feminine A: Its obvious your mum is trying to save money at the detriment of your marriage. But nevertheless you need your man with you as much as possible. Ignore all her advances. If you are in doubt discuss the situation with your husband so you can understand his feelings and all. But immediately you put to bed to ur tent o! Don't stay an extra day in that house. Go back to your home and try to make up for the lost times with your hubby.

moremi2008: I think you're seriously underestimating your husband's will power (i hope he isn't reading this or he might feel very insulted). Most decent men don't sleep with every girl that strips naked in front of them! That's just a common misconception.

Sisi Kill has given you good advice. Don't give this girl power over you and your family. Just ignore her antics and put her in her place as the bloody maid! Above all, keep your eyes sharp! Insist your husband hang-out in your room throughout his visits and send the girl away once she serves the food.

PS - If she continues to seduce your husband, tell your husband the girl has AIDS. That'll definitely remove all desire from his eyes! Joking!

Sisi_Kill:

Ah! Okay now. . .that's another thing altogether. Not sure you can tell your mom how to run her home, one would just hope she has enough maternal love to put her daughter's welfare and marriage before her business.

On the other hand, the girls nudefest and your mom's stance is secondary. The most important issue here is. . . has your husband given you any reason to doubt his fidelity? Now I know some people will say. .what kinda question is that, isn't a man? And as much as we all wanna carry the all men are dogs placard, the reality is there are still some very good men out there. . .is your husband one of them? I think this where you should start from. If you can't trust him not succumb to what the girl is offering, then. . . ....

oluite:

Just saw this.
Why is she in your home?

Sisi_Kill: Wait a sec. . .does the girl live with you or your mom?

Sisi_Kill: If your mom lives her that much. . .more than her own daughter, why not move her into her own house? It is as if there is spell that keeps the girl attached to your house and if she leaves the house will turn to dust.

I think you are still stuck in mommy's pikin role, that's why you are reacting the way a child would if their mama says they can't have something. its time for you to snap out of it and be the MISTRESS of your own home.

copyright :


I am pregnant but I have to stay with my parents due to the fact that my pregnancy is 'high risk' and I need to be monitored seriously.
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Yield: Who is the woman of the house? You? Your maid or your mom? Keep in mind, this is your house, [b]your [/b]home. This maid has been acting inappropriately and based on your write-up she knows what she's doing. It seems she has something up her sleeves because no maid in her right mind would go to someone's house and behave the way she does: parading around half-clothed in your home, sleeping with your gateman and intentionally showing up naked in front of your husband. Are you serious?! You have been letting her get away with it and she's continuing because she sees she can. Is there anyone else you can speak with - to help you find another maid, since you need one? Since your mom isn't cooperating. You've told your mom, but she doesn't want her to leave since she's benefiting from her staying. This's YOUR home. E4nd of story. Just because you're on bed-rest doesn't mean you cannot speak up, put your foot down and send her away, which's what you need to do. She has gotten away with nonsense in your home for far too long. Tell her to GTFO. NOW. It doesn't matter how well she cooks. If she cannot conduct herself properly IN YOUR HOME, she needs to go.

oluite: Did you tell your mum about the very last incident which you witnessed yourself?Has her stance changed?

copyright :
Now I reported to my mum, who didn't say a word for fear that the girl might decide to leave.
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cotton101: WTF - u are not over reacting and i'm so angry right now I can't even respond properly.

WTF!!!!!!!