POWER OF EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT

-i know this word must be new to some people here,but this isnt just a word,but when put into action,becomes a very powerful word.

Now what is Emotional DETACHMENT?

Emotional detachment can be defined In Many ways depending on how you understand it...but you can simply say emotional detachment is just removing any form of emotions from an outcome.those emotions include happiness,sadness,jealousy,angry etc

Now have you ever wondered why when you put all your mind and body Into doing something,it sometimes NEVER gives you the result you seek,but when you seem to take your mind off it,RESULT COMES..That is Emotional detachment..
The act of being emotional Detached is called stoicism or indifference..when the outcome of an event cannot affect your present mood..
Emotional detachment is just have that I don't care attitude and accepting that there are things in life you can and cannot control so why stress yourself over it..

Why you MUST BE EMOTIONALLY DETACHED with a woman:-
Women are known as emotional beings as we all know,they get so emotional when things don't go thier way...maybe it is time to the fact that they don't produce as much testosterone as men according to biology.
Men produce more of this testosterone that why we have more and better control of our emotions...
Emotions is considered a feminine trait that is why women get pissed off seeing a man with this trait and simps have alot of this trait in them.
Am not saying it is bad for a man to shows emotions but don't overdo it...be strong to accept life as it hits you rather than whyne about it..

A woman emotion has a direct impact on thier Mood so that is why she can be happy now,sad the next minute,jealous the other minutes and then angry....Trust me when I say the cycle goes over and over again..
Now you are asking what you can do when this happens?...the truth is you can try and be there with her and you might get the result by making her feel better but the question is how long before she become worse again.And if you think that since you helped her once,you can help her again..you will be damn disappointed as she might even attack you for trying to help her...YES,that's how they can be...They reason with thier present emotion and not logic
So if you find yourself in this position. What is the best thing to do..the answer is to do NOTHING..Detach yourself from the situation and make her come to you herself(she will) and by then you will have control and power over the situation...
Don't get mad or angry at them for how they act(except they really pushed you to the wall) and just let her be when she is acting up...DETACH yourself and remove all emotions from the situation you are facing with her.Just go about doing your own thing and she will come back to you..But don't hope or wait for her because by doing that you are still adding emotions..
Funny but Girls find it Attractive and very masculine when a guy is emotionally detached...you become a treasure in thier eyes and they look up to you.. because of this they will decide ways of making you emotional for example by pulling away,calling or chatting with other guys in your presence and using sweet names,delaying your text,ignoring your calls,some may even attempt a fake break up etc...all this just to get you to be emotional (TESTs)..... You become a PUZZLE that they are trying to solve by all means...
But even when all this happens,maintain your guard as a man and be Emotionally detached and this girls will love you more and things will start going in your favour.

Any questions can be asked and I will answer..
My own personal experience on Emotional detachment coming next

The moment you are scared of loosing a girl,you have already lost her....
Girls are like cat,you just have to leave them to do what they want...they come and go as they please and if you try to force them towards you,they will bite.
Be a man and accept your loss..it might be hard but within 3 weeks you would be fine..your heart just needs to accept the fact that she has left you..
Nobody is permanent in life and the only person who will always be there for you(whether you are insecure or not) is YOU..
My tips to get you back on track:

-delete anything that reminds you of her like pics and contact
-start exercising or lifting weights
-do things you love doing(your hobbies)
-Hang out with friends
-engage in one or two sports like football
-talk to other girls (even flirt with most of them)
-DONT STALK HER

If you do this,you will be fine and back to your feet in less than two months..work on yourself for a better future relationship

I will be giving a little talk this weekend on three key point of power a guy should utilize to ensure he maintains masculinity,no matter the end result of the Relationship.....they are:
(1) Power of Emotional detachment
(2) Power of unavailability
(3) power of a abundance mindset

Note:this will help whether you are Redpill or not.
I will also be using my relationship (both current and previous) as examples..

