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Wow this is so not the end I expected for this little boy s case ![]() |
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baby124: very well said and nothing more to add.. Bleble24 ((Hugs))) there is no manual that comes with parenting especially now having to deal with great loss. Take baby 124's practical advise and I am sure it will be well with you 1 Like |
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Gracious10: I wasn't blaming the nurses , I blame the whole system from top to bottom. The officer who is charged with procurement or facilities probably wants to finish his 4 X 4 Flat in Igando in 2 years all from his civil servant salary so of course why wont gloves, toilet paper, antibacterial gel etc. disappear from the Wards. Its just sickening how people can be so greedy when it comes to Human Life. And it makes it even sickening that our leaders who by the way get flown abroad for ear ache see how its done and wont want just a fraction of these for their citizenry. No one is talking about over flowing CT and MRI scans but just the basics , the basics at the level of primary healthcare. The citizenry also have some blame as well but before we get to attitude lets focus on providing infrastructure( or even maintaining and upgrading those already there) Guys and St Thomas hospital was built in the 15th century and is still standing today as a modern hospital by any standard and same can be said for so many hospitals in the UK. No one is saying build thousands of brand new hospitals. I know lagos state has a wide range of health centres and hospitals in different local government areas .Just upgrade the services and invest in infrastructure so we wont be hearing things like ' Only this hospital has a dialysis machine' in the whole of Oyo state. ![]() I just get annoyed talking about it. ![]() ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
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Wow just had a conversation about this with my Nigerian colleague over lunch.. she was vexed cos I am on this support 'Nigerian/Black Owned Businesses' crusade ( don't mind me I have been on this Black is the new black vibe in the last couple of months ![]() ![]() Like others have said its the environment but even as I make that excuse, some (not ALL) Nigerian nurses still bring that attitude to where you cant use the excuse of 'lack of facilities' I mean some people who have babies in London Inner City Hospitals actually have prayer points not to have a Nigerian Midwife on duty when they have their babies. That said, the government needs to make healthcare infrastructure a priority. Its just getting plain ridiculous. My mum was cursing Nigerian leaders when she witnessed the care from Ambulance staff when I had my son. She kept asking if we were private ( and we in the UK know that the NHS has its own bad days ). This was because we had to get a commissioner to write a letter to get an ambulance to move my Dad from Gbagada General hospital to Lasuth before he eventually passed away ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't even know how long it will take but we need to do better. and by We I mean the government cos that's the start. Then we tackle attitude next.We cant even use 3rd world as an excuse anymore. we need to do better. 3 Likes |
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naijababe: we are plenty that are trying not to be Mrs Scrooge.. |
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edwife: aww how are you and the family Edwife hope all is well. The Christmas spirit has not yet arrived for me o maybe it will arrive by December. |
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babythug: I dash you back .. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() This uterus has retired ![]() ![]() |
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Onegai: I don't get it especially for one year olds, one year olds tend to cry all through their parties so why all the stress. From 5 ehen, when at least they can have a feel of 'its my party'. I think a lot of extravagant One year old birthday parties are just for the parents. Forgive me mummies.. followed onegai here ![]() 4 Likes |
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Not read all through the thread but na wa for all this people who keep messages and bring out later as ammunition chai ![]() ![]() Na wa o 1 Like |
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Human beings sha ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Why did you guys not tell her to know her limit at the time before it got to late. 22 Likes |
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That there is a relationship between a Donald Trump Presidency, Brexit and Biafra ( at least according to 'pundits' on FB ![]() |
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EfemenaXY: I was in absolute pieces from the beginning to the end ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I didn't even have a restful nights sleep. I felt the heartbreak killed his mum and to think that the Killers just got 8 years and are now out and even reoffending just made it worse ![]() It was heart wrenching and I pray God continues to strengthen the Taylor Family. It was nice though for us ( and for the people who go down the path of violence) to see the effects senseless crimes like this have on families. |
