sisisioge:

It is so unfortunate that no one can forsee the future hence we would have do better. He gave him that money so he can support his family knowing fully well that the money belongs to my mom, I thought he will be responsible with it and not misuse it. But what can I say no one can forsee the future sir cos if I had know I won't have given him the money
You should never use someone else's money to test the waters! How dare you! Just gather your mother's money back and return it. Na you marry agbako.

Vision101:
Madam you are an extremely good woman. You truly love your husband. Unfortunately you are not helping his nature. He is a proud, notice me and show off person. These things come first to him than the image of his family and the peace of his children.

When you have this type of person, you should play your part to save your children and the image of your family but you should never have exposed your finances to him. He feels that you can never allow shame to come to the family. So he cares less about planning.

Big mistake....big mistake. You should never have given him your mum's money. I don't want to say things that I suspect as they will get you very angry.

Move very fast. Get a trusted church leader, relation or friend that he respects and insist on retrieving your mum's money. You can invest it in your business and manage and pay rent from their. Your husband can't do well in business. Don't give him any one naira again.

From now on be discrete about your finances. I feel sad as a man. God will help you because of your good heart.

nnamdiosu:


Ma,trust me
You didn't do anything wrong. You are the kind of women that are rare to find. The problem is, you married a type of husband that is very easy to find.

Don't listen to those trying to make you look stupid. IF THEY HAVE EVER WITNESS TRUE HONESTY AND SINCERITY IN MARRIAGE, THEY WOULD HAVE KNOWN ITS THE NORM .
BUT SADLY, PEOPLE FROM DYSFUNCTIONAL HOMES WONT UNDERSTAND.

it's like the home whereby each partner has the pin to each other's atm. Anyone from a home there is distrust, or stealing would scream. But its not their fault. it's because they haven't experienced the bliss of transparency in marriage or life.

Imagine you had married.someone with the same honesty, sincerity and commitment to family, you would have really really enjoyed this marriage. Anyways, solutions.

NO ONE IS PERFECT, JUST FORGIVE HIS EXCESSES AND LOOK FOR SOLUTIONS TOGETHER

1. In as much as you have a sincere and good heart, it's clear your husband doesn't. (Let's call a spade a spade ) therefore operating in the atmosphere of sincerity totally might not be too advisable.

In as much as I'm an advocate of total transparency, there are some rare and drastic cases that one must use wisdom.
We, when the landlord wants to kick you guys out of the house, no one will know or.say, you tried, it was your husband that messed up.
They will just say,
Them no fit pay, them.dey stay for.house.way big pass them


2. You'll have to be careful. It's clear that he isn't responsible. That's the gospel truth. A responsible man would never ever do.anythimg to jeopardize the safety or wellness of his family. He even went a firthur step of embelezzing based on pride and ego. That's a very dangerous combo.

IM NOT HERE TO CASTIGATE HIM. NO. ONLY TRYIMG TO OPEN YOUR EYES TO THE TRUTH.

You have to talk to him. Point out this issues and show him why it can be detrimental to the safety of the family, now or in the nearest future.

Find out if he wants to start a biz and look in both together if it will be favourable. Then see if you can support him again.
.

therefore since.you are now the bread winner, it will be tough but.you just have to take some decisions that will be hard to.
You might now have to.start doing the financial planning for the family small by small till he comes back to a matured self.

You might have to also save for.importsnt bills to.ensure the safety of the family.

You also have to pray seriously for him.

That's the little i have to advise. May God see you through. Amen

Kabongo1:
Does Fidelity send SMS alerts that carries customer name?

tripplephi:


MADAM... so sorry you are going through this... PRAYER MAY NOT WORK... but counseling from people he respects either in church or family will work a little.

You have to stand your ground... ELSE, if you die, that man will move on so fast. See, he married you but he is not in LOVE with you- BITTER TRUTH.


You need to wake up and stay woke. STOP TRYING TO "SAVE HIM" everytime o.


take care of the children and keep quiet... he will sort himself out.

extol1:

I can bet it that the man is not ready to listen to anything because of his pride, ego and showoff mentality

MMotimo:


You have to immediately seize the rest from him because that is very unfair to your Mom. It’s one thing to mismanage money belonging to you both but your mom should not suffer because of the relationship.

MMotimo:
Please don’t tell me the money he’s spending is your Mom’s

ahnie:

Maybe he's trying to impress someone.

thebosstrevor1:
The signs have been there that your husband is a good for nothing man but because he is your husband, you didn't see it.

1. He is a liar
2. Keeps secrets from you
3. You set up something for him, he didn't continue, he packed up after 2 months

The only thing you can do now, is to try to make sure the remaining money in the account does not go to voice mail

Withdraw it and keep it away from an irresponsible man suffering from lowself esteem

ahnie:
Madam cajole him to resend the remaining money in his acct back into your account.
See it's not out of place to support your husband,but the sad truth is.....he has left the responsibilities of the house to you.










It's well.

ahnie:
You had to transfer the money into your husband account even after knowing too well that he's not only a spendthrift but also a chronic sociopath.













SMH......!

fullnetwork:
That's bad. There is nothing you can do except the money is totally spent.