TuthDoesntHide:
Lol! Liar. Esther, you KNEW exactly what Siena was like but you married him because you're exactly the same. Can you swear you didn't know Siena was violent? Has Siena not bragged openly about terrible things he has done? He deliberately smashed someone's leg in a car door; you heard that but you didn't run! Instead, you allowed him father your kids cos you're greedy and wicked. Ahhhhh, you thought he can do bad to others but not to you; what are you, God? No good woman can be with a man who's polite to her but rude to a waiter. You gauge a man's character from how he treats others, not just you!

This bad marriage was the beginning of your karma for the evil you do/did behind closed doors. You lie against others and think it can be well with you. God isn't asleep after all; it's just that He's patient. Your juju expired or did you forget to top up? SMH. Some of you desperately evil women do all sorts to travel out to marry while claiming to serve God; they do work for you but don't tell you the other side. Don't sit in one place, oh. Keep jumping from pillar to post, mixing and matching, thinking you're mocking God. See now? Has God not shown you He's more crafty than you? I'm sure when your marriage seemed to be working, you thought you had gotten away with evil and were concentrating on peppering your so-called haters. Not knowing God was giving you opportunity to repent.

People like to say how women are queens, forgetting that Jezebel was also a queen! Before you talk about how you want a good man, ask if you DESERVE a good man. Esther, would you even know what to do or how to interact with a good man? You were damaged before Siena met you; that's why he was drawn to you. He recognized his soulmate. Soulmate isn't just about Hollywood and happily ever after. Those who have encountered and tried to love you learn with time that you're just a violent, mean-spirited, envious, abusive person who is angry at life and has no morals, empathy or self-esteem. You cover your issues up well with church. But if a sane, good man had ended up with you, you'd have killed him after breaking him. I don't know if you're naturally like that or it's your idea of defending yourself cos of the abuse YOU SAY you suffered when you were a child. I make it a point to say "you say" cos the narrative of the evil stepmother and weak father always makes people pity you. But your character is so bad and you're such a good actress, that nobody knows when you're lying. So after all you claim you went through in Nigeria, you gave a man your ALL while refusing to develop yourself and you want applause? Even some call girls don't do what you did. Is there noodles where your brain should be? In the UK where you had all the opportunities! Are you not a fool?

So, yes dear, you got what/who you truly deserve in Siena. The only people to pity in this are your children who don't deserve either of you as parents. Now on top of all your nonsense, you're also BITTER, saying you won't give anybody else opportunity to damage you. You'll look for an innocent man to punish, become a misandry champion and say it's feminism.

Esther Emeobume or whatever you call yourself, go and repent! Getting your papers isn't the end of it. UK government is not God. Papers get revoked everyday, you just don't hear of it. You think your problems are over, but you're mistaken. The so-called friends you think you have, or attending church cannot save you cos you're a bad person. You cannot make other people cry, yet think smiling is for you. This relief you think you have, is temporary. And the next wave that will hit you will wipe you out and make people know that God cannot be mocked. When you do bad to people and they keep you quiet, it's not cos they're weak or stupid. Some don't answer you cos they know where to carry your matter. The more time that passes, the worse your losses will be. Esther, look for the people you grievously offended (especially those that didn't talk back), KNEEL DOWN, apologise and make restitution. If not, you'll return to Nigeria with nothing but the clothes on your back.

Please mention those people in Nigeria I wronged, anyway it’s been a long time now, I am sure you were very PAINED when he didn’t marry you, you should be grateful instead you are still bitter.
I pray God touches your heart so you can learn to love yourself. God bless you

babeosisi:


Who is this piece of trash?

I wonder oh, I think it is Wunmi embittered ex-girlfriend

ladycomfort:
So how far... Have you guys reconciled

Nope and we will never will, no going back there. Thanks

nwanneni:
so you knew all these and carried on with the marriage?
Gold digging gone wrong

I wish there was gold to dig, but that man ain’t got NOTHING. Go ask

streetsoldier1:
The Op is now celebrating what?
Look well within you, you caused the misfortune that befall you. No man will turn beast overnight without your cruel input, he brought you from naija and you betrayed him with your attitude hence pushed him outside... Or you think he enjoyed those stuffs you accused him of?

When you find the next man, be of good character. African lifestyle, beliefs and marriage culture can't be same, stop practicing oyinbo mentality in African marriage.
Go and sin no more!!!

Yes live, I am celebrating - I am even jubilating from being free from a psychopath who thought he could kill me and lie that my death was a suicide.

