I am a 24years old man who has been seeing this lady of 32 years old.I met her when I was 23, The first time I saw her, she was so sexy and very attractive, I have always have this thing for girls older than I am. Something I wanna try. I came to this country. After few month, I met this attractive lady, blonde, green eyes and very sexual and good looking. After few months, one day she says she has something to say to me, I sat down and she gazed at me for a long time and wouldn't say anything. I asked her what's wrong, but she refused to talk. I was scared and I began to ask, what have you done, did you kill someone, she said no, did you infect me with any disease, she said no, my mind came down, I then ask her, are you marries and she said yes but she is currently fighting a divorce. She told me also that the doctor said she can never have a child. Someway somehow, I believe miracle happens sometimes, we tried so many times to have a baby together while she is in this marriage. She told me she doesn't sleep with these guy anymore. Oneday she went for diagnosis and they had to carry out an operation on her where they totally took out the womb because something is causing some complication which the doctors thinks can cause a cancer. After the operation, she came to me and after we made love, she told me her intension was to come breakup with me but she couldn't , after then, this relationship continued until now as we write. She is still married, we are talking about marriage. She wants to leave her husband for me, because she doesn't love him and she is not attracted to her. I am a young black man. I am having some issues with embassy of the country I am in and i could go back to Africa to fix this then come back. Few days ago, she asked us to move in together. She expected me to give an answer and say yes, let's move in. I told her, I will think about and that caused a big problem because I said I want to think about it. I am having some little minor situation in this country which can hinder me from getting another residence card if I don't act fast. It's not a big problem because I did not commit any crime. Few days after I said Ok I we can move in together which honestly I am totally against the idea. I told her that I might have to travel to Africa to get this issue fixed and I will be back. But she said she doesn't trust me that I will come back that I want to leave her. If I decide to stay and it happens I cannot resolve the issue from this country and i am unable to get another residence card, what can she do. She suggested that she can marry me, yes of course but she has not even start the divorce process yet and you know what people, I am totally not into it that a woman is leaving a her husband for me. Right now, this is the story of what is happening to me.

First, she cannot have a child for me, except by fertilizing my sperm with some other woman's egg having same characteristics as her and she will be the surrogate and we can have a child that way of which I will be genetically connected to the child but she will not.

Secondly, She is still married and leaving with this man everyday and if we are to move in together, she won't be able to help me even as much as she is ready to marry me because her divorce process will take 12-15month and then I am already illegal in this country.

Thirdly, I am still a student and I don't have huge financial source of income but she is quiet Ok and she is claiming she wants to sacrifice everything for me.

So people, she has been dating and cheating with me for 10months. What should I do? The way am going is it the right one for someone my age. Will it be a good idea to destroy someone else marriage. She claims she loves me and I can see traces of that in her and I have something for her but my other mind and soul is totally against it. I need advise from my Nigerian people. Please Help.

I smell something not good as well because I don't know where this number is from. Thanks for the advice.

Hello thanks for the reply. What country number is this? Is it Nigerian number? Please let me know and what can Engr. Kunle do for me? Regards. Thanks

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HELLO MY DEAR NAIRALANDERS, I AM SO CONFUSED. I AM IN SOME KIND OF TOURBLE. HERE GOES THE STORY. I AM AN UNDERGRADUATE STUDENT STUDYING IN CYPRUS. I AM IN MY SECOND YEAR. I OBTAINED A VISIT VISA FROM CYPRUS AS A TOURIST AND I TRAVELED TO THE UK. I WAS THERE FOR 9WEEKS.I GOT A SCHOOL IN LONDON AND I PAID 55% OF THE TUITION FEE WHICH IS 2,160PGBP. I LEFT FOR NIGERIA TO APPLY FOR A STUDENT VISA. TO MY SUPRISE PEOPLE,I WAS REFUSED THE VISA BASED ON GROUND THAT MY SPONSOR'S INCOME TAX CLEARANCE IS FALSE AND SUBSEQUENTLY, MY VALID VISIT VISA WAS CANCELLED WITHOUT PREJUDICE. PEOPLE WHAT WILL I DO? WILL THIS AFFECT MY CHANCES IN FUTURE? SHOULD I APPEAL OR RE-APPLY. NAIRALANDERS please I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU ALL.

