Offpoint1:

Definitely a stolen phone, phone gotten from kidnapped victim or phone whom the owner has been kxlled... No amount of distress go make person sell s21 for less than 100k. Phone wey screen alone worth 300k+

I'm using this exact phone. I changed it's screen a mth ago for 360k st Samsung repair shop ikeja.

GreenxGreen:
Thunder ⚡⚡⚡ Fire 🔥🔥🔥 Anyone who go Vote the entire APC candidates again 😠😠😠

Tell d yorubas who prefer to suffer n die of poverty than see another tribe rule Nigeria.

ProjectsCityNG:



Cassava is the safest way not to lose money in life. Go ahead. You are safe

Boss, is there really mkt for it? I'm asking bcoz I don't know.

GrammarNazi1:
Jegede, do you have empathy yourself?!

Do you?

You can only take, but you cannot give!

Only leeches are like that.

U dey mind am? Later she will complain her bf/hubby used her for rituals. That's y I DON'T pity them.

Rikze:
Following the nationwide strike and shutting down of the national grid early this morning. Do you have light?


Over here in some part of Yenagoa, Bayelsa State, we had light all through yesterday afternoon till I slept off at midnight just to wake up by past 6am without light.


So please let us know the situation in your area. Please mention the name of the city, community, town and state.


Regards 😊

i hope d Agbadorians who voted this dead govt were excepted from d power outage? Rubbish!

BabbanBura:


These guys are a serious menace to morality - they turned alot of our girls to Oloshos, enticed landlords to increase rents astronomically, cajoled our youths into laziness and seeking quick fraudulent wealth, finished weak parents and elders into supporting fraud by turning blind eyes to their activities, and became the worst role models for young chaps who now see school and hard work as punishment since they can still hammer using fraud while living soft lives

Well said brother.

JaySmart4422:
I have this neighbour who rented a room and parlour self con
But the kitchen in their flat is very big as a family of 5 with plenty friends

They converted the kitchen to a Room and starting bringing their plate to the back of my bedroom window to wash

If you hear the noise of plates n pot u will pity me I can't sleep cos of constant noise n fight very loud, the whole noise feels as if it's happening in my flat.


Sometimes this plates and pots smells like a dead rat and I will be force to close my window.

I have begged this family severally to to wash their plates inside their flat but I will never listen rather they will be throwing tantrums.

Recently they made it a permanent place of washing plates n pots

So I had to involve the landlord and he asked them to stop

Since they the entire family have been in their flat insulting me calling me names.

Am becoming very uncomfortable

Right now I don't know what action to take cos I don't want to respond to any of this insult

How do I put an end to this .

long as d noise had stopped, there is nothing more to do. Let them talk n insult u all they want. Since no one is, saying anything to your face... Lock up n mind your business.

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.

I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.

As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

It's obvious to u that she is in luv with someone else, u also hv d evidence u need. What do u want us to advise u now? U better move on with your life n leave olosho alone.

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as I type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her.

There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but I keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much.

Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation.

It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church members and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all.

Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice.

Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

I'm so sorry your passing through this.... I understand y u don't want divorce, but to solve this issue, u hv to pretend u do.

FIRST, act like a mad man n attack they man IN CHURCH, FULL GLARE OF EVERYONE (aim is to embarrass him), make sure his wife n kids withness it too.

Second, ambush him at night when he least expects n promise (verbally) to kill him if he doesn't desist.

NOW YOUR WIFE.

Call a family meeting n say u want divorce she she can't be faithful. SHOW THEM PROOF.

Take all your kids for DNA.

U can later forgive her, but make sure she sweats it out.

FINALLY, CHANGE CHURCH.

God bless you!

Usefulsense:
Before I commence my story, I want to specifically thank those who advised me not to travel. Your advise was borne out of genuine love and concern. One stated clearly that I should not leave known for unknown.