A woman doesn’t have to do anything for a man to turn a beast. You say I caused the misfortune it might interest you to know was was married before, I got to find out everything he did to his ex-wife which wasn’t so palatable, in case you didn’t know his ex-wife had called the police on him because he beat her up. The woman is white and she refused getting pregnant for him when she found out he wanted kids for state benefits, she divorced him. Pls tell him to come out and defend himself. And as for you defending him I feel sorry for you, you might probably be the same kind of person.

dokiOloye:

I used to and still am d greatest pro-women cos I believed and still believe women usu have d short end of the stick all over d world except in d West.
Had àll d right influences.From a bit above average home,read hundreds if not thousands of American n British novels even b4 senior high school where I learnt d concept of gender equality,chivalry,etc.Dated only 1 girl 7/8 of university years and she was super cool (God bless you Chidi).
However,having started proper practice and being married is changing all that.My work entails ppl who are far older,very rich or poor,rev Frs/pastors etc tell me things and d truth in confidence and women aren't totally d angels I used to see them as.
On d home front,I still consider myself as among d luckiest 10% based on what i hear and see but I've got to know women are d masters of emotional blackmail and even outright lies esp in marital disputes.
I now live full time with a wife who I will beg to do this or don't do that for the whole day and she will refuse but when d negative consequences of her recalcitrance happens and I get angry ,she starts crying and starts asking "What did I do" lolz.Then I wonder if this is why men used to be so pessimistic about women.
Forgive my winding epistle but as far as I believe d man in question is a big mofo if he did even a quarter of what he is accused of,I also know there must've been stimulus from the wife,she prolly contributed and still contributes possibly up to 49.9%.Used to enjoy his contributions in car talk and admire his level headedness and maturity and finding it difficult to believe such a man can suddenly do a u turn and turn to a monster overnight.
Let us not be quick to crucify d man abeg.
Peace!!

Let me tell you he not only did quarter he did the whole lot, a man who wanted kids so he could be collecting their benefits. He took their money right from when they were babies up until some months ago, my first daughter would be 9 in July so please do the calculations, up till now he is still being chased for Child Maintenance. He left his job all because he didn’t want to pay for his children and ran from England to Scotland, well he is still in the UK and I know the law of the land will definitely catch him soon. As for saying I contributed, to him being who he is that’s a big FAT lie, if you want to talk about a loyal, hardworking, respectful woman you don’t have to look by further. Like I mentioned earlier on my only offence was to LOVE him just was it was supposed to be.

You are saying I contributed up him sleeping with a friend in our house who came on vacation, what about him having an online affair with other nairalander, who he sent to insult and humiliate me both online and offline, or you want to talk about his girlfriend buying my children’s Christmas gifts, pls don’t let me start.

Or I contributed to the fact that he refused paying rent for months and we were kicked out of our home, we had to go stay in a hotel before he abandoned me and my children to go to Uganda to go meet another woman.

baby124:
Wow! Just seeing this!!! Congratulations Esther! It is well with you! Thank you for the update. It is only fitting that you come here with your good news since the bad and ugly of your life has been displayed on NL.

I have followed your story and even watched your YouTube video and Instagram page. I cannot say enough how much I admire your strength. I don’t know if I could survive what you have been through in your life. I cannot judge your decisions for being with Siena. But I hope in that time, you had some good times when you were happy.

I also can’t speak Ill of him since he’s your children’s father and, they may read this some day. Siena no try at all sha. See all the wealth he almost used his hands to destroy. His own blessings. He will realize only too late.

I want to congratulate you for standing up and doing what is necessary to give your children a good life. I want to congratulate you for making the best out of a sad situation. Please move on from Siena. I know it is difficult but no matter the temptation, do not open the door for him to come and take you 20 steps back after all you have achieved. Take your time and get some counseling, you need it. Trust me, you will feel so much better. After all you have been through my dear you really need this help.

You will find someone who will love, appreciate and encourage you. That peace that you have sought, you will find it. I wish you the very best and I pray that God will come through for you in a very big way. Goodluck and a big congratulations on the paper!

I hope you can reach out to others stuck in London through your experience, to help battered and abused women find their way! Use your experience to help others in desperate situations. God brought you out of this situation for a reason. Goodluck dear! So happy for you! This made my day!

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it ��

prizequest:


there's a special condition i presume attached concerning seeing the children the man is running away from. let madam state everything

Pls when you see him or hear from him, could you ask him if I have EVER stopped him from seeing his children? I got proof and the social services has got proof to show he doesn’t want to see them.

nwanneni:
one sided stories are a bitch.
Who knows if she came on here to paint the nigga black?
When you bring a woman to the western world,they grab their papers and grow wings immediately!
I think that Is what the guy was avoiding,perhaps he saw those traits in her.
Cos I don't understand why he will spend all that money to lift her from Nigeria to England only to maltreat her.
People that does that use the ladies for money making schemes like prostitution.
I'm sorry lady,but there are always 2 sides to a story.