VAVI

HELLO MY DEAR NAIRALANDERS, I AM SO CONFUSED. I AM IN SOME KIND OF TOURBLE. HERE GOES THE STORY. I AM AN UNDERGRADUATE STUDENT STUDYING IN CYPRUS. I AM IN MY SECOND YEAR. I OBTAINED A VISIT VISA FROM CYPRUS AS A TOURIST AND I TRAVELED TO THE UK. I WAS THERE FOR 9WEEKS.I GOT A SCHOOL IN LONDON AND I PAID 55% OF THE TUITION FEE WHICH IS 2,160PGBP. I LEFT FOR NIGERIA TO APPLY FOR A STUDENT VISA. TO MY SUPRISE PEOPLE,I WAS REFUSED THE VISA BASED ON GROUND THAT MY SPONSOR'S INCOME TAX CLEARANCE IS FALSE AND SUBSEQUENTLY, MY VALID VISIT VISA WAS CANCELLED WITHOUT PREJUDICE. PEOPLE WHAT WILL I DO? WILL THIS AFFECT MY CHANCES IN FUTURE? SHOULD I APPEAL OR RE-APPLY. NAIRALANDERS PLS I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU ALL.

VAVI

I want to know more about forex

Bleep FASHOLA OR FASHOYA OR WHATEVER HIS FUCKING NAME IS? HE IS ONLY DRIVING FASHION OUT OF LAGOS AND INCREASING THE RATE OF RAP IN THE SOCIETY, WHY DONT MOST YORUBA MEN THINK BEFORE THEY DO THINGS, IN CYPRUS, DRESS ANY HOW YOU LIKE. SAME WITH UK AND OTHER COUNTRIES, I HAVE BEEN AND MY EYES WAN COMOT. BUT STILL E NO COMOT. Bleep FASHOYA( TEAR CLOTHE) TELL AM GO GO SUCK A GOAT ASS, BEND AND KISS HIS BALLS,


Mykel

Bleep FASHOLA OR FASHOYA OR WHATEVER HIS FUCKING NAME IS? HE IS ONLY DRIVING FASHION OUT OF LAGOS AND INCREASING THE RATE OF RAP IN THE SOCIETY, WHY DONT MOST YORUBA MEN THINK BEFORE THEY DO THINGS, IN CYPRUS, DRESS ANY HOW YOU LIKE. SAME WITH UK AND OTHER COUNTRIES, I HAVE BEEN AND MY EYES WAN COMOT. BUT STILL E NO COMOT. Bleep FASHOYA( TEAR CLOTHE) TELL AM GO GO SUCK A GOAT ASS, BEND AND KISS HIS BALLS,

Tell us about it if you don't mind? Where are you and where is your boyfriend? She believes he is dating white girls in Cyprus and all that and she is insecure. How did you do yours and are you faithful to him? How are you sure he is faithful to you

Does a long distance relationship works? A very good friend of mine who had a strong hold on a girl all the way back home in Nigeria. We Both left Nigeria to study in Cyprus. But Recently, it seems the girl is fed up with the whole so-called long distance relationship stuff and they called it a quit. So here is my question. Does a long distance relationship works? and if yes what are the criteria to make it really work out? And for how long will it work?

I need a typical blooded Nigerian girl friend. Someone with a good sense of humour and personality, Anyone feel free to hit me, My fellow Nairalanders can also be of help.

i have been in cyprus for a while now and i have looked left, right, up, down, north, south , east and west,  all the akatas here are nothing like ma naija girls, studying round the clock and saying the same white faces all the time,  i beg i don tire,  they smell too,  i need a female friend between the age of 18 and 24 with good sense of humour with moderate personality,  i am all alone here,

hello everyone, greetings to you from cyprus, i think about this alot and i decided to post this thread on nairaland. before i left nigeria to study in cyprus. i found out that all the girls i have dated, were not toasted by me,  i tend to be their friends first and we just take it from there.i am always that patient person taking things slow. is there any respect in these kinds of relationships? when you ddon'treally ask a girl out formerly, my people, make u na yarn me,

HELLO EVERYONE,  I AM CURRENTLY STUDYING APPLIED MATHEMATICS AND COMPUTER SCIENCE, Bsc.  I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BECOME A SOFTWARE ENGINEER, PRESENTLY, I HAVE THE CHANCE OF GOING TO SWEDEN IN SPRING SEMESTER, 2008 TO GET A DEGREE IN THE FIELD OF SOFTWARE ENGINEERING MANAGEMENT. BEFORE THEN, I WANT TO KNOW THE MATERIALS TO STUDY WITH AS AN INTRODUCTORY TO PROGRAMMING. WELL I WILL BE TAKING A COURSE IN C++ THIS FALL SEMESTER HERE IN CYPRUS, I NEED AN ADVISE, I AM A NOVICE IN THE ASPECT OF PROGRAMMING.

