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EternalBeing: Yes she is the same girl. It will not be easy for me to forgive her. The painful part of the whole thing is she left me, I never wanted the relationship to end because I believed the issues we had then could be resolved. Now she is back, not the same way she left but with baggage. 2 Likes |
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HARDDON: I would ensure she does fertility tests and she is certified medically okay before anything else. |
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makydebbie: The reason why I brought it to a Faceless forum like nairaland is because I can't share this delicate issue with my close friends and family because I don't want them to judge her. From the multitude of comments here, I surely can pick one or two things from the sensible comments which would help me in my decision. 1 Like |
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rosalieene: I haven't 1 Like |
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ednut1: It's entirely my decision to remain chaste until marriage and God has been helping me thus far. 7 Likes 1 Share |
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pocohantas: She loves and trust me, that was why she was comfortable enough to open up to me. My stand on relationship is sincerity and openness, and I have continually demonstrated this myself in the relationship. She opened up to me, after our joint Bible study on Sunday. Apparently,she was touched by the teaching. 9 Likes |
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seyigiggle: Read the story again before you spew rubbish 68 Likes 2 Shares |
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Headlesschicken: I'm not a saint....but I wasn't sexually involved with anyone while we were apart. 7 Likes |
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Omar09: She is not promiscuous, though one can only speak for one's self. I don't think that was the case at bolded. We were having recurrent arguments at the time, I myself needed a break then too, I just couldn't let go because I still loved her and wanted us to work. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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Sirvingeo: Yeah she loves me and she wants our marriage to be built on truth. I think I have already forgiven her, but the issue I have is forgetting what she has done and be able to trust her completely again. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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OladimejiRufai: Thank you for your advice. But she is not promiscuous, I'm almost certain of that. And the first instance she lied, did not involve sex. 2 Likes |
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donbachi: I did not sleep with another girl whilst we were apart, in fact since we got back, I have not slept with her. It's a no-sex relationship. 33 Likes 2 Shares |
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My girlfriend and I had issues sometime last year which eventually led to a break up. Early this year, we made up. I initiated the make up because I still loved her even though, it was she who ended the relationship. When we started again, I told her I wanted a fresh start and that she should come out clean with me of whatever I need to know when we were apart. She knows how much I emphasize sincerity as I hate lies. She confided in me, that she had sex with a guy whom she dated briefly when we were apart but that she used protection. I believed her and didn't really bother myself because we were not together when it happened. Few months later, I proposed to her and she accepted my marriage proposal. Since then, the relationship has been beautiful and we have become better as we were previously before the break up. We are actually planning our wedding in a few months. Yesterday, she confessed to me that she had an abortion while we were apart. That she lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby. Since then, I have mixed feelings for her: Firstly, I am strongly against abortion and she knows that. Secondly, She lied to me! The second reason is actually why I am more angry with her. She has lied to me previously and I don't know if I can believe and trust her again. She has been very remorseful and she told me she came out clean because she wants to set everything right before we get married. The issue here is that I don't know how can I trust her again? 33 Likes 4 Shares |
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niceprof: Thank you sir for your wise words. But I would like to ask is it compulsory I must break up with this girl? I truly love her and I have plans to marry her. The mistake I made is allowing her to sleep over in my house, I intend to set boundaries that will prevent future occurrence. Besides leaving her will leave her heartbroken and she will feel used. 1 Like |
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I fell and committed this sin with my girlfriend on Tuesday 17/10/2017. Since then I feel so empty, like God is so far from me. To think I kept myself for 27 years but I allowed the Devil to control my thoughts, suddenly I started fantasizing about having sex. First it was lust, later it progressed to kissing and eventually I slept with her. I'm 27 and this is the first girl I'm being with. I did not see the need to go into a relationship all this years because I have always believed as Christians, the sole purpose of being in a relationship should be marriage and since I did not consider myself ready then, I stayed away from girls. I am actually looking at getting married next year which was the reason I decided to go into this relationship in the first place but I never expected it to lead me to sin. I have asked God for forgiveness but I still feel guilty. I desire that close fellowship I used to have with God before I fell. Pastors in the house please help a brother get out of this. |
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