I was touch when i read this post. I'm going to hint out some point about love and possibly give u some Godly advice that u need to apply for the restoration of your love and happiness in your married home at the end of my comment.

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, u fell in love with your spouse. U anticipated his call, wanted his touch, and liked his idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a spontaneous experience. U didn't have to do anything, that's why it's called "falling" in love - because it's happening to u.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet. Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that u were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to u. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love diminish. It's the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive u nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if u think about your marriage, u will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when u were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, u and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as u and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love u once had, u may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

@Hopea23 said two things that i want to advice u against; Don't say u regret marrying him, don't give the devil chance to come into your marriage. Your negative proclamation about your marriage will give the devil chance to snare and hold your enemies marriage captive and not your's. Let the issues of marriage life proceed out of your mouth.

@abydee, now that u are going through this hard time, step up your faith and keep declaring God's word upon your marriage. ou[b]U have to fight the good fight of faith by setling your marriage life upon christ. Don't get it hurt with your husband, hand over him to christ the author and finisher of [/b]our faith.

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND
God almighty will give u knowledge, wisdom, strenght, courage, endurance, effort, zeal and detemination to succeed in your married life. Best of luck in all your endavours.


very educative advice

Hi sis, I really felt for you after going tru ur write up, all you need do is call ur hubby to order by either waking him up at night and talk to him, but in a polite manner if possible u can do dat in tears tell him how bad you feel living all alone even after marriage which u're suppose to be a father and a daughter or a mother and son, in the process of doing so do not do this on a working day or on Sundays cuz he might pick offence dat he has to go to work tomorrow, search within ur self where u personally went wrong in d course of ur marriage u know we men are had hearted, just ask him if there is anything u've done to deserve this from him. And on ur own part u allowed dis since u married him and allow him to smoke, club and see friends at any point he wishes to, you were suppose to control him as in not letting him smoke around you not wanting anything to do with his friends and never go clubbing with him before marriage, so he won't do any of those around you. I'm telling you this out of experience, aside from my mum today, "I have just one woman dat am scared of and at the same time one woman I respect" cuz without her, I would have been nobody today, I wish you'll find peace in your marriage that will last until forever. I do all those things before deciding to go into marriage and today, I am one of the happiest men on earth even if not earning much but coming back home to those that loves and welcome you with a smile is something. BE PRAYERFUL IT WILL SURELY COME TO PAST. "Hope it works for you as it did to my wife"

hi dear abydee,

i feel ur pains u r a very strong and courageous woman n i commend u for that my dear like someone said this is it , u r in it u have to try and make it work , it isnt easy what u r doing but i will say u have been doing great , your husband is a regular man like the guys all said u have to stand up for yourself , a man will not work or do anything if u r doing everyhing , make sure u do only things that r convenient and please dont displease yourself to please him, as some nairalanders said let him work even if is 5 bucks let him bring it and take care of his family he is the man and always b on the supporting side , know how much he earns and how much he can afford and support the rest where he doesnt hav dont carry everything on your shoulders , the load of marriage was not meant for only one person u will break down , u r only human and u deserve the right to happiness no matter how little it is, my mother married my dad was doing all the perfect wife and being treat like trash and was thrown out at the end with no where to go , but the same man married another woman and was controlled and ruled by the woman , so my dear take the good advice here and always make urself happy and comfortable and no matter what u do dont forget ur kid she comes first , lastly love and pray for ur husband cos since i was born that is the only one that never disappoints or turns his back on us , after all said marriage is not perfect and ur own story wont end in sorrow with prayer patience , some litle work and the help OF GOD u can make it work , ur story wont b the worst, be strong abydee GOD is with u all the way and he loves u more than anyone else