To the young ones who are in(or about to be) in a relationship but are scared of the redpill...
The Redpill isn't about hating women..it just gives you a full understanding of thier ways(which is full of manipulation and emotions)...
Redpill just shows us that life isnt a bed of roses as told when we were kids and the World is as wicked as you can imagine as it is full of monsters willing to devour you at any slight display of weakness...

shantti:
am in my twenties, i lost my viginity late in life october 2018 to be precise, due to strict parents, my sex count in just 3

Bro...I can tell you boldy "you missed out on nothing"...don't let anyone make you feel bad about it ..sex is so cheap and overrated...

The one I hate most is some guys boasting about their dick size...it's so funny that they attach much value to that....I know a girl who told me her bf dick was massive but he was bad in bed(no romance,no pre-intimacy and just penetration).....same girl cheated on the guy with me(am barely 7.2 inch) and clearly said am far better than the guy...and I was like what's the point of the big dick if you can't satisfy your girl and she cheats on you with a guy with a smaller dick....
Guys with big dicks mistake pain for pleasure and that's where they get it wrong....porn has messed up their mentality....

Slynation:
As for me, sex ain't something to brag about, but I know some guys with body counts of over 200 girls....just fresh,get clean ride, become financially stable and most importantly you are residing near a uni...then you know what I'm talking about.....

That's it boss...young guys should learn to build themselves up first then the women will come,in all size and colour....

KenBen217:

but the way guys taunt other guys who don't get much sex can be very bad. they make you feel less of a man because you're not getting so much girls...and for young and unestablished guys,it's very normal not to get so much sex. not entirely,but regularly can't be assured. so people lie about it to save face

It's just the society we find ourselves in....any guys who tries to oppress me over his sex count is attempting a failed mission..
I have my priorities and I tell you sex ain't even in the top 10.....if sex comes,fine...if it doesn't who cares...
Na person mate dey boast of cars and houses while you dey boast of number of holes you have entered...

Fact...I pity those guys who get intimidated by it...my sex count no reach 15 sef but am less bordered about that now...I have other things to border myself with than thinking of fucking over 50 holes...na achievement?
Mtchew......

FearGod199:
I Derive joy in seeing women unclothedness ,,it give me a lot of joy,but i hardly Bleep them.. I can invite a woman only seeing her puccy and small fingering I will be alright..

Vaseline crew spotted....

czarr:
Sometimes you meet a girl who you vibe with she's flirting back and all, and you know she'll be down to fvck you sooner, but this is where some guys mess it up. you ask her out and start being overly romantic pushing for exclusivity, you want to possess her as your own, because you think that is what she wants.

You have to understand sometimes these girls just want to fvck...and when you push for something more you may push yourself out of some puccy, she begins to draw back because believe it or not some of them already have a boyfriend, but they just want you to play your position as a side guy/fvck mate.

So guys if you are already vibing with the girl...just keep on flirting and fvcking and if she wants something more she'll bring it up, don't 'romantic' your way into the friend zone.

I remember an old friend of mine called joy...we met on fb and we clicked instantly...she came over few weeks later and I gave her the best sex of her life(her words not mine),she fought with me afterwards kos she said I made her cheat on her guy(she had four boyfriends as at then lol)...few months later she called again and we arranged a meeting and we still bleeped(even after she told me nothing would happen when she comes)...then the third time she came,i blew it up...she was sited on my leg and I knew she was Hot as usual but I kept telling her love love matter...na so babe vex discharge comot my house o...That night she chatted me up that we can't see again...now I understand why...see Bleep up!!!

