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Nairaland / General / Why? by Blemex: 5:53pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
Why is it that almost all ladies make use of red lipstick regardless of theìr complexion? |
Romance / Re: Things You Should Do For Your Partner On Valentine's Day by Blemex: 1:43pm On Feb 14, 2013 |
[color=#770077][/color] e tøo dry jawe, i cant folow any of diz stepz |
Romance / Re: Cant Fight The Tears by Blemex: 9:37pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
amyg: How many times do I have 2 read dis story?(recycle).d same guys dat post it find it hard 2 practice it.google it or u shd ask opele. |
Romance / Re: Cant Fight The Tears by Blemex: 11:06am On Aug 13, 2012 |
ikechukz: copy and paste things.e no dey hard.Doz it mata? Wat u nid 2 knw is LEARN EITHER ONE OR TWO LESSONS |
Romance / Re: Cant Fight The Tears by Blemex: 11:04am On Aug 13, 2012 |
Idowuogbo: Shyte wo lon chat laro yi na!meaning pls... |
Romance / Re: Cant Fight The Tears by Blemex: 8:09am On Aug 13, 2012 |
ATMC: How u come about dt?c me c ? o. Shey u no dey read articles ni. |
Romance / Re: Cant Fight The Tears by Blemex: 7:09am On Aug 13, 2012 |
D-Explorer:Dunno, i came across it n felt its gud i share it. |
Romance / Cant Fight The Tears by Blemex: 1:57am On Aug 13, 2012 |
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the spoon and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had escorted her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carefully walk her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any physical contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I held her by the shoulders and walked her out of the room with care, on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, ‘daddy is so gentle to mommy.’ His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I left her at the main door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I was walking with her (one arm around her shoulder), I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized how much time we have spent together to make this house and to set our lives and sense of guilt grew. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to take care of her and walk easily beside her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday routine made me it easier now. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father walking beside his mother so lovingly had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her with my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. I held her tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter self made me sad. On the last day, when I held her with my arms I could hardly move a step. sense of guilt was tremendous. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband.... The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. Years after we get married we stop caring for each other like we used to do in the initial days. we start to ignore and take each other for granted. result is boredom. just a bit of caring and sharing can set things right. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse, friend, family and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. |
Religion / Re: Re-must I Pay Tithe To Get To Heaven? by Blemex: 1:11am On Aug 13, 2012 |
ebamma: tithe in nigerian churches is defined as the money gullible worshippers pay every month to the pastor,who uses it to buy private jets,luxurious cars,expensive clothes and exotic houses.shut up if u dnt av any reasönable fin 2 say. Or where on earth is dat definitn st8td? |
Religion / Re: Re-must I Pay Tithe To Get To Heaven? by Blemex: 1:07am On Aug 13, 2012 |
kenny888: without tithe,pastors will go hungry,why do you think we have so many churches around the whole area,even some face to face churchesdat shows u atend one of doz churches. |
Religion / Re: Re-must I Pay Tithe To Get To Heaven? by Blemex: 1:05am On Aug 13, 2012 |
pstbolanta: PL;S LETS BE SERIOUS HEREu caused d rubbish, cos i c no reason y u shd bring topic lik dis 2 nairaland wen u av ur bible... Study 2 show thyself aprovd un2 God, a workman dat needeth nt 2 b ashamed, rightly dividing d word of truth.. But shun profane and babblings 4 dey wil increase un2 mor ungodlines. Its beta u read Malachi 3:1-18. Precisely 4rm verses 8-12 |
Religion / Re: Nigerian Church Praise & Worship Songs Here by Blemex: 12:47am On Aug 13, 2012 |
ifihearam: Nice thread. Mine are hmmmmmOlorun mi/2x iwo loju ti mo fin riran iwo ni kokoro ti mo fin shilekun iwo lorin ti mo un ko ina aye e ko je ko jo mi kini mo ni ti mo le fun o o? Mo wo le mo wa juba re. OLORUN mi 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Nigerian Church Praise & Worship Songs Here by Blemex: 12:39am On Aug 13, 2012 |
Deewonder: In the crossdis hymn usualy draws me 2 tears during holy communion, i normaly hold d microphone firm 2 hide my tears. |