However, taking the bold step to leave Nigeria at the time I did was the best decision I ever made in my life. In fact, given the same scenario and even if I am 52 and my salary was #2million per month, I will still leave Nigeria.

The first 2 months was very difficult. The mistake I made was my insistence on getting accounting job. I did over 60 applications and all of them were rejected. I have no Australian experience neither do I have Australian certification.

My wifey was indeed an angle in human form. She provided the needed support. She shouldered all the financial responsibilities all by herself. This is the part that almost pushed me into depression. As an Igboman, we consider it a taboo for our women to feed, house and cloth us.

After two months, I decided it was time to re-strategize. I enrolled for a forklift training and within two week, I obtained my forklift license.
Not satisfied with that, I took some courses and did some checks that will qualify me to go into disability support work. I obtained First aid certificate, Diploma in mental health, certificate in infection prevention and control, certificate in care for the aged and disabled, police check, working with children checks, NDIS worker check, NDIS orientation certificate and many more.

I started applying for warehouse jobs. In fact, I had to reject a lot of them. I settled for one of the warehouses and it has been awesome working for the organization.

I have not gotten what I am looking for yet. I am using the warehouse to keep body and soul together. In the warehouse where I work, you will see people of different ages. from 18 years to 65 years working and making a good living. in Australia, there is always something to do.

The only thing I miss, is the big man mentality we have in Nigeria. Where I will sit in my office, call one of my staff in intercom and ask for a cup of coffee; and it will be brought to me in seconds. You can't try that rubbish here.

The level of security here is top notch. I have no fear, i move about anytime of the day/night.

After one week in Australia, I concluded that Nigeria is a completely lawless country and an animal jungle. Here everything is ordered. I am yet to hear a driver blow his car horn while driving. There are no touts, there are no omoniles. Electricity has never blinked for one second. water is constant, gas is there. I have never seen two persons fighting in the street. I have never seen a mad man or woman on the road or street beggars. The air we breath here is different from the air we breath in Nigeria.

It was in Australia that I realized that the saying in Nigeria that Nigerian police is your friend is actually true. Break the law in Nigeria and police catches you, just give them #2,000 you are off the hook. And the circle of lawlessness continues. Here, it is a different ball game. Proposing bribe will be used as evidence against you. It doesn't matter who you are. Every one is civil.

While in Nigeria I suffered malaria every month. There is no month I don't treat malaria. Since I got to this country, I have never had headache let alone malaria.

Children are doing wonderfully well at school and are already speaking through their nose.

In conclusion, I made the best choice. Even though I have not really found the kind of job I want to do, the little I am doing now contributes in paying bills and I have savings more than my monthly gross per month in Nigeria.

If you are above 45 years and have your partner already in this country, and you are an employee of a company, it is in your best interest to leave Nigeria. Provided, of course, that you are healthy and you are not lazy.

One dark side to moving abroad is that you have more chances of being divorced by your wife. This is a story for another day as I have gathered enough reason on why families divorce and will create a thread on this someday.


I am open to any question you may have.

I hv always heard there are lots of menial jobs to do in Australia, u just confirmed it. Thanks for d info. God bless.

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

Bro, collecting food regularly from a married woman, walking with her (doesn't matter d explanation) by that time of d night, chatting n talking freely with a married woman IS A NO NO NO. You're not married, when u are, you'll understand fully. Plz note that most men (like me) won't talk... Na to hurt u big time I go plan. Sth that will cripple u financially, physically or more.... U better stay off pple wife.

Jennyclay:
I have never lived in such environment and I will never live in such environment

I can’t even visit someone living in such an environment not to talk of living there myself .

Don't u think u lack common sense? Bcoz u live somewhere better doesn't make other who live here any less human. Kindly learn compassion. Thanks.

woginid967:


There are no answers.

The economy is too harsh for these unwise questions


Everyone is different

Budget is according to pocket. Simple

This might offend u, but plz think abt it..... IF A MAN REALLY NEEDS TO BUDGET TAKING A BABE OUT, THEN SHE'S SIMPLY BEYOND YOUR LEVEL.

