VictorGlory:


Like every other bright mind with positive energy and knacks for success. I stepped confidently into the new year 2022 with the right portion of optimism and motivation.


One would wonder if one Village Priest had prepared a prosperity charm for me; cause my energy was mind-blowing. I was so confident about winning in every facet of my life.


Although I sustained some gun wounds of failures that 2021 inflicted on me - lost Dad to the greedy fangs of death, got served breakfast by my girlfriend - because she wanted to serve God, got rejected by so many companies for internships, and had to separate myself from 90% of my family member and siblings cause most of them are friendly enemies, got depressed, betrayed, reject. etc. Yet I could still boldly say to myself that healing would find me in 2022 and greatness would comfort me.

Oops! Maybe a weird description is when you think this young boy has too many track records of misfortune and failures in his life. But I guess some of the best success stories are told with tons of tragic experiences in them. And I've left my life with the best scriptwriter to write the best out of me.


Fast forward to the new year, my jaw got broken by the heavy first of failure. I got into internet Marketing and my results were nothing to write about. I made some good cash though, but I couldn't hit my target.


Also, I wrote a promising book that I've been struggling to find a publisher who is willing to publish it for free and run a good publishing investment deal with me.


This time around, the thunderstorm of failure sent me running like a thief who is scared of jungle justice. I was broken beyond repair because those were my biggest plans for 2022 as regards financial stability and independence.

I was sent into a coma mentally and I knew I needed a break, to fix myself, move on and get back on my feet. That has always been how I respond to previous failures. Fortunately and pathetically, ASUU changed the game and their strike was like a blessing in disguise to me.


I would have loved to go to Lagos to spend the "never-ending ASUU holiday" but Lagos was longer home for me. Ever since I lost Dad and he was buried, I have seen no tangible reason why I should visit home again.

I couldn't stand seeing Dad's grave every day, I'll just collapse and die a coward's death. Also, I don't wanna stay with my stepmom. I've had enough of stepmom's stories growing up as a young boy. Trust me, it's a hell experience.


My mum's place could have been another good option, she lives in a 2 bedroom apartment on the mainland. But I don't think I can cope with an environment where electricity is foreign to them because most of my activities require stable electricity to power my phone and laptop especially, and that she can't supply.


Living in my half-brother's place in Lagos whom we share the same mother could have been another perfect option, I've lived with him a couple of times and I'm very productive each time I stay with him.

I get to complete every task on my to-do list that brings development in every area of my life each day, and eventually actualize both my long-term and short-term goals. Their electricity is stable couple with free Wi-fi. His place put me on my toes to work and do the needful.

But the issue is just that some part of me feels like I don't belong there. We don't get along as brothers, he's 10 years older than I am, and I dare not disrespect him but the kind of relationship we have is like that of a boss and an apprentice.


His wife and I are very cool friends, but he and I don't just get along like brothers should do. Maybe because we were not raised together (my both parents are polygamous). But I want a close friend, mentor, and confidant out of him. Not a never smiling, rigid brother and boss. I've tried talking to him severally but there are no positive changes from him.


My other half-siblings from my father's side are no-go areas. They are all friendly enemies who are jealous of every bit of my success, especially in my academics. Because they all blew up the opportunities to go to higher institutions. They have so much hatred for me because I'm the last child of the family and I used to be Dad's favourite.


So I decided to go live with my Dad's friend in Ogun state and that was when life drew its nightmares upon me. Dad's friend is a very good man, his family members are good people as well. They welcomed me like their child, I would rate them better than some of my family members.


Ogun state pose to be like paradise to me, there was stable electricity, inverter, and generator. That's 24/7 light, the environment was conducive and I was confident that I would heal fast and achieve a lot here.

I feel my productive energy coming back and I was enthused again. I drafted some core goals that I need to achieve their in Ogun state like taking a Data Analysis Course, Joining the Nigeria Institute of Public Relations (NIPR), Raising my school fees, going back fully to Internet Marketing, Completing My Final year research Project, Finding an investor and publisher for my book, etc.


A few weeks into my stay in Ogun state, I began to lose interest in almost everything, I became indifferent to achieving my goals, and I became extremely lazy - giving meaningless excuses and procrastinating till eternity.

I wasn't lazy with house chores, I did that perfectly. But when it comes to doing little things that will develop me and prepare a better future for me, I wasn't motivated to do any. I sat myself down severally and talked senses into my head but, it seems I wasn't gonna yield.

