BABE!:

Make it snappy abeg--- lol--- I just started so---minimal posts.

Well I get an error page so try again.

tpia@:

believe me, i'm not joining him anywhere but just acknowledging that sometimes the fears are justified. Not always however.

it's ok to have some knowledge of what you're getting into in marriage, and how someone's background could influence their behaviour when married.

it's up to the people involved how they're going to handle this knowledge, and how it will affect their feelings for their potential partner.

i wouldnt advise someone who isnt comfortable with the idea of dating a person from a broken home, to go ahead and do it anyway. People should stick with whatever they think they can handle, or what they're comfortable with.

it doesnt mean people from broken homes wont get partners.

That's cool. No problem with that at all.

BABE!:

Your tumblr o---what else

Chai! I don't want to drop it here. A personal page really so I rather not. What's yours and I'll follow you?

rokiatu:

OMG babe that ain't you?

Yup live and direct

BABE!:

^^ Do you mind giving me your ish---?


So it's me that do fakes abi? Be using style to insult me. lol

LOL don't take it personal. What ish do you want me to give you?

BABE!:

Mehn---what kind of person are you---lol---Yup it ain't me--. Are you on tumblr?

Yeah I am on tumblr

Goldieluks:

chika are you sure you are the one on that pic,
abi you use tumblr too?

Yup that is me in the photo. I don't do fakes

coogar:

i will know better. . . .i date women.
and contrary to what you or other women think, men compare notes of their partners. they analyze, compute data and all these things become clearer to men. narrow-minded? because i don't share your view? you got a lot to learn!

*Jumps rope nearby*

tpia@:

^^one cant really dismiss the fears or stereotypes about people from broken homes, since many of them do indeed ring true.

i used to think it doesnt matter, but not anymore.

the percentage however, is what i dont know.

anyway, thank God for Christ.

Yeah go'head and join him in that boat. Like I said whatever rocks it and cool.

BABE!:


LMAOO---- cHEI! Your  mouth is big o! lol-- That was were I got it from too--hehehehe  

So it ain't you then? Chai! I don catch you out then

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I swear i've seen your photo floating around on Tumblr

coogar:

but the fact this woman saw her parents sticking it through thick and thin is a plus. she won't be too hasty to pack out of the house when she eventually marries because she was not brought up that way. a woman raised from a broken home has more tendency to be impatient and the moment the storm comes, she runs for her dear life because that was what she saw her mum doing when she was young.

ladies from broken homes mostly have issues especially trust issues when their partner is concerned. it has been indoctrinated in their mentality that the men folk can never be trusted. they mostly get extra defensive in relationships, they are mostly self-centred and it's like they always half-expect their male partners to screw up to prove the myth that "all men are dogs".

Hahaaaaha haaaa so narraw minded. Whatever rocks your boat

Siena:

What about his HIV status?

LOL I can see Mr. Siena is still going innn on folks here. Funny stuff

coogar:

she's more likely to have issues. every individual is a product of his/her environment. no child raised from a broken home will be grounded as the one raised from a steady home where father/mother figure is present. personally, i wouldn't marry any woman from a broken home. of course, there will be an exception to every rule but i won't even take such risks to see if she will be affected by her background or not. it's too steep a price to pay if she turns out a bad wife material. . .

Right! Now have you ever thought about the woman who comes from a "stable" home but is nothing to write home about?
Who saw her parents degrade and shout at each other every chance they got? Who never saw her parents show each other love?
They just stayed together for the sake of the children. Thought about that too?

sley4life:

they myt av used a fake doc

Yup! writing they way you do; I'm sure they did. What a thickie!

dammytosh:

Yes, I think mostly true but not always true.

The factors are simple, A girl from a stable home is afraid to go back home with her luggage that i am done with that useless husband because she knows her mother and father will likely not agree and allow her disgrace them.

But for a child from a broken home, the mother can quickly say, "welcome my dear, i told u all men are the same"

A yoruba adage says that it is better to have a bad wife than a bad in-law.

I believe everything is by conscious effort and God's grace all the same.

-My Opinion.

Sadly so

coogar:

you raised good points but would you take the risk? this is marriage we are talking about not a relationship.

So because she comes from a broken home she's not good enough for marriage?
When will people lose this type of mentality?

iice:

Lol Chika, where have you been? Welcome back.
I think it's prolly because it has a huge cast. Too many stories happening at once.


@topic
TB of course! My sexy hubby is back on!