Religion / Re: Nigerian Church Praise & Worship Songs Here by Blemex: 12:35am On Aug 13, 2012 |
ojondybrown: Alagbara lo olurun mipraise n worship nt revival song haa. 1 Like |
Business / Re: Is GTBank Forcing Customers To Open Current Accounts? by Blemex: 12:29am On Aug 13, 2012 |
slimming: Are you saying i can transfer with saving account to another gt bank acct holder? the last time i check, the customer care said it can't be possible except i have current account.yes u can, av dön dat several times n neva experienced any kwam. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 10:28am On Jun 29, 2012 |
kpolli:says who? |
Education / Re: UNILORIN Expels 13 Students For Misconduct by Blemex: 10:11pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
dani1luv:u dnt av 2 lie in order 2 mak pple folow ur thread, eth u'v said is lie. May God Forgiv u bc d 1st name u listed is d name of d president of my dpartment n we stil ad sum chat as of yesterday. I c no reason y u shd create such a big lie against my sch n d names dat u listed. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 6:16pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
Beync: there's something u maybe overdoing unknowingly, take a chill pill girl.Sewiosly, it seems u r on point. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 6:13pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
angiemartinez: hs gat mood swing dear, jst give him some space. U dnt nid 2 feel bad, more wil come. U jst av 2 undastnd dat pipo r like dat r times. Cheer upAite. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 6:11pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
koozy: Sometimes trying to make someone happy can get very irritating when it's overdone. This person is prolly just in bad form or feels u need to chill with ityea, i guess u'v said d truth. Fanx |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 2:43pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
Exponental: Understand u cant please every body.......n d somebody in question is part of everybody. Just relax n let him be. U probably have been imposing.......so, free him!!!!!!uhmmm, i respect n accept ur comment. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 12:32pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
Acidosis: How do you make someone happy?It depends on d situation on ground. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 12:30pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
Yield: Maybe you need to start distancing yourself from this person because their negativity's taking a toll on you. You're going out of your way to make them happy, but your efforts aren't being appreciated. You can't blame yourself for that. You need to realize you can't please everyone. If they're constantly draining your energy like that, then you need to pull back and look after you.This is sum1 i find it hard 2 create a distance for. |
Romance / Re: How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 12:28pm On Jun 28, 2012 |
Mynd_44: At least he told you the truth so you can plan your next actionI almst cried over it. |
Romance / How Will You Feel? by Blemex: 10:43pm On Jun 27, 2012 |
How wil u feel? if u are trying 2 mak someöne happy and after everything you've done, d next thing dat person said was "you are makin me angry". It just happened 2 me now n i am feeling like harming mysef, because d statement was so painful to me. |
Romance / Re: Age Difference Sure Matters In 'Will You Marry Me?' by Blemex: 10:36am On Jun 21, 2012 |
funny |
Romance / Re: WHICH Will You Prefer And WHY? by Blemex: 11:24pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
Uhmmm... |
Romance / Re: WHICH Will You Prefer And WHY? by Blemex: 11:14pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
Consider ice]Al of the above. Thumbs up. |
Romance / Re: WHICH Will You Prefer And WHY? by Blemex: 11:12pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
Where dia is gud n bad comments... Cant stop lafin |
Romance / Re: Age Difference Sure Matters In 'Will You Marry Me?' by Blemex: 2:57pm On Jun 19, 2012 |
So sum1 can tel u dat n u'l believe in dis era... He had no proof to verify his opinion. Dnt u knw dat " 2 knw dat something is true is 2 knw n acept d methods of substantiatin its truth"? Dia4 4 u 2 av acept wat he said d method of establishin d veracity of d claim must be valid. |
Romance / Re: Age Difference Sure Matters In 'Will You Marry Me?' by Blemex: 11:42pm On Jun 14, 2012 |
Mtscheeew.., asee |
Romance / Re: WHICH Will You Prefer And WHY? by Blemex: 11:42pm On Jun 10, 2012 |
I prefer takin my complains to my male friends cos i hate a situation whereby my guy wil c me as a person that complains to much. |
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