@way&life

please also take shots of the kitchen too, really wanna see it
might just be interested

Better check it now before it becomes too late. I was in those shoes b4 until I  recently stood my ground. There was this guy from the same village with my husband who almost completely took over my home and my husband would always wave it aside when I bring up the issue. He will not just mind his business, always poke-nosing in our affairs

Infact I can't begin to narrate what this guy have been doing, he likes to compete with us for nothing. Anytime he sees us do something he will go and do the same, when we were planning our wedding he hurriedly wedded, when my husband told him about  the land we bought he quickly bought and started laying a foundation, when we moved to a bigger apartment he too moved, he visited us and saw DSTV he went to buy, we bought a big car he too changed his car etc I don tire. I really didnt have any problem with that But He was practically the one running things in my home, he went as far as using  my sister-in-law as a spy and cause problem in the house and encourage to call village people and report, he would come and start running his mouth about bad ‘wives’ whereas no talks about his own. how he will not tolerate this and that from a woman. it got so bad that I had to give it back to him when his cup was full. I asked him if we interfere in his marriage and that he should leave us alone and face his family that we are matured enough to run our home. Since then the guy has not step foot in our house, b4 now he use to visit almost every day cos we live in the same area, now I have my space. My husband knew what he was doing was wrong but couldn’t just confront him and when I did, he kind of  liked it.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

Has anyone won in the ongoing 'text and win' promotion by zain??
share your experience.

What is the possibility of someone winning as they keep urging u to send some more

I even heard about their ongoing promotions

TEXT and Win

Who knows how real it is, dont wanna waste my money
Hope this is not 419

@Jennykadry, sorry didnt come back early y'day, was so busy.

hmmmm!!!! my marriage have in 'cloud 10' lately and I thank God I came to Nairaland.
things are moving faster than I expected. our communication has greatly improved and his committments to the family has been awesome. he spends good time at home unlike b4, he's getting more and more responsible for us as 'his children'.
Tells me where and what he does, calls when he is delaying outside, provides for the home without me asking etc.
It's as though we are just knowing each other kinda.
I really didnt do much talk but actions and suddenly things started falling into place. was thinking of talking to him about his attitude to my surprise he changed all by himself.
Last saturday he said he has missed staying home for a long time and just fuelled the generator and stayed home althrough the day hmmmmm was very surprised, kept asking myself if this is for real?

We now joins me in prayers like we used to do. He's just been very loving and u bet am having the best time ever.
Have suspended my biz 4 now, just watching and being a good wife, supporting every of his moves.

This man likes been treated/pampered like a baby sha. I hope for better days

To all who contributed I say thank u.

To all whose advices hve helped me, I appreciate u. I wanted to refrain from mentioning names but can't just forget people like ANALYTICAL(wish I knew u in person), ogamadam, ninapha, chaircover, apocalypse, SAlady, Jennykadry, Grpcaptain, outstrip, beejaei, sistawoman, Nikkygal and so many others I cant remember now, thank u for saving my marriage, May also meet u at the point of your needs. AMEN

