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I have read many posts on here, and if you are going to be critical please don't reply. I am looking for serious advice. I met a Nigerian man online and we have been talking for about 13 months. I have found him to be very honest, sensitive, respectful, caring and a hard worker. I have been very cautious since the beginning, even trying to discourage him because I was not looking for a Nigerian or a long distance relationship. At one point we did want to marry, but some things have come up between us. Initially his mother was very happy for us, then he told her that we were getting married and that I could no longer have children (he knew this from very early on), she got very upset (and that is putting it mildly). I know that children are very important in his culture, but she insisted that he have grandchildren for her. He was torn between marrying me and obeying his mom. Then polygamy came into the discussion. I told him I did not believe polygamy was right and that if he married anyone else I could not marry him. All along we have had some difficulty with communication. I have gone out of my way to use terms that most people understand and explain why I said or did when he misunderstood me. However, recently he told me that he did not like some of my posts/messages and that he thinks we should look for different people. I could understand this if it was because he wanted children or even if it was only his mom wanting grandchildren (and this may be part of it). I just don't know how I can say things in a way that he understands. I know he has been under a lot of stress lately which also could be part of it. I have done everything possible to understand his culture better and have talked with him about this, but I am just not sure what to do at this point. I have always gone along with others decisions, but I am trying to stand up for my own wishes, and I love this amazing man. Any advice would be appreciated!