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Please come clean on what your son is accused of. Is it just stealing? At 12, kids are known to do a lot. Does your brother have his own kids that your son may have harmed or gotten into a scuffle with? Cos i'm pretty sure your brother would not toss him out for petty stealing alone even if his wife says otherwise. Its possible they may have mentioned other things your husband is scared of. Like does he keep bad company with older criminals? Is he sexually active? These things would make even a man of God reject to keep such child in their home especially when they have younger kids that are impressionable or could easily become potential victims.

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You are not ripe for marriage. If your parents who wouldn't be living with you in your marital home has so much power, then, stay put with your parents and safe a sister the stress.

Also, you been asked when you intend settling down is a concern for me. If you still attend to such questions and get bothered by them, I fear you shouldn't deal with marriage. The challenges you have to deal with after marriage is way more.

Lastly, my major pain is that you want to hold someone responsible for other people's beliefs.

Sometimes, try to read to comprehend before drawing hasty conclusions.

How am I not ready? When I wrote *I've been asked* I didnt suggest that the questions bothered me. I even mentioned at the very beginning that I have been thinking about settling down. I simply meant that I was not expecting any resistance when I finally decided I was ready to tell them, because they've been asking. I also wrote i had taken my time to ensure i was ready cos my last relationship was several years ago. So when I was sure I was prepared, I went to see them. No one is happy for their parents to not be on their side when they decide to settle. If not for anything else, their blessing is still important.

Good evening NL,

I am a young man in my early thirties who has been thinking of settling down for sometime now. I was worried for a bit that I may never find my kinda woman after my previous relationship went sour several years ago. Last year, around May, I met a young lady in her mid twenties. Now she doesnt exactly have everything figured out in her life yet, she comes from a poor background and has no tertiary education but I was so drawn to her that I started investing heavily in helping her and her family, education and otherwise. I have been asked a couple of times when I was planning to settle down, so when I was certain I could spend the rest of my life with this young lady, I decided to take the news home. I had been to her place and her family welcomed me. But on getting to mine, my parents had received negative reviews about her church from a family friend and seemed devastated that I planned to marry someone whose religious denomination has questionable roots and rumours of traditional practices which is a big issue for them. Now while the young lady has decided to join my denomination, and my parents are happy to accept her, they are worried about the kind of faith and practice in her family’s denomination that isnt really considered christian. I have spoken to my girl about their practices and she has told me she is not aware of the rumours concerning their denomination. What do I do?

Please help a fella out. I really want to marry her but this refusal on my parents part is breaking my heart.