You are intimidating him. I also think you only assumed to know him before your marriage you did not really know him but its not late.(You started hating him after your giving birth)[/b]I'll try to be very objective as I do not see any reason why you are asking for an advice when you know your problem.
Fine he might he has lost his mind, he has lost track about life, [b]but please tell us is that baby his?Don't U think he discovered something about you that made him loose the expectation he had from you infact he now sl**ps with U forcefuly like he is in a revenge mission, don't you see its like one night stand has taken hold of him.
You are successful but why not allow him be the man of the house since he wants to(and he is), minimize bringing business and career talk to the bed for now until he finds it interesting, go back to the way you both were before and few months into your marriage when you worshiped him and allowed him buy you most of the things you needed even though you had the money.
Did you make jest of his background joking? Did you joke about his pe**is to be small to his face? Did you tell him / anyone that he doesn’t satisfy U?
Did you tell him about your past affair which involved your corporate life? Do you have one? No reasonable man tells a half lie to the wife to her face like urs is doing, allowing you see the name saved and still telling U the text is a mistake. You are a female you could have gotten bacteria infection from any toilet
Find about his work problems without telling anyone there U are having issues and discus it with him(not letting him know U know).He might be a subordinate at the office and U are making him one at home by the way U treat him for some time now.
Did you refuse bosom feeding your baby when she was young and if U did how long, were you selfish at any instance? From all I can tell of him he is a sentimental type (this is not wrong because this is your marriage, if he does not have right to criticize you in whose marriage does he have right to?)
I think you fight more with him than talk, you tell him what you want to do than ask for permission to(why not lock up that supermarket and bring the key to him in the bedroom, ask him for permission to  open a joint a/c for your children, talk about joint investment when U see his finance can carry it not when you want it.
Open up to him on your finance(maybe you listen much to ladies who advice against, he is him not any other man and you have to understand what he appreciates same way you expect him to appreciate you and do what you like and do that)
This is your marriage Honey and the right to win or lose is in your hands, anyone here might advice otherwise but its your home not mine, we all have challenges but we handle them that is why we still have a home(a lovely one),
Submit to him and bring him home(when a man/woman misses his/her way out there, we go back to the last known point, that’s what we teach our kids, and if they aren’t there, U wait there if they know the drill, if U feel they don’t U keep a notice there and go all the way searching.
If U do not take care of this your way reasonably, (if U move out)  give it 40yrs and come back to see that it was not about intimacy, U both lost it some place and needed to find each other.
You will forever be a failure if you think you are rite but cannot solve the problem, and if your being right  isn’t solving it, put urself in his shoes, you will know what to do.
We are Africans, solve your problem, those countries with marriage councilors all other have highest no of divorce cases.He has not beaten U (that means he adores U)& if He has he regrets every minute of it…would cry apologizing the day U find him as a lovely wife would
Find your man Dear

@HERE was really hoping to hear from you, still waiting for you to clear the air.

I couldint really respond to you yesterday because I was hungry, busy and tired. In as much as I needed advice I take exception from people complicating issues for me. This is the advices I'v gotten in ages.
You will do urself a whole lot of good to go for a check up, u urgently need one before u totally get ruined.

"Don't U think he discovered something about you that made him loose the expectation" Since u appear to know 'us' please let's know wot he discovered about me that prompted his actions.

"You started hating him after your giving birth" I thought they  said children brings joy to the family, wot could be the basis 4 that?? could be because my daughter is beautiful, looks like him, healthy or wot? please explain

"but please tell us is that baby his?" still waiting for your response on this,, if it was u that fathered the child or u probably know who I CHALLENGE you to DISGRACE ME in FULL PUBLIC GLARE ON NAIRALAND AND ANYWHERE.

"infact he now sl**ps with U forcefuly" @HERE are u sure u human or a witch, to have known he sl**ps with me forcefully?? so u are always there when we are having intimacy abi. 'HERE' u sound like someone that enjoys being 'despoiled' kind of.

"Did you joke about his pe**is to be small to his face" Are u alright at all, I think u need a brain check, it appears yours is very very small and cannot perform so u are just trying to console urself.

"Did you tell him / anyone that he doesn’t satisfy U?"-- u must have been imagining me telling u this in your wildest dreams. 'HERE' or 'THERE' or whatever u call urself, my husband is a 'd.g' in bed, he knows how/when to touch the right spots. thought u watched us last night, didnt u see the magic.

"Did you refuse bosom feeding your baby when she was young and if U did how long, were you selfish at any instance" if Bossom feeding means breastfeeding the baby, it might interest u to know that baby just clocked 1yr and 2mths few days agos and she still sucks and doesnt wanna let go, inspite of my work I did exclusive breastfeeding for 5 months+. is this wot is called selfishness in your village? pls tell us

"why not lock up that supermarket and bring the key to him in the bedroom"   I cant help but laugh. no bi only bedroom I go 4 give am the key, how about giving him in the toilet or kitchen or probably rushing to his office, hijack and give him there b4 he comes home. 'HERE' u are such a jerk!!!! arrrrrrrrrrr

"You will forever be a failure if you think you are rite but cannot solve the problem " only a failure recognises one and that's u

@jennykadry, see me se wahala, I came to NL for help see wetin them come dey accuse me.

Jenny, plenty gist dey, I was just going to wait a little bit before sharing it.

Meanwhile I want 2 go 4 lunch am so hungry.

Jenny pls stick around got some good news
BRB

@Larimo and HERE,

I just dont get u two, did any of my post ever suggests I have problem with the parternity of my baby or wot?
LARIMO I have to take it very very seriously cos my sincerity/fidelity is been questioned here. I do not know any soul physically on NL but if "HERE" knows me, I invite him or her to say wotever grudge he/her has against me. How has my marital problem got to do with my child's parternity.