My story:

I started dating this girl a while back after I graduated from school(we attend the same school)...she was so beautiful but I just took it by nothing..we met where we charge phones and luckily a friend of mine knew her(they stay very close) and got her number...
I called her and we got along then but we couldnt see before I left school but we started dating nonetheless...she was so sweet and nice and caring...she couldn't spend a day without hearing from me..we talked a lot and I asked her some personal questions like how many times she has had sex and she said once(saying she was raped) and she has only dated once in her life which ended in 2017
I went for my clearance in school by January and we spent time together every night and also her birthday was coming so I stayed longer just to spend it with her..
My first redflag was when I took her phone just to send games and noticed her WhatsApp and messenger were passworded..I asked her to open it and she declined saying she like her privacy..every night I was with her,she was receiving numerous calls from guys in my presence but I acted cool like nothing happened...on her birthday I invited her over and wanted to Bleep her as she was already naked but I declined because I wanted to prove that I really love her and not after sex...she actually tabbed me later for that
We continued our relationship until when I travelled to my villa for ileya during august and sent her money to come ..she came and we spent time together...this time I asked to check her WhatsApp and she opened it...lo and Behold she had accepted to date another guy..I confronted her and she said "I just wanted to know if he is deceiving me".. I was angry but ignored and I bleeped her that day with the anger in me and she apologised for it...
We continued the relationship but her cheating couldn't leave my mind as I became over protective of her...any time she uploads a guys pic I would accuse her of dating until one day she blocked me..
I called her a week later to apologise and we got talking again but this was when her rudeness started to me but I overlooked because I love her..any little disagreement she would use foul language on me and I will be the one to apologise and we settled but I noticed that her chats started getting late and she now hardly picks my call which was strange and this made me panic(worse mistake)
I became mister nice guy and started calling always,chatting always,sending her card and all that...
We were chatting one day about sex when she told me she wanted to tell me something
" what would you call a guy and a girl who have their own relationship but they do see everyday and have sex every Sunday?"...I asked her who the person was but she said it was her friend,so I told her "sexmate"...
Everyday I tried to show her I loved her more than other guys and became so so needy and this pushed her further away...
Few weeks ago we were on a video call when she said her close friend(a guy) doesn't last on bed and what can he use for it..she also said the guy was having issues with his girlfriend as he cheats and sleeps with numerous girls..she always told me the guy was her friend right from primary school so I took it as nothing...I asked her how she knew that,she said they are very close and he tells her everything and I told her a solution..
So lately she had a quarrel with her former bestie which she told me...I chatted with the bestie a few days ago and the bestie told me to warn her and also told me this
" let me tell you the truth,she does not love you and she has someone else she loves and she is just deceiving you"...I asked who the guy was and she said it was that same close friend who I stated i n the paragraph above and they have been dating for I came into her life...she even told me that they do see everyday and she goes to his house everyday Sunday(if you read a few paragraphs before you would understand perfectly)
I was sleepless that night and made further investigation and I saw some old pictures they took together and it proves they were dating then(but dunno about now)
So I confronted her and she flared up at me saying I just concluded without asking her and even said that she was dating the guy..I appolgised for coming into conclusions and I just needed to know the truth but she said since I don't trust her then no need for a relationship..
I started apologising again and again but it was worse as she even ignores my messages and cuts my calls..
I called her recently and she was asking for the money I promised her in a rude manner and I promised her i would send it soon.
I almost did but something touched my mind and I realised I was being used and manipulated by this girl so I didn't and just stopped begging or calling her...
It didn't hurt much kos she was cheating on the guy with me not the other way round but the love in me died that day..

This is my story and it happened just recently..

I wana make a suggestion here to my fellow red pullers...

Let us say our own simping stories of others to learn from...this might(or might not )help our upcoming SIMPs....

I will start with mine

Bro I know its going to be hard but you have to get over her..
Her breaking up with you was a time bomb waiting to explode anytime(and it just did)..
But count yourself lucky you were able to dodge a bullet...
Let Her Go....the guy who is filling up her mind with surely dump her soon and then she will realise the good guy she disposed earlier and want to come back,and by then am sure you wouldn't love her again..

I know it would take time(days,weeks even months) but you will forget about her...

My advice for you now is
-Delete everything about her(pics,number,chats,everything I say) bkos a quotes goes "out of sight is out of mind"..
-start talking to or hanging out with other people(avoid being alone most times) both make and female and you will see how Much you have been missing on in life.
-Start engaging in any form of exercise or sport like wieghtlifting,football,basketball
-But a playstation or Xbox game and start playing(either by yourself or with friends)
-Start chasing your goals in life and invest to create a better future for yourself...I assure you by the time you start making profit and doing well,you will forget about one ungrateful BITCH..

