The bible says, seek and you shall find. You fit am for nairaland

People let's think of it this way, if your sister is double dating and miss her time for marriage because she feels she is having fun, who is to be blamed? Let advice our generation to stop this act. There's always a man for very woman. Once committed please stay that way. You make your partner what he/she is.

Hi all,

I don't know how to start putting a situation that as been bothering me together, but kindly try to understand my situation. I have been in relationships and barely a year into any, it crashes. Reason for this is that I get to fine out that my partners (one at a time) has been double dating me. I try to make amendment, but the trust dies even though I still respect them. I have had about four relationships now and all seem to be the same. I am currently in another relationship and I have strong faith that it will work but the issue again is on my partner. Due to her experiences with her relationships, she finds it had to trust even though she really loves me. I know trust is earned with time but she feels I cheat on her.
I know it’s difficult to believe that a man can stick all is feeling to one woman but that is the painful truth about me. She has hot temper and easily says things that provoke a lot. I try my best to keep her temper mild but sometimes it just goes too bad. She complains about my quietness (because I don't talk much but ask questions)

I really need advise because I have committed myself and ready to get married to her. What can I do to make her understand that she is the only woman in my life?
I adore and respect her but can she really do the things she says?

We are from two different tribes and this bothers her a lot especially when I speak my language on phone with anybody (but worst when it’s a female). I know I lied once about a girl (from my tribe) my mum wanted me to settle with, which I knew it will never be because I didn't have any feeling for her and my mum understands my stand. I told her (my fiancée) my stories and apologized to her (my fiancée) when she saw a text message from the same girl on my phone (she sent the text after telling her the truth that am in a very serious relationship). I give my fiancée access to my phone and hold no secret from her. We don’t leave in the same location but we see each other at least every two weeks interval. Above all she is such a nice and caring person.

Please someone tell me how should I tackle this situation because I don’t want to lose her or go into another relationship. Is it a crime to be open and honest in a relationship?

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