Open up to her who u really are, by taking her to where ever u can afford. If she's yours, she'll stay, if she goes, bro move on n keep planning your future.... Budget ONLY for your future, most likely that girl who walked away will still be single by d time u get to your "future". Thanks

Btruth:
What the Bible teaches about money

Sun, 21 Jan 2024

‘Though your riches increase, do not set your heart on them.’ Psalm 62:10

Let’s settle it once and for all. If God can trust you with something small, He will trust you with more (see Luke 16:10, 2 Corinthians 9:6-11). But His blessings come with certain conditions, and here are four you need to honour.

1) Don’t try to claim credit. God told the Israelites, ‘You may say to yourself … “My hands have produced this wealth for me.” But remember the LORD … for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth … If you ever forget … you will surely be destroyed’ (Deuteronomy 8:17-19 NIV).

2) Don’t forget others. The Bible commands ‘Instruct those who are rich in this present world not to be conceited or to set their hope on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly supplies us with all things to enjoy. Instruct them to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share … so that they may take hold of that which is truly life’ (1 Timothy 6:17-19 NASB20).

3) Don’t become arrogant. Jeremiah admonishes us, ‘Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong … of their strength or the rich … of their riches, but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the LORD’ (Jeremiah 9:23-24 NIV).

4) Don’t allow anything to take God’s place. ‘Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, “Who is the LORD?”’ (Proverbs 30:8-9 NIV). Remember, you don’t own anything – you’re just an administrator of God’s estate and an executor of His will. It’s an awesome responsibility, so make sure you do a good job.

I luv d way u backed up every sentence or point with a bible verse, makes your entire writeup more believable n impossible to hv an objection to. Thanks, this was a good read to me.

Balablue64:
You see that oha with goat meat it goes well with fufu or even igbo garri.
Anytime we kill goat in the village it's always oha season my grandma will prepare it with cold hardrock fufu, ha i missed village food.
I still had it after i traveled to the village last year.
Please flush that efo riro down the toilet thank you.

Make them first commot all d meat way dey inside give me. I luv meat like say ehn...

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?

My brother, I know exactly (from experience) what u passing through. So I'll tell u this... Now u hv seen all this n your heart has told u to dump her sorry ass, what are u waiting for? Many girls out there will value d little u give them. Move on now b4 it's too late.

onobire83:
I have 2 kids (boy and girl) with my wife in a marriage of 6 years , and I needed another child but my wife doesn’t (she went for family planning) what should I do?

Advice please

Threaten to get another girl pregnant n she will sit up.

Draslo:
This is not for me. My sister na church worker

My guy's sister is nothing you write home about. Their father has money, like 3 Rolls-Royce parked in the compound type of rich but the girl is very promiscuous. Many big boys on the island have had a fling because she must attend every raving bash. Her SM pages are full of filth in different countries. You'd easily call her online olosho sponsored by politicians. Her friends are worse cos they don't come from that kind of money. This girl is just 23 and already a red flag amongst guys. Even guys that have never seen her unclothedness will claim to have slept with her and people will believe as long as the guy has class.

My guy is getting married in January and doesn't want his only sister there. Can she still be saved?

First step will be for her to STOP THAT LIFE. Until she stops, my brother nothing will work.

general111:
Hello good people of Nairaland.
My fiancée to me today that her ex is requesting to meet her,and she was asking for my permission to go.
Should I grant her this request or should I be worried?

Stop being a pus@y. Deep down your heart u know seeing her ex isn't good for her or your relationship, why then do u consider allowing her go? Be a man, stamp your feet to d ground AND SAY NO

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Bro, I'm married, so let me tell u this, u were wrong to hv rejected their "first" gift. U could hv simply collected it n thrown it away later (I've done that many times). But an outright rejection is a negative signal.

marvellous2222:
My wife calls her family for everything, once I'm broke she calls her mother to send her food items, I have begged her to stop, I have gotten angry yet she said she can't be hungry in a man's house when there's excess in her parents house, my wife can't manage 3k to cook for me, a family with just 2 kids, she'll call her elder brothers and tell them I gave her 3k to cook immediately they will send money for her.