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Hello everyone Supporting this charity drive for those in the London Area and thought to share. http://wrapuplondon.org.uk/ Have any old winter coats that are now snug,( or loose for we weight watchers ![]() This charity is organising collections at London Tube Stations Canary Wharf, Euston, Highbury& Islington, Kings Cross , Liverpool Street ,London Bridge Victoria and Waterloo. Times are from 7am to 11am 7th,8th and 9th November 2016 so you can just drop them off as part of your morning commute. You can also organise office/church/community centre collections as well. CC Efemenaxy Tearoses ( I know you don't live in London but you can help create awareness for people you know who do). Jaybee 3 Edwife and anyone who lives around the London area. Thank you |
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I just Taya for this kain discipline ![]() For petes sakes the punctuality of children in primary school is normally down to parents. In secondary school then yes it is down to to the child as they are getting ready for life. And for all those saying that's how we were trained most Nigerians are generally the worst time keepers ever. That's why you will give someone an appointment for 2 and the person getting there at 2 is seen as strange. 3 Likes |
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bellong: Wow she looks really well ..Thank you Lord for giving her another shot at life 1 Like |
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tearoses: LOL you are just too funny ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() You are right though about various ways to cash in on the Nigerian Owambe ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Kimoni: You people are not serious ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Me sef I no know how I take type am ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I just wanted her to know that swag and rep does not pay bills ni ![]() |
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Mindfulness: I will definitely check out all the recommendations thank you ![]() I have also read most of Adichie's work except Americanah and I will definitely get to it soon. You are right, I almost always prefer books to film adaptations and would always prefer to read a book before seeing the movie. |
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EfemenaXY: Aww thanks for mentioning me Efe. ![]() Lovely Thread that does bring back lovely Memories ![]() I was such a voracious reader in those days ![]() Gradually getting better at it again though and I intentionally set time aside for reading and slot into my commute as well( when I get a seat ). I dusted up and renewed my library card a couple of weeks ago when I took the kids in ( I have a kindle but am old fashioned I love flipping pages) and went to the African Literature section, currently reading 'News from Home 'by Sefi Atta.( I like her writing style and just finished her another of her books ' A bit of Difference' could so relate to it as a Nigerian living in the UK). I just found that my reading was becoming centred around the children alone. I told myself ,its not just reading to and with them it also helps them seeing YOU read as well. I also hope to introduce African/ Black Written Literature to them as well. My daughter got Maya Angelou' Little People Big Dreams as one of her birthday presents and hope to get her the whole set. I loved The Passport of Mallam Illia by Cyprian Ekwensi Akin the Drummer Boy by Cyprian Ekwensi Trials of Brother Jero by Wole Soyinka The Lion and the Jewel by Wole Soyinka The Gods are not to Blame by Ola Rotimi( we even had a stage production for this ) and so many others too numerous to mention. Aww memories. ![]() 18 Likes 3 Shares |
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moji26: That's good to hear. Your mum really does wish you well after all said and done.I know you are an adult in your own right but you need to also meet her halfway by respecting,helping her when you can. It took me becoming a mother and understanding the expectations,hopes,aspirations that you have for your children to understand (and even appreciate ) the sometimes hard stance of my parents concerning some things. I do sincerely hope it all turns out well for you in the end. 4 Likes |
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baby124: I get her reluctance especially if she has really never had to struggle for anything . I would however have given some sort of pass if she was a teenager without a child and new one on the way. We all did some silly things as teenagers especially if your parents were comfortable enough to give you all you want/need. To be honest I initially hated going to the shop as it was not too far from my school and I also did not want people to 'see me' but bless my Margaret thatcher mothers heart dem no born you well to not go ![]() I am glad that I got see the other side of life a bit as that made me or rather makes me appreciate the good times. Mothers do get fed up but one thing I am sure of that is that a mother who paid international fees will definitely not totally abandon her if she sees a reformed character. I don't even think she is a charity case and as far as I am concerned does not even need donations. All she needs is guidance (maybe even counselling )the willingness to be humble and graft hard and she will be fine. Just to add she also needs to lose the victim /entitlement mentality very fast. I am naturally very patient with people but people with a constant victim 'everyone is against me ' mindset irritate me . 7 Likes 1 Share |