And my advice for your next relationship...always keep this in mind when dealing with your next girlfriend:

(1)Never get entangled to someone you cannot walk away from...
(2)Your Peace of mind is worth everything
(3)Always keep your options open..never let her be the only girl you are talking to...let her see you have more beautiful girls as friends and she can be replaced ASAP(I repeat don't tell her,let her see it and get jealous)
(4)Don't try to avoid drama with a girl...they love drama and tension...but don't be the one to start it..
(5)Never say I love you unless she says it first
(6)Never show emotions to her like jealousy or cry in her presence(if you are very sad or concerned,talk to your male friends instead)
(5)Always give her space once in a while kos she has her life to live and you have yours(so you don't appear needy and desperate..let her miss you Small while you chase your goals)
(6)spend more for yourself than her....she is her fathers responsibility and not yours
(7)Never treat her like a Queen if she doesn't treat you like a KING

You didn't loose her,she lost you
She lost a Diamond while searching for stones
Enjoy your life bro and don't let anyone feel you don't deserve to be loved..kos you do

YOU are the PRIZE

Kizito2nv:
I stumbled on this thread cos I knew I'm a certified simp.

My girlfriend just broke up with me for a stupid reason saying we have different ideologies

I'm still reading at page 10 just realized it was all my fault I tried to be the Mr nice guy, promised to stick with her even when I was gaining nothing from the relationship.

The break up was last week, I pleaded for acceptance up till Monday this week she refused that she can't be in a one sided relationship,

Which means e don tey wey she lose interest.

I stopped asking for her back, but then I felt my ego has been bruised.

Cos I'm good looking, and have a reasonable job.

I still want her back ( she is sort of a good girl) but I have stopped all communication with her cos the more I try to reach out to her the more simping

My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Bashing is allowed cos I messed up big time

a wise man once said "courage is the ability to stand up and speak,courage is also the ability to sit and listen"
I love your courage for coming out while some just let this kill them inside.
it seems you loved her genuinely but girls hardly appreciate when someone loves them more..Don't take the redpill and become a monster to girls because you might end up chasing away those that love you genuinely also,take the redpill and know when a relationship isn't going well and its time to MOVE ON.
I will tell you something I tell myself when am about to simp(not just to women but in any relationship) and I believe it will be helpful to you and other guys
"I DESERVE BETTER"
saying that to myself has really helped me when relating with people and see how I am being used or stepped on...if I love a girl,I show her but if she doesn't reciprocate the love I just tell myself that and MOVE ON..
The secret to life is to never settle for less..
Always know that "YOU ARE THE PRIZE" and you will live like a king....
The truth is the dating game is rigged against Men..
ALWAYS INVEST IN YOURSELF AND NOT WOMEN...
and remember YOU DESERVE BETTER....

The simp movie of the decade should be KING KONG (2005)...
I watched the movie last night and I was just laughing...
-beauty caused the downfall of a beast
-many guys lost their life to rescue a girl
If a girl watches such movie...why won't she feel so proud...knowing guys can actually risk their lifes for hers

Depsui:


Depression can be crazy something. You can be happy for a whole month, and it just comes back out of the blue. Especially when you're idle.

Idleness makes it far worse...

Depsui:



Am happy for you. Have you completely recovered from depression?

