Looking at going in November or early December to Nigeria

Like I said earlier broke up with my Nigerian girlfriend already, maybe I just go for detty December and have a good time or bad idea?

imustsaymymindo:


Lol, bro. I took the time to read your posts.

Don't go to Nigeria o. The cost of tickets by now in this ember period would be high, you'd get Billings from your gf or ex-gf and other people, and those days of debauchery you want to have, you may not get it, and Naija is a bit unstable in many areas at the moment. You are not even in Naija yet, you are getting billings from strangers on Nairaland already.

You have to build and take out time to learn the game. Don't rush. I see you are going on a date soon. Good for you. But I don't think thriving to get a girlfriend would help your current state. If you get a girlfriend now and you relapse and she finds out about it, you are going to be creatively dealt with and you would prefer so badly to lose 20k in sex than for you to be in that situation. They don't tolerate cheating lightly there. And moreso, you sound quite naive to female nature.

My advice would be:

1.⁠ ⁠Network and see where you can get cheaper transactional sex when Hot. Massage parlors, nightclubs, referrals etc. Or masturbate responsibly. Don't listen to the advice to camp a homeless girl.

2.⁠ ⁠Get on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and what-not and like away. Just like, don't initiate convo. Let the girls initiate the convo first. That'd help sieve those who would want something to do with you. The direct approach is not for online activities. Although you might end up with girls, not your spec it doesn't matter, you are just using them to move up and increase your options. I call it, starting with the obese.

3.⁠ ⁠Take yourself out. Amusement parks, clubs, barbecue parties, cinemas, zoos, Parks, Pubs, conferences, Google meetup, etc. This is where you can now apply the direct approach. Talk to a girl who also came alone, you can even pay for her activity at the place(They'd appreciate it. They don't get that regularly). Be smooth with your words and confident.

4.⁠ ⁠Have an abundance mindset. Don't operate in scarcity. Talk to new girls even in Nigeria, and tell your Naija friends to introduce some Naija girls to you. Have a lot of them. It's long-distance but it's just to trick your brain into abundance. And for you who love the only fans' shenanigans, the Naija babes can give you a private perverse show at low or no cost depending on your game.

5.⁠ ⁠Have a good Instagram for social proof. Nigeria has the numbers. Once you take some pictures of yourself in nice places in Canada, flaunting some cars that are not yours, and all, you'll get many Naija followers who want to be like you. Or you can even buy an IG account sef. So that when you meet girls online or offline in Canada, instead of giving them your number or Whatsapp, you give them your Instagram(for social proof as most of them won't even have that amount of followers). I am sure some of those Onlyfan models and Tryst people don't even have followers up to a normal random Naija dude doing basics on Instagram.

6.⁠ ⁠Lastly, go to the gym, lose weight by taking note of your diet, and build muscle. This would make you attractive by the day. And also when you eventually get a lay, you'd be mentally prepared to devour that juice like a proper black man with steeze so they can keep coming back for more at no cost. You don't want to end up a one-minute man after all these hassles.

I wish you good luck, my friend. You might also want to consider taking the Redpill while you are at it because your game levels need to be on par to pull all this off and to be safe out there.

Wow, this is so helpful

I’m considering visiting Nigeria soon , don’t know if that would help too or?

Sapasenator:


He is not ready.

It’s not that easy the way you put it, I’m working hard on myself , addiction can be a really terrible thing

BBM:
It's very simple to stop when the money runs dry in your case

Other than that
I don't think you can stop as long as you money is still coming

For a start
Delete all those app
Including your bank app
You can break your ATM

I’m trying too, deleting my app or breaking my atm card might be difficult

tensazangetsu20:


Follow everything I wrote up there and if you don't get a gf in 3 months you can sue me. I did the same in Chile with Spanish that I still don't speak very fluently. If I was in Canada, I could probably do it in a month.

Definitely, I created a tinder and bumble account recently ,

Also have a date with a mixed Dominican and Brazilian lady , 2nd week of September, hopefully it goes well.

But I’m now open to other ethnicities and races, not limiting myself to just Nigerians

I’m speechless, this community is amazing , I’ve started getting myself back, one week plus and I’m all clean, getting into a much bigger career with more pay, truly amazing but still im working on getting a girlfriend here and I’ve left my ex that I was dating in Nigeria .

I finally broke up and I feel so bad within myself,

Breaking up is so terrible and can be heartbreaking for the other person. But I just had to do it to possibly get a chance at healing and figuring out myself

Also I don’t think I would ever do long distance relationship again .