Thanks Miss. How about yourself? U know Nairaland gets redundant after a while and very tiring
I'll be breezing in from time to time.

How did you like Game of Thrones? Quite frankly, Spartacus is a much better and well rounded show
with suspense to grip you in.

Does anyone actually read any of this?

Sagamite:

I am a gentle and strong advocate of diplomacy and convivial interactions. My records on NL speaks for itself. [Straight Face like Wada Nas and Comical Ali]

Right! we don't believe you. You need more people.

Game of Thrones in my humble opinion is just a bloody waste of time.
It picked up around episode 2 then Episode 9 stepped up big time
only for the season finale to completely fall hand. I didn't get it.
I feel the plot isn't well planned out. Just all over the place.

They can go ahead and bring Sean Bean back in Season 2 if they want
Whatever!

Sagamite:

Na una like dem, init?

When una see gentle baby Jesus like us, una go say we dey boring and you need excitement.

You boring? Mouthy and very defensive individual like yourself? Remember I ain't a newbie.
So lie softly softly

Sagamite:

Research shows one in four men are unknowingly raising at least one child that is not theirs.

Women choose not to cheat as much as men because of (1) they have more to lose and (2) biology.

LOL Sagamite biko leave me now jare. I don't have strength now to kon follow you yarn.
Whatever happened to strong morals? Whatever happened to those men who don't cheat because they simply choose not to?

Sagamite:

Hell yeah!

Oprah's Mother comes to mind. She kept her adopted daughter a secret for 40+ years. And she would've died with it if the daughter didn't come looking for her.
A woman will even pass off other men's children as yours. Now who be bad guys?
Just saying that women can do it better just that some chose not to. Cheating is a choice.

NL used to be so much fun back in the day
Now

I think I'll cry a bit(Really I will) as I watch this EPIC finale.
Gosh! I can't believe this is the end.

Sagamite:

I agree it is a human trait. So is greed, emotions, vanity, parental instincts etc. I think for some traits some sex have more that the others.

I agreed with this bit

Then this other bit about more traits being more expressed in some gender than others. . . Hmm
Right! now I don't believe only men cheat. The biggest thing is they always get caught. Women however can take it to their graves

Sagamite:

I will have to disagree on that.

Based on my experience with women (and admittedly, this is vast ), you tend to see that women tend to always want things their way and will use emotional blackmail to get it if they have to. They are more subjective than men and tend to give priority to their own (e.g. kids), that is why it is hard for a woman to agree for the same punishment she wishes on others for their own kid.

Furthermore, women know that women are more selfish. I think this is a major contributor to woman always having beef with each other and bitching on each other even without knowing each other. And as a guy, you are wondering "why". Men just get along with each other.

The amount of times I am in amazement how my female friends are beefing the person they are smiling with is shocking.

Women are not selfish in situations they know they risk public condemnation. Once you remove the threat of that, they are more likely to act selfishly without a shred of contrition. Absolutely zero contrition because . . . . ."they are the weaker sex" hence they are entitled to misbehave without consequence or responsibility.

That is not to say there are no selfish men.

Thanks. I just love the vanity of it. 

Ha haaaaaaaaaaa very predictable Mr Sagamite but I don't want this to turn into a gender argument so I'll gladly leave it be.
Selfishness is a human trait that both women and men possess. Let's leave it at that really.

Sagamite:

What I know is that, women cheat a lot as well. Only amateur and gullible guys don't know that.

It is not about so-called women's "discipline" or "selflessness" or "morals" that prevents their all-out cheating. Women will cheat more if they had as little to lose as men do.

Even I am 100% sure women are more selfish than men, whilst men are more greedy than women.

Both sexes have their good and bad individuals. The bad are way more than the good people. You have to be careful who you choose.

I do not agree. Men are selfish in nature. Women are just a bit too emotional.
Nice back pack. The color and the GQ feel of it

dayokanu:

See who the cat dragged in?

What's good big head. You go dey this site till it closes down. Haba!

rolchi:

Goodluck to you Minz, I wish you well in your relationship.


On lighter note

As it is in Nollywood films ''''To God be the Glory""" End of Part 2

LOOOOOOL!

Well good things have taken a good turn because I was going to say NEVER utter a word of this your cheating to him.
Change and move forward. NL sha

Lmao! As usual London girls doing the most! LOL I can't with y'all

She looks just like you Mr Siena. Awwww beautiful girl she'll be