I can't say bro...I still have up and downs when it comes to my mood...but am happier now and see more meaning to life...so for now am good bro..thanks for asking

I see people use the word depression without knowing what it truely entails...people also mistake sadness for depression which baffles me a lot...I suffered depression also and mehn I saw no use being alive anymore..
Depression is having a body that wants to live but a mind that wants to die.
I was going through a lot in my life once and it felt like I should just end the nightmare once..it was like I was afraid of dying but I didn't want to live anymore...I lost motivation to do anything,I hid from the world,I isolated myself and spent my day thinking and crying,I lost the urge to even eat and I lost so much weight,I felt like my life had no meaning...Depression is the deepest point of sadness where you feel it was better you were dead than alive...
Tips that helped me
-I started exercising eg weight lifting, cardio exercise like running and also playing football.
-I started socialising more,going out with friends.
-I started watching funny movies and videos like comedy skits just to boost my mood
-I spoke to my elder brother about it(tho I didn't tell him I was almost suicidal) and he gave me advice and was calling me constantly and we spoke a lot.
-I bought a ps3 with a lot of games in it and played it most time
-I left social media especially Facebook,Instagram(was only on WhatsApp) kos seeing people Happy and living their lives made me more depressed than ever...
Just avoid being alone with your thoughts and you will be fine

The five attributes of a simp that ladies hate(but will never tell you)

-checking up on her constantly(it shows you don't have a life outside her...don't do this bro..let her MISS YOU small)
-apologising for petty things(she expects you to stand you ground always..only appolgise when she finds you cheating,I repeat ONLY)
-getting jealous(it just tell her you are weak...leave jealousy for women bro..even when you are jealous never show her)
-laziness (when you are online all day chatting with her,it shows you have nothing going on in your life)
-being judgemental(she upload a guys pic,you complain,she doesn't tag you in a post you complain,she replies late bkos she was busy you still complain...calm down..don't overpush little things)

Let your relationship flow naturally,give her space even when she doesn't ask for it,have other hobbies or activities going on,when she becomes emotional or manipulative with you just ignore her totally till she calls or chat you back up,don't tell her you have options just show her,Never triple text her if she isn't replying,never leave more than two missed call on her phone,remember that you can do all this and she will still cheat so prepare your mind down,be ready to move on always...


Do this and live peacefully

An alpha male don't let things like things disturb him so much he comes here to ask for advice...
Don't you have other Goals in life??

benzene00:



Guys have been choosing girls cause of their pretty face since time memorial.

has the world ended??

I have seen every type of guy with every type of girl....so looks doesn't really matter...
what's attracts a girl differs from person to person

benzene00:


I don't which part of the world you live in

my senior brother is over 45yrs old , And still looking young and strong..

I can't even understand how you came up with a guy that is over 40yrs is already old and ugly.. like are you okay??

Bro...am done arguing with you...no matter how Handsome you look there are still millions better looking than you...
if a girl chooses you just for your looks,what will stop her from choosing a better looking guy..
you are the type that prey on other people bkos they ain't as good looking as you..
Dey feel yourself..las las na 6 feet underground all of us dey go one day...

benzene00:


40??

c. Ronaldo is almost 40yrs old,
now tell me if you are in anyway finer than him

Ronaldo is worth over 400 million dollars....he has enough money to maintain his looks but age still tells on him....
now tell me if you are as rich as him to maintain your looks till n after that age..

benzene00:


so if a monkey gathers confidence, it will also win a girl

confidence kill u dere

lol....we will all loose our looks when we get old so what remains...when we all get to 40+, our looks levels up with an ugly guy so what do you have left to offer....
looks is temporary while confidence is for a lifetime

life is like a card game.The day you were born you are given you own set of cards..no matter how you complain you can't change the cards,you just have to play with what you have...
I have seen ugly looking guys in my area get some of the cutest girls n I keep asking myself what they see in them.
These guys have massive confidence and they don't care what anyone thinks of them and the ladies love them for that..
Guys choose girls base on looks,girls choose guys base on confidence.
Focus on what you can change and ignore what you can't
you can't change your facial looks but you can work on your body posture,your hygiene,your personality,your humours,and also workout.
all this builds your confidence in yourself and if a girl doesn't like you after you have changed all this then she isn't worth it..move on to the next

I have seen all type of guys with all type of women.... Beauty is subjective...

