OP from your write up I can guess you have almost always been that soft guy that does everything to please your lady, and that attitude is affecting your marriage now because your wife is confortable and she knows there nothing you can do regardless of the amount of her Bleep ups.
Remember how girls would do everything to please a boyfriend who is a jerk and would treat those very nice guys as trash. That happens because the babe knows that the nice guy would still come to beg even if she misbehaves. You need to change this now in your marriage and start acting like that 'jerk'. It might take a lot of time for things to change but it will definitely work for you.

Acting like a jerk doesn't meaning abusing your wife in anyway, it simply means saying NO when her conditions doesn't please you. It means becoming selfish.

The first resolution to problems in relationships is communication. If you have tabled these issues properly before her and she isn't still changing then it is time to become a selfish person.

1. She isn't working yet, so you really don't need a house help. Sack her and let your wife do her marital duties. Let your wife know her place in the home.

2. If she doesn't apologize properly for her previous Bleep up, don't grant her next financial request or any request at all. Tell her to apologize properly and still don't grant her request immediately. Grant it probably 24 hrs after she has apologized properly.

3. Never beg her for sex again in your life. Yes, I said that!! Never ever in your miseraby konjified life beg her for sex. Use porn and self service yourself. If I were you though, I would definitely get a side chic once she i see I'm begging for sex. But if you can do without a side chic, please do that because they said extra marital affairs destroys marriage and it is true to some extent.
4. Get yourself a place where you'll hangout until late night and get home very unusally late. This should raise her suspicion. she would become conscious that you can actually do without her and the whole sex thing entirely. Do this for 3-4 months at a go and you'll see changes.

Seriously, your marriage needs to be about give and take from this point. If she needs something from you she needs to do something to please you or else she isn't getting it. If she refuses to cook or clean the house then she isn't getting her next request because you aren't pleased with her. And you tell her why you are not pleased, don't just keep it to yourself.

OP, it won't be easy but I can bet there would be changes. Hit me up on in WhatsApp 08100353991if you would like to talk about it. I just hate when ladies start treating their men like trash. That shit must be corrected.

OP from your write up I can guess you have almost always been that soft guy that does everything to please your lady, and that attitude is affecting your marriage now because your wife is confortable and she knows there nothing you can do regardless of the amount of her Bleep ups.
Remember how girls would do everything to please a boyfriend who is a jerk and would treat those very nice guys as trash. That happens because the babe knows that the nice guy would still come to beg even if she misbehaves. You need to change this now in your marriage and start acting like that 'jerk'. It might take a lot of time for things to change but it will definitely work for you.

Acting like a jerk doesn't meaning abusing your wife in anyway, it simply means saying NO when her conditions doesn't please you. It means becoming selfish.

The first resolution to problems in relationships is communication. If you have tabled these issues properly before her and she isn't still changing then it is time to become a selfish person.

1. She isn't working yet, so you really don't need a house help. Sack her and let your wife do her marital duties. Let your wife know her place in the home.

2. If she doesn't apologize properly for her previous Bleep up, don't grant her next financial request or any request at all. Tell her to apologize properly and still don't grant her request immediately. Grant it probably 24 hrs after she has apologized properly.

3. Never beg her for sex again in your life. Yes, I said that!! Never ever in your miseraby konjified life beg her for sex. Use porn and self service yourself. If I were you though, I would definitely get a side chic once she i see I'm begging for sex. But if you can do without a side chic, please do that because they said extra marital affairs destroys marriage and it is true to some extent.
4. Get yourself a place where you'll hangout until late night and get home very unusally late. This should raise her suspicion. she would become conscious that you can actually do without her and the whole sex thing entirely. Do this for 3-4 months at a go and you'll see changes.

Seriously, your marriage needs to be about give and take from this point. If she needs something from you she needs to do something to please you or else she isn't getting it. If she refuses to cook or clean the house then she isn't getting her next request because you aren't pleased with her. And you tell her why you are not pleased, don't just keep it to yourself.
OP, it won't be easy but I can bet there would be changes. Hit me up on in WhatsApp 08100353991if you would like to talk about it. I just hate when ladies start treating their men like trash. That shit must be corrected.

Don't even think about. 20k isn't enough for those of us that have houses here in Lagos sef.