Paint him black? Lol, he already did that himself, well I don’t really have to explain to you but if you know him ask him if I married him cos of papers. Also ask him why he slept with another nairalander when she came to our house on vacation and when he had an online affair with mother one. I will wait

freecocoa:
I don’t know what happened with you guys, but I know that life can be a biatch, so if you are happy with the life you have now, by all means do what you can to stay happy, life’s too short to be miserable.

Goodluck in all your endeavors.

Thanks so much

armyofone:
Take care of yourself and the children.
Leave room for co-parenting.
Stay well lady.

Thanks so much.

I NEVER closed the door to co-parenting, even despite all the evil he did to me

mankettle:
hmm.
it's good to know you have moved on from the celebrated issue. Continue to have strength as you move on in life. try to achieve the beat for the children, and always give room for communication between the kids and thier dad. do not let the sour taste of the divorce affect thier relationship with thier dad.
also, pls if you have the time, take some therapy, especially on your mental health, I have seen too many damaged single divorcees out there and pls don't be one of them.
after all is said, I am happy you moved on.. keep winning always

Thanks so much, the room for commutation was never closed, he doesn’t want to see or have anything to do with the children. Social services has intervened but there is nothing they can do too, if a man doesn’t want to see his kids or pay for his kids their hands is tied too.

As for my mental health (I AM � percent fine) the end of a marriage isn’t the end of my LIFE. I am one of the STRONGEST person I know. I CAN neber be damaged. I will NEVER give another human being that opportunity to DAMAGE me. I am created by GOD

ifyalways:

Co-signed.

Also stay safe online. Don't be fast to make e-friends, invite them to your home or life. All the very best. Im so very happy you got your papers.

And as for the co-parenting part. I NEVER EVER said he couldn’t see his children, it’s on record that I was the one who tried to make contacts so he could see the kids, dates for contacts was set up by social services, guess what? He always comes up with excuses why he couldn’t come and see his kids. Social services has seen thru his lies too and now they know he doesn’t want to have anything to do with the kids. The last time he saw them was in January, all efforts to get him to see them both by me and social services has proved abortive. So right now there is nothing I can do

tabithababy:
Hmmmm

Thank goodness you got your papers

Hope he later married his girlfriend

Thanks so much

ifyalways:

Co-signed.

Also stay safe online. Don't be fast to make e-friends, invite them to your home or life. All the very best. Im so very happy you got your papers.

Thanks so much, I only use social media cos it benefits my passion (which is makeup) I don’t have loads of friends- stocking to the ones who has been with me thru thick and thin. I live a private life ����

Hi everyone, hope you guys are doing great? It’s been a year since the unfortunate breakdown of my marriage (to be honest it was broken down way before that) not going to take too much of your time, I just read what ‘Freshvine’ said on the other thread opened by my close friend/sister. I think I know who ‘Freshvine’ is was just wondering if she lived with us when all that happened cow they way she was narrating how ‘I ran away with my kids - my own kids’. I just need for him/her to answer some questions for me since she feels or thinks she knew what happened.

I am doing great, my kids are doing great I, in a much better place. For those who said my marriage wasn’t legal ‘ I got proof to show it was legal- we got married at Church of England and there is a marriage certificate in regards to that. Don’t know why anyone would think I left Nigeria to come to the UK to be with a man and not get married legally ��‍♀️

So let’s just say I have moved on with my life, and for those asking or who said I stopped him from seeing his children, if you communicate with him, pls ask him when was the last time he saw his kids or wait when was the last time he paid child maintenance for his kids.

I didn’t bring my life after marriage on NL, he did, I never wanted that reality thingy, told him I wasn’t interested, he wouldn’t listen, everything that was written on that reality tv was done by him. I was busy taking care of my kids.

I got married to him because I LOVED him then, I gave him my ALL didn’t withhold anything back, cos that is what you do when you are in love.

Some people said oh she should have left him when it started and as you were all aware I didn’t have my papers then (Thank God my story has changed) God is so good, what he thought he meant for evil, God turned it to be GOOD. Anytime I brought the issue of him renewing my papers, I get screamed at and shouted upon, I get threats all the time, I knelt down, begged and cried for him to do it he blatantly told me he would NEVER

GOD is good, He did it when I least expected it, I didn’t pay a dime. Just to show you when God decides to favour you, He doesn’t need any man’s permission to do so.

Thanks for all those who could see thru his lies.

Anyway, I am FREE, I am HAPPY