buzzy606:

hi everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   HELP.


I wish I saw this post sooner, like December 2006. It would have being wonderful.  please, this is a serious issue and i really, really need a honest sister & brotherly answers or advice.  I have a very good friend , infact, mostly like a sister.  she started dating this married man  with 2- minor children in the states, though, she said the man told her she loves her and maybe probably marriage if she doesn`t mind. after about 2 years of relationship, gifts, travelling to Nigeria like 3- 4 times in a year, she was engage, pregnant . now, I was surprised. don`t asked!!. I never believed she could do this, (we both go to the same church, if you know what i mean**** don`t ask) On her 4-month ,the man divorce his wife  with 2-kids in USA( naija woman too) although, she told as afriend, that the man is having problem with his wife, but , who cares, but as a friend, i told her what goes around comes around.   to cut the story short, she gave birth to this child, and the baby die less than 24 hrs. shocking??!!.

In a way, she taught i have something to do with it, the wife abroad doesn`t know nothing so she is out. but my friend now desperately want to win this guy by all means. she quit her job at the bank, and with her man friend`s help , she went to London. but not yet certified. she is now telling other people, and friends that as much as the ex- wife still live she cann`t enjoy this man(the man doesn`t have tons of millions o, but a good job in America) ***** 



My main point about this thread is,  I seriously afraid she might go to far.  And ,if something bad happen i wouldn`t be able to live with myself.   yes, girls date married man, snacth husbands, but killing??  help me ooooooooooo.
during a ceremony in January,2007 I found out the ex-wife ,  was somebody to be my own in-law.  I was going to be married to her mother`s brother`s son.

members,are you following me? the reason i didn`t put 2 &2 together is because, this ex-wife never do introduction among the two families, she just came home(naija)9years ago to marry  in court, so the man can move over there.
as everybody says, America, London , is not easy, na so,so, work work and kids, she never come home with her husband, maybe, I would have known her and at least, save her marriage. BECAUSE, I KNOW WHAT MY FRIEND DID.


So , to those who said men cheat because, their wife did not do what they supposed to do or give, is a lie. men cheat, ok, this man cheat because he taught his wife will never find out because of the distance, and according to him and i quote, don`t worry she cann`t know, and if she does, i`ll scared her with divorced so she will keep shut, and besides, she loves me too much.

If i may tell you, 
I think my friend's baby died because,  maybe of what she was using during the pregnancy(because she wasn`t so sure who has it) or maybe, possible a punishment from God.

SERIOUSLY WORRIED.