Can't a woman water down her taste to keep her marriage? They don't insult me but I feel not man enough, I feel less of myself, my wife is from a rich home and the house we are living is a wedding gift from her brothers, she's an only daughter and they over pamper her, they don't allow her ask twice.

I remember I bought a car for her when she delivered our first child my brother in-law knew about it before the car arrived cause I ordered through his company, he changed the car to something twice the one I could afford without my knowledge, when they brought a car to the house I said this isn't what I ordered my brother in-law said their Ada can't be seen driving such after marriage.

They are planning to open a business for her and they didn't involve me in the plan, my marriage is not what I wanted cause I feel like I'm not man enough.

My wife doesn't appreciate gifts from me like when it's from her family, I got her a 75k watch she said thank you and for months she didn't use it, I had to remind her that there's a watch I gave her, but when one of her brother sent her a watch worth 260k she danced and used it always.

How do I handle this?

Bro, I totally understand u. Here's my advise. Since her brothers aren't insulting u, welcome d help, deep down u know u need it. Use it as an opportunity to save more n achieve your dreams. Allow them do d spending, but continue to talk to your wife n condemn her attitude... But deep down WORK HARDER

xin5:
Please is that how it's been done? I bought a land early 2018 and now I feel like selling out. The families who sold it to me said they are entitled for their own percentage from the money the buyer is offering. Please I need to know if that's how it's done. I only went to inform them I would be handling the piece of land to a new owner and thought kola nut and palm wine would be it, since they also sold to several people there and also have some available I thought I should let them know for future reference... instead they are asking how much I am selling and wants to know every details of it.

Meanwhile the deeds that's about to be prepared would be in my name and that of the buyer, what consigns the family?

I had to tell them that's not possible it's my own land I bought from them I am selling, he went further and said it's either they buy it back from with same amount I bought 2018 or I give them their percentage from the appreciating amount or I develop and let matter rest.


Please help

Don't be manipulated. U don't owe them a dime. U even tried sef. If its me, I won't even inform them. How can I seek someone else's consent to sell my property?

Rapmoney:
It seems as if private school owners in Nigeria belong to a secret cult that is hidden from the public, and which is different from the usual private school owners association that we know of. It's as if anyone who opens a school is forced to join this 'evil association' with utmost alacrity. Why do I feel so? There is a laid down pattern which almost everyone of them follows. To suck you, use you and drain the youthfulness out of your soul.

All over the world, July/August is usually a long holiday when teachers take out time to rest, go on vacations or engage in acquiring new skills that could even be outside their field. What we usually observe in Nigeria is different from this. In Nigeria, it is a time where school owners engage teachers in fruitless and vain holiday lesson just to suck money from gullible parents and prevent the teachers from engaging in other endeavours that can improve their lives and wellbeing.

If you're a young person and you work in a private school, I beg you, have different plans for yourself and set targets for the duration you wish to work in the school, if you don't want your life to become wasted. There is no career growth in Nigerian private schools. The highest that will be offered you when you work for 10/12 years is the post of a principal/headmaster/headmistress and with a salary of 70k - 80k. After that, what happens? Of course, you can't be promoted to occupy the school owner's position.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that working in a private school is bad. What I am saying is that as a young person, don't stay too long on the job. Lest you waste your life.

Dem say 'dey do am till better job come, dey do am till better job come, na so Brother Okrimona take turn 58 years for inside teaching job.

U make total sense. I wasted 16 yrs of my life teaching. The moment I saw an opportunity to leave, I grabbed it n ran as fast as my legs could carry me. THE ONLY THING WORSE THAN TEACHING IS DEATH!