Good day Every One.I am a Vibrant young Guy.I trained myself to the extent that girls or the thought of girls doesnt come to my agenda? I like them, I talk to them , joke, they visits me at home, chat online and on phone.But still I dont have a girl friend.The worse thing is that I dont even think of one.The only thing I do is play on my playstation, Jump on my computer system and surf the internet at home.No matter how beautiful a girl maybe, I admire her but I classify her to be urgly.Guys am an averge guy, I could make any girl comfortable to an average.I mean I can take care for a girl.But i dont just like them.I AM NOT GUY, I need your advise

This questions goes mostly out to the ladies, There is something I notice about girls but i think this is within my opinion because I discovered it myself, I think if a girl likes you, she is always shy whenever she is around you, she finds it difficult to look you in the eyes but keeps smiling and pouring her face down, i want the ladies to prove me wrong over this issue, And what does my guys have to say to this

Michael,

I HAVE MADE A LOT OF RESEARCHES AND I CAME TO DISCOVER THAT MOST GIRLS CABT GET THEIRSELF IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE MONEY IS NOY INVOLVED..... GIRLS I WANT TO KNOW YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS..................


MICHAEL

.................................. I WAS AT A BIRTHDAY PARTY AND THE CELEBRANTS HAPPENS TO BE MY FAMILY FRIENDS....THEY INVITED A FRIEND OF THEIRS TO THE PARTY WHICH AT FIRST SITE I ADMIRED HER AND ASK AFTER HER PHONE NUMBER FROM THE CELEBRANTS.... ACTAULLY SHE HAD BEEN TO MY HOUSE ONCE WITH THE CELEBRANTS......WHILE THE PARTY WAS GOING ON I CALLED HER AND COMMENDED HER ...SHE ACTUALLLY ASKED ME FOR A DANCE WHICH I WENT INTO THE PARTY SYNOCHURE BUT I DIDNT DANCED WITH HER AND I ASKED HER IF I COULD CALL HER LATER THAT NIGHT........I DID CALL HER AND THE NEXT THING SHE SAID WAS" MICHALE COULD YOU PLEASE SEND ME A RECHARGE CARD" ON PHONE WHEN WE HAVE NOT EVEN MET ONE ON ONE TO TALK.....


WHAT WILL YOU DO.............................................


MICHAEL XOXOXO

Hey for me ooooooooooooooooo I think this issue is rather complicating cos for the good guy.......who knows the good thing.... checking out sexual compatibilty as said in quote by my other guy is right you know ........you have to know if your partner is ok and will be there for it in the nearest future...



michael.
oxoxoxox

I think most ladies feels they are the most beautiful thing in the world and get to proud about that and I think most sensible guys dont like such things


michael

Why can't a lady date a guy who is a year younger than she is?

I met this sweet girl in a cafe.well some good did happen and I developed feelings for her and she talked well too. but she later got to know that she is a year older than I am. For that reason, she looked at me like a baby. I call her series of times but never a day she called me, but I got 2 to 3 text messages from her.  At a point I called asked her out for a date.  She promised to show up,but turned it down till now she never calledAfter then she sent me a text requesting for a recharge card when we haven't met to get to know each other.Not that I cant send the Recharge card. I can send 50 of it if I want to but I feel weird about it. I tried to talk to her on phone but wouldnt reason with me instead I got a text from her which say "[b]They are some certain things men do,that young boys cant do......so the difference will always be there......."[/b]what do you think I should do about it.

Michael.

Thanks very much for the advise I am very greatful . I will give that a try and I will see where that leads. Thanks and have a great day

Michael

I see alot of beautiful girls and I don't have feelings that i should go talk to them maybe she will give me a chance in her life. Is it because I am not very rich or I will I say my main self inside me is not ready for anything like that or do i think their level is more than mine. Please I need an answer to this

Michael