DeadWrong:

In my hey days as a bachelor, I never asked a lady out twice, I never pursued a woman. Even when I asked my wife out, I made her know from the onset that she should be sure of her response. She thought I was joking. Her response wasn't a yes or no. But more like, "let me think about it" or "I want to be chased". Although, she had a strong reason for not giving me an answer right away which I understood. She was coming out of a relationship where the guy was always pestering her with phone calls and always wanted to know where she was at every single point in time. So she needed a break.

"Fair enough" I said. But in my mind I was like, I am not that nigga to ask you out the second time or pursue you like a prize to be won. This ain't ego. I treasure my time a lot and I don't give it out freely. My time and effort are better spent on developing myself career wise. My principle back in the day was: "money over bitches". This was long before I knew about the redpill.

I never asked her out again. Until several days later, she noticed I hadn't chatted her in a while and she was like "Hey what's up? I haven't heard from you in a while". Me: I have been very busy. I hope you're well and all that.

We had other conversations and I never brought up the matter again. She was stunned - I could tell. She gave so many green lights before I capitulated. Yes, a nigga must be sensitive and capable of showing emphathy as well. If a lady likes you and gives green light, acknowledge it and show that you care as well. But don't be a simp while at it!

She said but you were discussing something with me. I got the message and eventually did ask her for the second time. She agreed instantly to a relationship. We dated for 1 year and a half and got married.

I have never for once regretted that decision. She's a ride or die chick. But no matter what, I don't lose my guard. I have been tempted to lose it a few times but I didn't cave in. I provide leadership and direction for my family as I deem fit.

I don't normally visit the romance thread but I was bored one day and decided to check out what the romance thread was all about sef; that was how I stumbled on the red pill thread and that has been the only thread I read whenever I visit the romance section.

You guys are doing a good job. Respect.

The messages preached here are audible to the deaf and visible to the blind. Men should make the best out of it in their best interest and for the greater good of the society.

nice lecture on the redpill boss
what she did there was a shit test to see how you will react if she doesn't chat you up(if you are a simp)..
I tell men to never chase women rather just show interest and go back to your goals(which definitely isn't Her)...if she doesn't agree(which usually is a test also),don't look for her reasons by asking why as it make you look weak...move on like nothing happen..women full everywhere.
Value your time and invest it well

Faber:
Sadly some guys don't wanna take the red pill. Tommorow they will come online to bother us with tales of how these holes are not loyal...and how they don break their hearts. No be who you give your heart go break am. We wey no give anyone our heart...our heart go dey intact till we return it back to God.

Lemme show you guys why u should never trust a girl. Even the one that is 3 months old. She don't trust you either...


I asked a girl claiming she is single bla bla bla for her pics just now...I mean just now...we are still chatting sef...She sent me some pics and I discovered she is a lying hole. First that's a guy's room and then you gats to be a smart guy for you to discover the remaining clue. Am just laughing at her dull head

E be like say the guy bleep am finnish dey tire his shoe laces make them comot

Bro,this isn't what redpill preaches...you shouldn't reveal anybody's picture here to support your claim..respect everybody's privacy
Take down the pics before you cause something else

lol....loving a woman or girl doesn't make you a simp..don't mind all this guys saying and labeling people SIMPs bkos they do something for their girl.
you are only a simp when you ain't in control of your relationship..thereby you become very needy...
so back to your request...just do these two things and you will be redpilled even without knowing it

-BE HAPPY WITH OR WITHOUT A GIRLFRIEND-have a life outside your relationship so you don't choke her,give her space she needs to miss you,don't be needy,develop good habits,engage in your favourite sport,play your favourite game,hang out with your guys or other females..if she (or any girl) see you are happy generally,they will wana share that happiness with you (more pussy for you to Bleep then)

-LEARN TO MOVE ON-if you see your girl or anybody taking advantage of you,give them enough space...if they come back fine,if they don't that's fine too,you will still meet more people in your life and you will forget about them..always say this to yourself when confused "I am the Prize to be won".if you see your girl becoming toxic,disrespectful or even cheated,just dissapear from their lives...life is too short for all those drama...
enjoy your life my friend and forget about being a simp or redpiller..BE YOURSELF and BE A GOOD PERSON