I’m so messed up , so so messed up ,

So foolish and weak .

I did it again just this evening , I think a demon is in me

I’m so done and messed up

UyaiIncomparabl:
You only have one potent solution— LOSE YOUR JOB and go broke. The condition of being broke in a cold clime like Canada will set you back to default.

I guess so , cause I’m messed up

ObalendeCMS:
Forget that your girl for Nigeria; some dude is busy screwing her like no tomorrow.

Nigerian girls are low-key prostitutes, especially if their lovers aren't near & they know they can easily get away with it!

I doubt she is though ,

Nnamdipapa:
Anytime you are in Nigeria, just send an email to a Nairalander. She does not charge a lot and will satisfy you even though she is very ugly.

Her email is
We4all@gmail.com.

Save this email bro and you will thank me later.

lol, you want to temp me further lol

Nnamdipapa:


I beg to disagree. I have seen lots of married men whose wives are physically present still addicted to fap and prostitution.
After marriage, op will lose interest in his wife and still continue with his addiction.

OP has to fight his inner demons before bringing a woman into his life.

I recommend a strong sex therapist.

Very possible, hence why I want to get healed so I don’t be a serial cheater in marriage

Nnamdipapa:


It takes an average of 12 months to process a spousal or family Sponsorship to Canada op is waiting having initiated the process.

There is nothing else op can do but to wait until application is finalized regardless of the amount of money. Am I clear enough?

True it’s a very long process in some cases it takes more than 12months upto 15 months or more, and you can’t hurry them, and you still can even get denied and have to re-apply again . So no guarantees

So was able to talk with my girl last night though didn’t go deep in the conversation but told her I saw an escort and all

Interestingly I thought that would be ground for breakup and I would start working on finding a girl here and all, but she said it’s not a deal breaker to her .

But still I’m very determined to stop this nonsense I’m engaged in and find my pathway to salvation and redemption.

Just suprised she didn’t see me seeing another girl as a deal breaker or grounds for breakup

akube34:
I remember your post, but can’t you find someone on a dating site?

I sadly haven’t , instead I was doing a long distance relationship and it’s been over a year now and clearly it’s not working at all and it’s been a mess. Cheating is an understatement, I’ve literally lied to her everyday for one year straight , what breaks me is how would I break up with her ,

Just curious, how best to go about this

She’s not done anything wrong to me and have been very nice and sweet since we crossed path, but I’m living a double life and she dosen’t know the other side of me which is this side of addiction

Should I tell her the whole truth and breakup with her or I don’t need to tell her anything and just break up with her?

Though she knows my family members and have their contacts, and if I tell her the whole truth, my mum or siblings might know the shameful thing I’ve been into for years now secretly, and I’m a pastors son too ,

Just complicated now, this stuff is hard .

Just to make matters worse and add more context to how complicated it is, I made a terrible mistake

She’s 22 year old I’m 27 year old, she’s currently doing her NYSC and she’s in Lagos, since all my family members have relocated I told her she can stay in our family house , since no one is literally there except I think my cousin or so .

So breaking up with her in this situation, how best can I approach it please guys?

I really need help

techgen:
Op…I nor believe your story, for same Canada wey my guys Dey get am for free…or maybe probably you’re not good looking and lacks composure with women.

Even with Tinder or bumble you’ll get free fu*k in Canada on a stead.

I joined tinder once, and have a profile there too, maybe I don’t have game lol I think,

Zaheertyler:

Let’s pray together sir if you don’t mind 🙏
It’s not a must..but a bigger authority than that of what is holding you bound can help you..
Not by my power but by him who is willing to help you
All I need from you is to open your heart and after I pray with you you will find a Bible believing church to be of service in

Would really appreciate it

1Sharon:


Marriage wouldn't stop people like this! He has an addiction and it need to be cured.

Really, I thought it would, I’m already looking forward to possibly getting married soon if possible next year and have access to sex as long as I want I guess.

Mosdiii:


I am also battling this addiction. I love women so much presently I am dating 5 girls simultaneously including other girls who i still meet. I am 35 years old and very comfortable. The strange thing is that all this girls are below 24 years old. I just don't know how to stop this sex addiction

Oh really you in similar situation, that’s sad, are you married?

I hope we both find redemption and salvation

brodalikeme:
So many people on the platform, giving wrong, senseless advice because they don’t understand your pain.

