your apartment.

Commission: This is the agent fee when you are renting an apartment, its usually the other 5% percent of the agreement from renting an apartment. The painful thing about commissions is if 10 agents are connected to a property they would share lets say ₦15,000 equally after a client have rented a property.

Legal Fees: If a property is being handled by a lawyer, you must pay legal fees to the lawyer. This fees are mostly for documentations etc

Service Charge: Most property on the island collect service charge, a charge made for maintenance on a property which has been leased. For example the space owners are the one that pay for your electricity, most shared apartments and short lets have serviced charged attached to their fees

Damages: Source

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First thing first, pray about it if she will be the right one for you, if she is, i don't think anything should stop you again from marrying her, from my observation, your mum is obsessed with all these professional career ladies (like doctors, lawyers, bankers and all) as a wife for you, something like forcing what she wished to be (but couldn't maybe due to somethings) on his would be son's spouse, i cant see any other reason why she wont want you to get married except for that
For further clarification, just plan it and take another lady home and tell your mother that she is a doctor then wait for her reaction

johndan103:
Background
I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.


Statement of Problem
My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.


More Details
She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship).
She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.



My Point of View
I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.

My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.


Hauwa's Point of View
Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.


Mom's Point of View
The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home).
The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.


Family point of view
My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.


My Question
What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??


NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person.
Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.

Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.

Cheers

please i use God to beg you, don't you dare accept that offer, any job that includes saturdays and public holidays no be job even if they will pay more, such job will frustrate your life and wouldn't even give you opportunity to search for a better job, what am i even saying sef, it will automatically deprive you of a better opportunity because you wont have time to go for interviews even if it's been hold on saturday




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Ghostty:
Hello All.

I have been visiting this site as a guest for 2years, but today I had to sign up as a member. I do not intend to write so much, so permit me to go straight to the point.

I graduated in 2017 from one of the federal university in the South and finished my NYSC last year April. Ever since I have been hunting for jobs so to keep body and soul, I have written hundreds of job exams and attended several interviews but none has yielded any positive result yet.

Last month a friend of mine whose Uncle works in a Chinese Steel Production Company told me about an opening in the Marketing department of the company, he told me they were recruiting for the role of a Purchaser and a Sales Executive and advised that I should go submit my CV for consideration.

I did as advised and the following day I was called for a test. On getting there, I met three(3) other guys who also came for the same purpose. The Chinese HR guy came and administered the test and afterwards only two of us passed and were asked to come back the next day for the oral interview.

The next day I went for the interview and after being drilled and asked several questions I was offered the job. But my zeal and interest for the Job died the moment I was told the job conditions and pay.

Working hours are from 7am to 6pm daily, Monday to Saturday including public holidays. All these for a monthly pay of 35k

I was given the offer letter to take home to sign if I agree with the conditions and return it this coming Monday to resume work.

My fellow Nairalanders, would you advise that I take this job offer considering the conditions attached or reject it and continue job hunting hoping that one day favour would smile on me I am confused, please help a brother

Please help a brother push this to FP so I can get all the advice I need as much as possible. Thank you.

That's true sha cos i have a skill and business i do sideway as well

millionboi2:
hahaha
Madam d case is different for a guy ooo

Only a skill for Op is sure

ops, people might make jest of you here and even call you lazy but belief me, i fully understand how you feel cos have been there, mine is even worst, i cried for almost a month blaming myself of going to school and getting a good grade with no good pay but everything is very much better now.
my first advise for you is to have it at the back of your mind to leave your comfort zone (ur house/state), Lagos might be stressful and trash but there are lots of jobs (it doesn't matter what you study in school), there is a page on facebook and instagram "AFRICANBIOHUB", follow them for real job update and request they review your cv for you(they will charge you like 1500 or so for that) and get a meaningful cover letter (i can help you with that) before you start applying.
you can be applying at the comfort of your home and travel for interviews when invited for one.
My brother if you work on this, i promise you will get a job before the end of this month (even if it is a marketing job with a far better pay and you wont stop applying till you get that your dream job), don't listen to people that says there is no job, there is, people are not just putting in their best effort.
my own case i have no family in lagos but i was determined nothing will stop me even thou as a lady, i keep scouting about and after 6 months of doing a marketing job, i was able to get an apartment and even change my job to a better one, don't just relent, you're A MAN, nobody will help you until you help urself especially in this nigeria
I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO BETTER

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

i wont say boarding school is not good because i went to one myself but boarding schools of these days are way different from the ones we attended way back, i can tell you 85% of lesbianism/gay started from there plus lack of home training and all, you just have to think about it very well and choose a school you're 99% sure it is okay in terms of moral upbringing

The first moment you should know something is wrong with that kind of relationship is when rather than moving forward by getting more jobs to work on, it's the other way round @op after the breakup sef, u need serious prayer for ur glory to be restored

chigoizie7:
as an account officer , let me spell out ur role.

u are to meet target on credits and savings and must maintain ur PAR which u they dont expect any bad loans from u.

normally, ur monthly target for loans in terms of number on the average is 20 , value might differ.but above 2.5m. they give loans without collateral which makea it riskier for u as an account officer. their loans are mostly for business people. working capital loans.

and then u mobilise savings too.


to be sincere I regretted ever worked for them.



that place is hell. because they wont provide all u need to do the job but will be on ur neck to deliver.



see , if u know u are not desperate for those kinda jobs, dont apply.

if u still get one or two changes from normal hustle dont ever apply or work for them. They will drain u.


btw salary is 50k after tax is 48k
and your day to day job is run from that salary both phone calls and transport. by transport I dont mean coming to work and going home. u need to call ur client's and visit, spot checks botg client's and guaranto and thet have boundaries. u dont give everyone u see loans even if they are capable but not within the boundaries, u won't , yet u must meet up with the target.

Exactly, they use account officers as if there is no blood running through their veins, I just started working there and by God's grace, I will soon leave

aking123:
Salary is good, i affirm that because i know someone there.

Don't say that, it depend on the position the person is occupying, I work there as well

Not all that glitter is gold, I have to marry the richest man, 90% of them no get peace of mind

We are all mad in Nigeria especially Lagos, crazy people plenty for there

What nonsense? Why will she do that even if it's not a first date, total rubbish

The way things are going this month, it's only God that can help us, I just hope nobody die

Invest it on jewelry business

big3boy:


r u sure ths lady here can make her search history public?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Why Not?

Both my bank statement and search history can be made public, there is nothing to hide in both

rasojie:
just told my gf to send u some matherials

Yeah, she did send it, thanks

Good morning house, Happy sunday please I have been scheduled for access bank aptitude test on thursday, anybody with idea on access bank test/format should kindly enlighten me on it plus if it is gmat, kindly forward it to my mail at arinolamorufat@gmail.com. Thank you

Hi, please I have been scheduled for access bank aptitude test next week, anybody with idea on access bank test/format should kindly enlighten me on it plus if it is gmat, kindly forward it to my mail at arinolamorufat@gmail.com

My brother, in fact he will call back 10-15hours after

That man tried sef, For north, the bombs my school teachers do drop on me anytime they talk is out of it, secondary school for that matter

I have the same Issue until I start using cypeni, of which I changed magically plus you need to eat healthily not heavily, too much of one particular food is not good, try different variables of foods that will supply you with the necessary vitamins to enhance your body

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