[quote author=nautybride post=89349880]Poster, I am not your wife but I am doing this. My reasons are as follows;
My husband loves show off, he would log into my Facebook account and post about my love for him until I password my phone and changed Facebook password. Why would he do that, posting what I didn't. I love to be private. I didn't accuse him or argue, I just changed all changables.
Even when things are all wrong at home, he will post our pictures and start gathering likes and people will start commenting, cute this bla bla. I just ignore. He will even tag me, eventually I blocked him. Sorry. He loves putting our lives in public and I hate it.
He is angry I blocked him and I am not bothered.
He is showing social media love and care than he is doing in real life.
I hope you learn from this poster.[/quote

Absolutely spot on. Some men are damn too insecure and most of the time the affection they show off on social media they don't show their spouses such affection offline, alot of them are irresponsible.

Tosinayoko:
Unfortunately, I'm on this table too.... The truth is that some ladies just settle with anybody and not necessarily whom they love. Everything wrong about a Union is what my wife does but I've learnt to live with it.

All I want is my PROGRESSION and not DISTRACTIONS

You are always on every thread that talks about issues in marriage. I don't know why you have to bring your marital issues to a faceless forum seeking for advice. A responsible man would know how to treat his woman well, listen to her, and love her unconditionally not coming online to bash his wife at the slightest opportunity. You need to grow up. Your contributions on relationships speaks volume of how insecure, immature and lack of understanding of what marriage is all about. The internet is not a place to bring your marital problem. Grow up please

Donald3d:

I was about to say it isn't important and you shouldn't bother yourself about it, but I have learnt something in marriage, everything is important .

So, let's dissect your issue starting from the root. I believe starting from the root is the best way to solve problems, to prevent a recurrence.

Let's start with WHY

Why do you want her to share your pictures ?

1. Is it because you want to do what others are doing (the ones you are jealous of). You want online validation ?
2. Or is it because you feel she doesn't love you enough, because she isn't sharing your pictures.

If your answer is number one. You really need to rethink this Sir. Online validation no dey help anybody. Its a gathering of people who really don't care about you or how much you or your wife love each other. It would put your family under unnecessary stress to "keep up" with what everyone else is doing.

You would be subconsciously pushed into basing your love for each other on what people's perception of what your love for each other should be . I hope this isn't confusing.


If your answer is number 2, you really need to take it easy with her and also treat her "issues" from the root. Ask her WHY , in a very calm manner, without looking or sounding judgmental. You need to communicate your worries to her and what you would like her to do and WHY you want her to do it. Also listen carefully to why she hasn't posted your pictures. You would be shocked to get replies like "I don't want anyone to steal you from me ". Just ask her, in a respectful manner.

Away from your concerns and your worries, please understand that people show love in different ways. Look around you carefully, everyday, and see other ways she is showing you love, apart from uploading your picture online.

Offline show of love is always more real than showing it online. Because its done out of selflessness(because no one is watching).Most (not all) people who constantly post their families or spouses online are just looking for online validation, an invisible competition to see who can display love the most. Of what use is it, when love is shown online and you are not treated right offline.

What I am trying to say Sir is, while you try to find out why she isn't sharing your pictures, appreciate the other ways she is showing you love offline, because at the end of the day, that is what really counts.

Very matured response, you have said it all.

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Tosinayoko:
I don't support murder in any disguise but why would man not leave another man's wife alone for heaven's sake.

There's one I'm battling with of recent, he won't stop calling my wife after several warnings... He's even giving me excuse that he had known my wife since primary school and she's his confidant bla bla bla... I asked him why he married his wife if my own wife is the confidant. He's not repenting yet...

Guys, women are very emotionally weak so the person you tackle is the intruding man. if you don't go to a woman they won't come to you... I told the idiot to give me his wife number for her to be my confidant too he refused. Guys should back off another man's wife, it's suicidal.

On this guy's face, he would kill that motherfucker over and over again. let's be careful

Do you have a congent proof that truly shows your wife is having an affair? All I see from your writeup is a man that is very insecure. If you truly love you wife, you would trust and give her the benefit of doubt. Alot of times the husband is the real reason why most wife's cheat, (though that's not an excuse). think about this scenario, you have a wife that is faithful and Everytime you keep accusing her infidelity without congent facts , what you are doing is tormenting her emotional and messing up her mind, such woman might be pushed into such act because of your action and it would make such situation worse. Women are less likely to cheat on you if they are truly and genuinely happy with you. Husband's should endeavor to check themselves, am I treating my wife right, treating a woman right entails understanding her physical, emotional and spiritual needs, (not a master and slave relationship). Oga my advice to you is love your wife unconditionally by trusting her whole heartedly and you would realize that no idiots can share your wife with you.

Inspectorsuga22:


So because u don't like his face, that automatically justifies his wife cheating on him? U are a very big fo0l.

I blame the man for jeopardizing his life over a mere piece of pucci. Wen whores like the one I just quoted can actually be banging him on a daily since she doesn't need any sensible reason to fu¢k around...

You can make your point without resorting to insult now. We all are trying to educate one another.

Tosinayoko:


What is your point really? The murdered guy did the right thing by flirting with other man's wife? This generation of moral decadence... The right becomes wrong while the wrong becomes right

Does two wrong make a right? In as much as it is very wrong and despicable to sleep with another man's wife, murdering the man is never an option. He would be locked up for the rest of his life if not killed, and guess what the wife would end up sleeping with several other men. So why jeopardize your dream, your future. It is better to work away if you can forgive rather than carry out an act that would be regrettable for the rest of ones life.