Most people ignorantly think that Ibadan is all they see when they arrive the city through the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway hence the misconception that the place only has brown roofs.

Tgirl4real: Another thing that causes wahala is when the wife wants to control the relationship.

You want to determine wen your hubby wakes up, shower, go to work, return from work, what he eats @ work, who he eats with, the type of work he does, how he spends his money.(lol). You want to make every decision for him. All in the name of making your own contribution you dominate his life.

You determine everything in the family. He hardly says a word, u've said 10 and you hav an opinion on every matter. He doesn't know how to do anything well. Infact, you are competing the 'head' position with him. You are the only one that knows what is best for the kids. His opinion doesn't count.

If you are controlling, u will eventually turn your hubby to a puppet. When he wakes up from his slumber, you start having issues claiming that he has changed.

If you complain too much you chase him out into the hands of other women cos you are choking him.

The bible says it's better to live on the rooftop than to live with a nagging wife.

Just as we want our husbands to 'gbo ri du ro' and treat us right, we also have the responsibilty to treat him as the head he truly is and stop competing with him.

Fantastic insight. A wife can do every other thing right but if she gets this wrong, then her marriage could suffer.

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Says who? Their problems may have just started if his third son, who's in his 20's is anything like his father. I've been following the thread and the comparison btw Bush and Kim. I don't know abt u but i will prefer a president like bush to a kim anytime anyday. Let's look at it this way, a president's first loyalty is to his pple. We may blame american presidents all we like, but they all have sometng in common, wch is the 'we only' component that makes the country great. They defend and fight for the interest of their country and its pple to a fault. Every thing we blame an american president for is alws done, albeit selfishly, bt in d interest of his country. When they are on that seat, they are only sbheming for america. Unlike a kim whose pple have remained poor under the shackles of govt policies. While its korean counterpart, south korea has flourished, north korea has trampled on d rights of its citizens. Infrastructure, public services, education, health care have been abysmal cos the military gt more allocation than all others combined.