I knelt, begged myself, and cried a lot because I knew it was my life and I need to take responsibility for it. I told myself that even if I wasn't making money, I should engage in things that would develop me. Yet, I didn't change. It's two mouth now in Ogun state, and I've not been productive at all.


Now all I do is waste my precious time with the TV, playing games or on social media, eating like a foodie, sleeping like a bull, and chatting with some friends (distractions). This kind of lifestyle has become a daily routine for me.


This isn't me, this is not the way I used to be. I used to be a very intelligent, hardworking, serious, and dedicated goal-getter who used to be very serious with his life and is determined to fetch a bright future for himself. I've heard people talk about comfort zone but I never experienced one not until now.

Each day, my mind will always tell me that I'll bounce back to whom I used to be, but if school resumes without me achieving my goals here in Ogun state. l'll feel like a total failure. I know I need to act fast, cause time isn't waiting for me.


I am considering leaving Ogun state, to go and stay in my brother's place in Lagos, at least I can be confident of productivity there. but I don't want to leave a negative mindset in Dad's friend's mind about my sudden leaving. He might feel I don't like his place and I can't keep wasting my time here doing nothing.


Although I'm tempted to think this is a spiritual attack, I wanna go back to Lagos to see if I'd be productive there.


Please, good people of Nairaland, advise me on what to do. And please recommend tactics and strategy that can save me from this situation even if it means reading a life changing book.

This is happening to me too , I suddenly find my self less productive , and procrastination

I’ve been a long time reader pls post anonymous I’ll be in the comments section .
Hello good day I’m 28yr old I have a daughter of a year and 4month and the mom is carrying a second child , i don’t have a place of my own yet , still squats with my parents which she’s aware of before having the first baby ,I told her i wasn’t ready yet we both agreed on not keeping the baby , later got to know she didn’t termin8 it , it’s too late then , nothing can be done .
She got her way to my parents told them and all , My Mum accepted her and i told her it’s just the baby I need and have nothing to do with the mom , after giving birth she still stays around (in my parents home ) which she’s aware with my action towards her that Love doesn’t exist btw us , Something happened she got pregnant again the month my daughter is gonna be one yr, we talked about it that we both don’t want it to occur as I’ve been able to take care of my daughter the way i wanted and besides I can’t be living under my parents roof and be making Babies it doesn’t makes sense , she tried to termin8 this again , said she already done it , after a month i suggest she do a test again it’s still there , my mum got to know ,she wasn’t happy about it cos our daughter is barely a year old , besides things haven’t been moving on well with me (financially) This led to heated arguments which i told her if she can’t termin8 it she should leave, she left , leaving our daughter behind .
Later relatives of her dad came begging to accept her back , My parents harkened to there pleas ,accepted her back which i wasn’t aware of , just came home one day and i saw she’s back .

The issue here is she’s almost due to deliver and we still squat with my parent un, I’m not always comfortable about it . She knows Love doesn’t exist between us , if not for what happened btw us , she’s not the type i want to be the mother of my kids
We both don’t just fit I just keep her cos of the baby she had with me
I can’t imagine her staying with me as my wife cos I’ll have sent her packing a long time ago .

She knows i don’t have a single Atom of love for her , I understand the first one came in as a mistake , but after she got to know i don’t love her , she still go ahead carrying a second baby .
Cos i don’t know how I’m gonna cope with the situation of things in the country having 2 kids and got bills piled up .

And never planned to be in my parents house whenever I’m ready to have my own family.

Don’t know what to do I’m thinking after she gives birth we both go our separate ways cos i don’t see us living happily together , the earlier the better , we nag at each other all the time , we don’t share ideas we don’t reason together . It won’t have gotten to the extent of carrying the second child my mom talked me into allowing her stay a while .

PS : we’re not formally engaged in yet .

Kingpin1000:
The guy is a very big fool.. you know you are on rough seas and you dey give location of your brother when the ship dey sail to sanitize the deck.
Him fellow Aye members suppose to march am.

This guy na cultist

collarfreak:
Thanks so much
Thinking if I can be selling basic needs of police like handcuffs, teargas, bullets, etc, or do I need a license to do that?

Lol you be werey
Sorry to say

Would resort medically .

Brawlscartel:



Lol nothing will happen to the girl ... This is the safest abortion method.


I'm in medical college ma'am abi sir

Thank you ��

Suggestion can come in please

Please what’s the most reliable and proven way without side effect to get rid of 4 weeks P**gn*cy

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