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Not really commented on this thread as I didn't want to just repeat all that everyone else has said over and over again.. I hope and pray she is able to get her life in order and reconciling with her mum while showing a will to change for the better is the way out. Moji26, I want to just touch on the issue of not wanting to go to the shop because 'people will see you' my dear there is dignity in labour. My mum worked in a government parastatal while we were growing up doing well , going on official trips abroad, official and personal driver etc. There was a time both parents had their own drivers and we were driven chauffeur driven to school. Now I am not try to brag here just sharing a personal experience to make you see that life is not a bed of roses and we sometimes have to face life squarely despite what we think we should have. My mum then left her job and decided to go it on her own , at this time she had 3 shops one on the mainland, two on the island( one in balogun and one in apongbon). She was into wholesale importation of gift items and shoes and bags. The first set of problems was when there was a dodgy clearing agent which meant some of her consignments went into demurrage and at the end of the day the cost of clearing those goods had eaten deep into her profit. She had a thieving salesgirl in the apongbon shop who was literarily cleaning out on a big scale which was found out after an audit and this turned into a big police case which eventually led nowhere. It was a case of one issue after the other and eventually 3 shops became one( the one on the mainland, I don't want to say the location as it was quite known in that location at the time).Dads business was also not going great at the time. We went from having 4 cars to one that was always at the mechanics. My mum who I had always seen growing up with on the fleek hair, suits etc always looking fly( my mum was the most glamorous woman to me as child she still is ![]() I went to secondary school with some of the snootiest kids you can ever find , some who passed by or saw us in that shop and I wont even lie that I was very happy that were 'seeing me selling coke/pure water ' but the truth is that shop was paying part of our bills. Its not a matter of them seeing us it was a matter of they were not going to feed us. I don't want to go on and on but things drastically changed for a while and the standard of living dropped drastically from what we were used to. My parents tried to shield us from it but as the first child I bore the major brunt of it and I saw first hand that life is not always a bed of roses. To cut the long story short ,My family really went through hard times which is (let me lighten the mood a bit ![]() ![]() If you see me today blowing fone ![]() My dear, please as most people have said, reconcile with your mum and the one of first step is to start by helping her as much as you can.( or your strength can allow) . We tend to look down on informal skills, but even the art of attending to customers is something that you will learn and need later in life if you eventually go down the beauty/salon business route. Let her know you want to start helping her in the shop. You need to start taking responsibility for your life and your kids and I also think the reconciliation with your mum will help with this. Again I wish you well and hope it all works out well in the end. 28 Likes 2 Shares |
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Onegai: I think it did but the 'morality' was more aimed at a certain target audience ![]() Alot of older aunties and grandmas cant even comprehend the 'ruth abokokus me and my husband' ( ruth die with husband ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
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Realhommie: No she is not a deltan ![]() ![]() ![]() Onegai: Seriously, I actually think the influx of Pentecostal Christianity into Nigeria kinda curbed women a bit( not so sure about the men though ![]() Because the shenanigans and life style of some women from way back ehn ![]() |
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byvan03: Very well said. Some women of old I know ( some in my family ) make some women of today look like saints ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
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naijababe: Abi o ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Its not good to be a television major ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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naijababe you never disappoint abeg my hubby has been raving about Narcos ,is it good? |
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naijababe: han han now how can you hate greg more than kanan and angela? However I don't get why he was feeling like one kain matyr by confronting Sandoval. Ode could he not just have contined with the Angela is the leak story and later ratted him out. Mumu stunts ko smart rara ![]() 1 Like |
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Timbuktou: Funny enough ( and I am half ijebu/ half lagosian and before people start there are indigenous lagosians ![]() ![]() Oh well , stereotypes are part of human nature jare. Sebi all Yoruba men are demons ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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yetseyi: I wonder at this curse o ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I think I need to stop reading/responding to this ijebu bait threads ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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