Some women can be very funny. When we try to take care of them they get all feminist and independent on us,and when we use our money to do better things they say we're stingy,or we dont woo them,etc. I thank God my own isnt like that,sha.

Not wanting to date poor people is not a bad thing. I actually admire her honesty,after all,we know many women are hypocrites,they will say love conquers all,but these are the same ones that will forbid poor men saying are they gonna eat/wear love or survive on it?
@op,you've heard from both sides,and the points for or against can be summarised as follows:
1.For: That he's jobless does not mean he'll be poor forever.
2-For: That he suggested what he did shows that he loves you and he wants you to be happy.
3-For: You love him.
1.Against: Your biological clock is ticking. You're 31 and you're not getting any younger. Time is not on your side so think with your head and not with your heart.
2-Against: Who's to say after you've waited for him and he's made something of himself he wont suddenly decide you're not good enough for him and dump you for a younger,fresher woman?
3-Against: If you two continue,are you sure you'll be able to deal with caring for yourself,him,and any children you may have in future(assuming things dont work out for him).
In the end,you'll have to make the decision,so it's vital you do that without the influence of friends/family. Dont drive yourself crazy thinking:what if? What if i dump him today and tommorow he gets a great job and becomes amazingly succesful? What if i stay and he never gets a job? What if this. . ? What if that. . ? You cant second-guess life,you cant guess every eventuality,you cant plan for every possible outcome so dont bother trying.

I didnt toast her,she toasted me,and ended up being my first shag. After her i never had problems toasting girls.

Female-genny,nadia buari(I've dreamt about nadia before). Male-dont know. Does banky w count? I know many girls who r crushin on him.

@biola,let's assume the unreasonable partner is a man. Did she not know he was unreasonable before she married him?

Ok,here's something romantic:
"It was barely 6 a.m when i knocked on her door. It was still dark out,and i shivered involuntarily as i waited for her to come out. I knocked again,and still there was no answer. Shivering slightly,i brought my phone out of my left front pocket and called her. After the third ring,she picked my call. "Who is it?",she asked groggily. "It's me. Come and open the door",i replied. She swore softly under her breath and abruptly cut the call. A few minutes later,she was at the door. She was my girlfriend,and she'd been my girlfriend for over a year. Her name was abigail. "Hey babe",i said and kissed her softly on her forehead. "Hey",she replied grumpily and let me in. I chuckled softly. My girlfriend was so not a morning person. "Just one question,Nosa",she said as she put water in the electric kettle for coffee,and continued;"What are you doing here? It's barely 6 a.m". "I know",i replied. "And how come you always look so good in the morning?",she muttered. I chuckled again. "Remember i told you i had a surprise for you?" "Yeah. . . . ?" "Well this is it. Go into your room,shower,get dressed and pack an overnight bag". "But. . . " "Shhh. . . ",i cut in and continued;no questions. Just go and do what i said". She looked at me for a few seconds,but then shrugged and went inside. I toyed with the idea of making her breakfast,but then scrapped it as i remembered that she didnt eat anything that early,except her coffee and maybe orange juice and toast. I sat down on her sofa,switched on the t.v and watched the morning news. About 20 minutes later,she came out,dressed in a pair of black denim knee-length shorts and a hot pink top. I loved the way her breasts looked in them-i've always been a breast man,and she caught me staring. "I'd love to have 10 minutes with those",i murmured softly. She grinned at me and gave them a little jiggle. "You're killing me babe,killing me",i said,and then continued;"Come on babe,we gotta go".
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Are you ok with it or not?

You asked whether she can ever be faithful to you? Do you have any proof that she was ever unfaithful to you? Maybe she doesnt feel comfortable cutting out someone who's always been there for her long before you came around. You shouldnt give her ultimatums,just try and make her see that she needs to limit her friendship with this guy,not neccessarily end it. If both of you do get married,YOU should be her best friend,not some other guy. Third parties can be very dangerous in any r/ship.

Try a buzz cut,or maybe a skin cut. . Lol.

Wtf? Why on earth should he put his friends on conference calls when he's talking with you? That's the kinda thing my cousins in sec school do. Doing it occasionally,some people might be ok with that,but i'm not comfortable doing it,not even once in a while. Apart from the whole your-best-friend-steals-your-girl thing,it boils down to privacy issues. I dont see why a private conversation with my woman should become public knowledge. But that's just me. If you were okay with it,i would've said,diff strokes,but you're not,and the fact that he's continually doing something directly connected to you,something that you're not ok with shows a total lack of respect for you and tells me there's something wrong with your r/ship.

I firmly believe in marriage being for better or worse. Marriage is a big deal-making a commitment to be with someone for the rest of your life is very serious,and we should treat it as such. People shouldnt go into marriage thinking if it doesnt work out,or if i suddenly decide i'm feeling 'trapped',i can just walk out. That's just plain selfish.

Its never happened to me,so i wouldnt know.

I dont think people should be denied the right to love and be loved simply because they're from different tribes,so if i were a parent,my kids would be free to love someone from any tribe.

You can get away with saying that if she's a hooker. All she'll do is state her price.

@olusolami,i dont see why you should blame the guy,afterall,YOU were the one who took his shit for a year. I agree that the culture in which a child is raised will affect the man he'll become,but the facts are,a jerk is a jerk,whether he is igbo or not,and by the same token,a good man is a good man,regardless of his tribe,so please dont generalize,dont say 'they' are the worst. That aside,i'm truly sorry that you went through all that.@topic,i havent really noticed.

But if she needs more for something important and i can afford it,then i'l give it to her.

5k is enough. That should include credit and other little stuff but should exclude the money you spend on dates.

Oh and love too,if it comes

Companionship,sex,cleaning/cooking services,etc.

Wheat.

Ok. No more 'nonsence'.

Pls,dont y'all know potbellies are sexy? As for me,i try not to eat it for dinner. A regular schedule of exercisd helps.

@op,you're good. The only problem is that you seem to think you know everything. It's very annoying.

Sorry. Dying between your legs

Dieing between your legs

Chris attoh is a ghanian actor who plays kwame on the mnet soap-tinsel. Kwame's the guy on the wheelchair who's got a lot of issues,is angry at the world and was a jerk to Telema at first. He's a damn good actor. Infact,i think he's the best actor on the show. I definitely want to see him in nigerian movies.

You want a mature,divorced or MARRIED woman?

Oh shit,'none sence'? Are you sure you're not still in sec. school?

Sorry oh,i thought she was talking about cohabitation and adultery as two seperate activities. If she's talking about being a married man's spare tyre and living with him or just sleeping with him,then both of them are very very wrong. There are some things you just dont mess with,and marriage is one of them.