Nigerians never cease to amaze me, and the problem again is that the moment you start canvassing for human rights, especially as it concerns gay rights, people stupidly think that you must be gay.
I am not gay, but i've been involved in this argument more times than i can remember. Even though, I am not gay and will never see anything sexually attractive in a fellow man, with an anatomy that is predominantly made up of bone, it is absolutely wrong for the House to pass the anti-gay bill. And to top it all, I am yet to hear a convincing argument in support of the bill except that it's not biblical or cultural, and so on and so forth.
I think that Nigerians are selfish, emotional, sentimental and lack any sense of objectivity. We hear people condemn things, and we jump to do the same conclusion without thinking it through, for instance the implications and so on.
For instance, what right does anyone have to condemn what adults do with their lives as long as it's consensual and does not trample on the rights of another or others?
We may not support gays or what they do, but we have no right to deny them their rights as accorded them in the constitution, as regards freedom of speech, union and the rest.
Let me give a scenario here- the rights of people in a geographical setting can be likened to a large cake from which everyone has the right to his/her chunk. Now, if what we think is right in our eyes is that the cake is meant to be eaten, but some people, for one reason or the other decide to trample on their own share of the cake, what right do we have to jail them, if they are not denying others their own share, stealing from others, or trampling the cake belonging to others?
In essence, the cake is our collective human rights which we all deserve, the people who fervently believe that cakes should be eaten are the majority of us, while those who trample on their share of the cake are the gays. So, as long as they are not raping or forcing an unwilling person or an underage, which is tantamount to sexual harassment, rape or denying somebody else his or her own rights, then what is our business what they do with their own piece of cake.
I hear people talk about culture and I laugh. Seriously, what is our culture? The last time I checked, we once had a culture of killing twins because we found them strange and evil. That was before Mary Slessor fought against the practice. Also, female genital mutilation (FGM) used to be our culture and still is, even though people get infected, die, and often live with the trauma.
As we speak, there is still a culture of marrying underage girls to men old enough to be their fathers or grandfathers in the north, sometimes leading to Vesicovaginal fistula (VVF) for some of the young girls.
And to think that a senator who recently got married to an underage (13yrs) was there as the anti-gay bill was sponsored and passed continues to baffle me. If you asked me, that is worse that homosexuality because one party(the girl) is too young to take such a big decision on her own, cos invariably, her parents forced her into marriage with a man old enough to be her father. That violates the girl's right.
The bill stipulated a jail sentence of 14 years for gays, while just recently, a former boko haram spokesman, (self confessed) got three years for his atrocities, which of course include maiming and taking human lives, thereby denying them their right to life as stipulated in the constitution.
People are also quick to quote the quran or the bible in their criticism of gay rights, to this people, I ask one question. Is the law of Nigeria supposed to be based on the quran and the bible, since we have Nigerians who neither believe in the quran or the bible, does that make them lesser in status when the issue of rights is concerned in their country, especially when what they ask for does not infringe on anyone's rights whatsoever?
Let us not talk when someday, a senate president sits on his chair and says the quran stipulates the practice of sharia and wants to enforce it in this country or another says that the bible or grail book or whatever says an eye for an eye, or whatever, since some of us have blindly supported them on this one where the Holy books formed part of the basis for the bill.
We may not support them (gays) or like them, but we have no right to deny them their rights as long as they are not rapists, pedophiles, etc who infringe on other people's rights.
I have met people who sleep with their neighbour's wife or or do terrible things also condemning gays, and worst of all quoting the bible to back up their argument. The last time I checked, the bible says no sin is greater than the other, so what gives them the right.
Moreover, such actions as sleeping with your neighbour's wife or cheating on your spouse can even have worse implications as it can destroy homes, lead to broken homes, affect the children and cause all kinds of psychological trauma, especially for those on the receiving end if they end up finding out. Gays do their business in their homes, and I don't see how what adults voluntarily do in their homes should affect us this much.
The bill is also setting a dangerous precedence in the country which many people are overlooking due to sentiments and emotions we have somehow attached to it. Sin is sin. Maybe we should all check what we do ourselves, and clear out eyes of foreign objects before plucking the speck of wood from another person's eye.

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It's not something that can be shared like that cos it involves a lot. However, the basic things you should consider are finance, land (leased, bought, etc) for your pen and so on. I am no expert yet cos I've not started yet, but like you, I am working on plans to start one. Your financial power will determine a lot of things, like the number of birds to start with, which will determine the size of pen and all that.
It is wise to get a place not to close to a built up area to avoid issues that may arise due to poultry smell. So these are some of the things to consider cos it may be when your poultry is already big that residents will write petitions asking you to move, and it may be impromptu. If you are setting up away from the built up area, you also consider security. The most important thing is to have passion for it, and to be close to someone who is already successful, and will be sincere with you.

Pls is there anyone in the house with information about UAC recruitment?I really wish to apply.Tnks.

Guys! i was told 1st bank is starting recruitment again,for those of us that got to the interview stage of their last recruitment exercise and still hoping to be called.Wld it be proper for us to apply again now or jst keep our fingers crossed?

my friend!no news yet o.Am also waiting to hear from them,i had mine in ibadan as well.I wish US good luck man.

pls does lillybaby or any otha person in the house know the state of residence where management trainees are needed from?i stay in ibadan but i am not sure if i will be crucifying myself by textin OYO as my state of residence.i wnt to know if it is alright to apply from any part of the country.IF U HAVE THE ANSWER,DO NOT HESITATE TO TELL ME.

Are we talking abt MAN U vs arsenal match?I think i av brot bad news 4 arsenal fans.THEY AV LOST D MATCH ALREADY!Fabregas and henry will have shaky legs that day,intimidated by the suiperlative form of MAN U.

hello there,if u are intereted in knowing naca website add,it is naca.gov.ng.i am jst openin it myself anyway.so i don't know yet what openings are available.

Mine is B.tech in Urban and regional planning.

abt GTB,thnks 4 d information.Pls can i submit online or at any of their branches in ibadan?