I feel your pain of addiction. I have been there. What you are doing is unnatural and will destroy you beyond what it had already done to you. I know aside escort, onlyfans, masturbation, there will be others too. Pornography is certainly part of this corktail as well. I’m also sure you do alcohol. I know, I have been there.. Sexual sin I’d one of the most ravenous vices to fall into. It’s will cause you stagnation, dis favour, poor self assessment etc.
The truth is that you can quit all of these. I know you can, your spirit is already resisting these lifestyle. You need to start taking radical steps to overcome all these.
YOU CAN OVERCOME ALL THESE TODAY IF YOU WANT. If I can be clean, then you can. If you want we can talk.
I pray for you, and I break the hold of satan over your life. May the spirit of God guide you, live big inside you and give you the grace to overcome sin in Jesus name-amen.

I think you understand my situation very well, though I don’t do alcohol or smoke but I do the rest. It’s so hard and I feel like I’m in a hole, I lost my virginity at 13 in ss1 and it’s been off and on, but of recent it’s been terrible so so terrible , cause of the money I’m spending on escorts and onlyfans models .

Though I didn’t do it , but I once almost paid about $1,500 for an hour to a IndecentStar that stays in Buffalo New York and was willing to drive to New York to see her , it’s about 1hr drive from Niagara Ontario . But I didn’t do it though , but the thought of doing it alone scares me, I’ve watched so many of her videos and wanted to experience it in real life . It’s terrible.

I need to turn away from this path otherwise it would completely destroy me totally .

LIVINGICONREBOR:



Only you can save yourself.
You are still quite young but this is when you really need to put in the work on yourself. If you have a high libido what stop you from having a sex partner over there rather than wasting your resources on different women?

You used the right word, wasting valuable resources, I would break up with my girl In Nigeria and then look for someone here

eniolorunfe:


I think part of your problem is the negative terms or negativity you are attaching to the fact that you have a high libido. You first need to accept that s*x is a beautiful thing and accept that aspect of yourself. This is where therapy comes in. If you’re serious about therapy, go seek help from a professional therapist in Canada. They can’t be that hard to find.

It’s also obvious that long distance relationship is not working for you, so look for someone who is within your reach for a committed relationship. Make sure you both are sexually compatible, it’s a must!

Hmm, would work on breaking up with her, though she didn’t do anything to me at all, I just feel bad breaking up with her , but I need a partner here that would help out and all I guess

carl90:
common !
Is the church the only place you can find a nice lady over there in Canada.
really ?

Not the only place but I guess the easiest and fastest, cause I think lots of Nigerian girls are there

ValCon888:
You don't have game that's why escorts are ruining your life.

I guess you right, if I did probably should have had a girl now I guess

LIVINGICONREBOR:


Do you know how many people are willing to trade places with you right now? You are in Canada and you still want to throw your life away. Please don't be unfortunate.

I know, I mean I literally saw myself personally through school and paid over 40k in fees . But lately I’m loosing focus cause of this act , it’s terrible and shameful . Just struggling badly

LIVINGICONREBOR:
True true, this one nah case of person wey get cap but no get head. Damn!! 🥱

You right I guess

carl90:
Is there no beautiful lady over there at Canada you can have as a girlfriend or build a relationship with ?
do not put so much hope in this long relationship with your girlfriend here at Nigeria .
Personally ,I do not even fancy long distance relationship.
Life is too short for that.
You can't have so much cash with you and still be paying to have sex with a woman.
It does not make sense.
Get a good woman over there at Canada and build a
serious relationship with her.
Life na once o.

There are but I barely go to church where you find them a lot,

Mikespecialone:
Focus , my brother .......... Find someone to marry and make sure she likes Sex too ..... then problem solved

I guess so too, marriage would solve all this for good

Meteng:
As in, you’re knacking ashawo?

Technically escort but I guess you right

RealityKings:



You are at the age where you should have a permanent woman spend the night with. If you can look for a woman and marry her or sign a contract with...
Its just nature telling you what is next. Nature wants you to have a partner. Getting married is the best solution to masturbating and patronizing hookers.

I was listening to an Islamic cleric who said, there is a demon that influences masturbation by the time an average male is matured to have a wife but refuses. This age spans from 17 upwards.

It made me think back and remember the age I started sleeping and waking up with Wet Dreams. So normally, for a male, by the time you are 17 to 20 and unmarried, masturbating will set in because you are not meeting "Nature's Standards" except if you are lucky to get a girlfriend during this phase.

Now you are way matured you need to get a constant or permanent woman.

This is quite enlightening