Taylor90:
While his online miscreants are flaunting garri and groundnut without milk

What am I even saying?

Where them see groundnut sef

Very soon una go hit street with plastic plate dey beg for money

As them no wan get sense. Let them suffer more!

Marineson:
Obi is coming and he's going to make Nigerians laugh again.
Anybody that loves suffering should pray that it should be in his or her family alone

Well said. One crate of beer for u

Rtk4:
Our last son just clocked 2years just a week ago and my wife is insisting that he starts school by September, so i told her i don't have money to enroll him in a school by September. I also let her know that the basic age for a child to start school is 3years. I sighted example of alot of people within our vicinity who also waited for their children to reach 3years before enrolling them in school. She still maintains her stands and i also maintain mine. Though he is so wise above his age but i don't have money for that now. He can count 1-10 already.... Please guys what is your take on this?

Brother, u are right, ideal age is 3 (NOT 2),if u enrol him anything b4 3yrs old, your practically paying for him to go n play... Which can be done at home (FREE). Also, by age 3 their immune system is stronger. Hv u noticed that kids below 3 yrs, go for immunisation more often? That's bcoz their system is still open to any or all illnesses. Boss, your d one paying d fees, not your wife, stamp your foot down n insist on what u know is right.

guobe:
thats just the plain truth.our Government should fix this country and make it conduceive because alot of Nigerians will like to relocate back if things are working well over here

U hv said my mind 100%. I rest my case.

Tpave:
Is it ideal for your wife to insist she knows your password as a husband because she wants to be checking your phone anytime she wishes?

A house wife read on the Internet how a married woman kept another lady outside for 7 years without the wife knowing and he also did not tell the lady he was married.

Some wives on the comment section threatened that they must start checking their husbands phone and he must give them the password.

I remember arguing with my wife over this. Even tho I've got nothing to hide, she snooping around my phone shows lack of trust. Finally, i insisted on giving her my password on my own terms n when I feel like. AS A MAN, I SHOULD LEARN TO STAND YOUR GROUND.

solmusdesigns:



Imagine if a kind woman like Bovas gets lisence to import fuel and sell at good price

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Exactly, but d powers that be, won't allow her bcoz she obviously won't bribe them. That's OUR problem.

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

brother, I think your living on a family like mine. Where there's no much age difference between boys, this kinda stuff always happens. Unfortunately, there's nothing much u can do abt it. U hv to bear as d elder one. BUT I ASSURE U, IT WILL STOP IN TIME. U JUST FOCUS ON MAKING IT, LEAVING D HOUSE N BECOMING SUCCESSFUL. NOW, I hv d dull respect of my younger brother who always attacked me then. Bro, hustle n d better than him financially, u will be surprised to see him crawl bck to u.

MetaBroadband:
Good morning mature men and women in the house. Please I need your help on this topic.

My Fiancee told me about how her biological dad abandoned her and her mum after getting her mum pregnant.

Her mum later married another man who adopted her as his child.

Now she's grown and I've proposed to her, I wanted to go for her official introduction and list collection.

Would it not be nice to hear the biological father's opinion? Should I just ignore the fact that the man is still alive and proceed with the marriage arrangement?

Although she said I should not bother about that, but this is Nigeria and as an Akwa Ibomite I don't think it's proper. Although she's against me trying to find out about the man's opinion. Should I care?

What can you say about this?

Note: she only told me that the man abandoned them, but what if it was her mum that actually took her away?

Is there any proof of aduption? If yes, don't go to see anybody. if no, my brother, go n see him. U should no how women can paint things at times. It would hv been different if they told u he was dead, but here, he's alive, u not only know this but (from what I said) I can tell u also know where he is. Bros, this is marriage, u will hv to go see many pple including her uncles right? Why not take a few hrs to go see her biological father? He may not hv done anything in her life, but u owe him that much.... BCOZ OF TOMORROW!!