A relationship is not a poverty alleviation scheme. Do not become a liability to a man under the guise of "I want to be taken care of," or "I want a man who can meet all my needs."

If as a woman, you want someone that would meet all your needs, go to your parents. Even your parents will be reluctant to meet any of your needs at a certain point.

There are four substantial reasons for that:

1) Physiological and Psychological Damage: When a woman cheats or indulges in an extramarital affair, there is a tendency that she might get pregnant - when such happens, she delivers the baby, and her husband will then father the child without knowing that - biologically, the child is not his own. You ought to know how disheartening it is for a man to utilize his financial resources coupled with his manly and fatherly role - in the upbringing of a child whose father is unknown.

So, to avoid the indelible mental and emotional scar that comes with this - a man MUST NOT forgive a cheating wife. Once she cheats (even if it's her first time), she must go back to her father's house. As a man, you must not change your mind and forgive - no matter the amount or intensity of begging and pleading.

2) Culture and Tradition: In Africa, a man can marry as many wives as he wishes - hence, it is not a big deal for a married man to catch the fancy of another woman. Note: A woman cannot marry another man without terminating her previous marriage, but a man can marry as many as he wishes without breaking or ending the previous ones.

Polygamy is acceptable in Africa - both culturally and traditionally. So, a woman has no other option than to forgive or go back to her father's house. A man does not even need to beg a woman simply because he fulfilled his traditional right. As a man, you must not beg her - she either stays or goes back to her father.

3) Emotional Distance, Negative Perception, and Disloyalty: When a woman cheats on her husband, she becomes emotionally distant - her perception of him can never be the same as it was in the past. Hence, all the loyalty and respect she has for him will completely vanish.

Any woman that cheats on her husband has the propensity to poison him. As a man, you MUST NOT forgive - the apology of a devilish witch CAN NEVER be accepted or acknowledged.

4) Bad luck and Death: In some communities - there is a belief that when a woman cheats, it brings bad luck and death to the husband - especially when he is aware that the woman cheats - and yet, he allows her to live with him as his wife.

As a man, why would you wish to encounter "bad luck," stagnation, or a decrease in progress and advancement, coupled with the possibility of dying - simply because of the negligence of a wayward woman?
You MUST NOT make a huge mistake by forgiving her - just send her back to the street where she belongs.

pansophist:
Only your number 4 is correct, since even the dumbest of the dumbest women can notice that instantly. But to say that women notice number 1 to 3 instantly is a lie, unless she is an intelligent lady. And in a country where the average IQ is disgraceful, now tell me that women notice the first three.

No make me vex abeg

This is quite correct.

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