Quote from: here on Today at 08:51:52 AM

You are intimidating him.[b] I also think you only assumed to know him before your marriage you did not really know him but its not late.([/b]You started hating him after your giving birth)
I'll try to be very objective as I do not see any reason why you are asking for an advice when you know your problem.
Fine he might he has lost his mind, he has lost track about life, [b]but please tell us is that baby his?[/b]Don't U think he discovered something about you that made him loose the expectation he had from you infact he now sl**ps with U forcefuly like he is in a revenge mission, don't you see its like one night stand has taken hold of him.
You are successful but why not allow him be the man of the house since he wants to(and he is), minimize bringing business and career talk to the bed for now until he finds it interesting, go back to the way you both were before and few months into your marriage when you worshiped him and allowed him buy you most of the things you needed even though you had the money.
Did you make jest of his background joking? Did you joke about his pe**is to be small to his face? Did you tell him / anyone that he doesn’t satisfy U?
Did you tell him about your past affair which involved your corporate life? Do you have one? No reasonable man tells a half lie to the wife to her face like urs is doing, allowing you see the name saved and still telling U the text is a mistake. You are a female you could have gotten bacteria infection from any toilet
Find about his work problems without telling anyone there U are having issues and discus it with him(not letting him know U know).He might be a subordinate at the office and U are making him one at home by the way U treat him for some time now.
Did you refuse bosom feeding your baby when she was young and if U did how long, were you selfish at any instance? From all I can tell of him he is a sentimental type (this is not wrong because this is your marriage, if he does not have right to criticize you in whose marriage does he have right to?)
I think you fight more with him than talk, you tell him what you want to do than ask for permission to(why not lock up that supermarket and bring the key to him in the bedroom, ask him for permission to open a joint a/c for your children, talk about joint investment when U see his finance can carry it not when you want it.
Open up to him on your finance(maybe you listen much to ladies who advice against, he is him not any other man and you have to understand what he appreciates same way you expect him to appreciate you and do what you like and do that)
This is your marriage Honey and the right to win or lose is in your hands, anyone here might advice otherwise but its your home not mine, we all have challenges but we handle them that is why we still have a home(a lovely one),
Submit to him and bring him home(when a man/woman misses his/her way out there, we go back to the last known point, that’s what we teach our kids, and if they aren’t there, U wait there if they know the drill, if U feel they don’t U keep a notice there and go all the way searching.
If U do not take care of this your way reasonably, (if U move out) give it 40yrs and come back to see that it was not about intimacy, U both lost it some place and needed to find each other.
You will forever be a failure if you think you are rite but cannot solve the problem, and if your being right isn’t solving it, put urself in his shoes, you will know what to do.
We are Africans, solve your problem, those countries with marriage councilors all other have highest no of divorce cases.He has not beaten U (that means he adores U)& if He has he regrets every minute of it…would cry apologizing the day U find him as a lovely wife would
Find your man Dear

it appears to me that this poster knows some personal things from the manner of his write-up about your marriage?!?!?!?!?!?

@here
cant just go on highlighting all u said, well thanks 4 your contributions but u are entitle to your opinion.
I must say that I dont know where u got all your theories from. I never mentioned that he sl, ps with me forcefully and we had arguments partaining the parternity of our Baby, infact I mentioned in one of my post that the baby look so much like my husband that she only took my light complexion, he is quite aware of this fact too. Please @HERE cau u give me the reasons for such insinuations? please provide the father if there is any slight doubt. and like LARIMO said u seems to know my about my marriage far more than me that is involved, pls can u shed more light?

Dont really wanna talk too much, maybe u didnt quite understand my post.

How busy is this area do u have flexible payment options? are there hidden charges who are we buying from?? who is the owner, it Government or individual?? wot documentation/title do u have

No listen to anybody advice. Use your head abi u no wise!

as in

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b]Please is there really a center in Lagos for university of ibadan?[/b]

I heard there is one at Opebi, around salvation bus-stop, inside one estate there, though have not been there myself. want to put in for my younger sister, does anyone know how recognised it is or is it one of these mushrooms fronting themselves as UI. I know UI to be a prestigous university, hope this is really authentic

can u post pictures please.
where is this area in Abule-Egba

bought mine - Econet 2004 I think N6,500
and Nokia 2200 N25,000

@agathamari
Thanks for the valuable info, I hope others will find it usefull too

Everything and anything can destroy a relationship (including good deeds and bad deeds)

How do u mean, man

What I hate most in relationship are lies, infidelity and bragging, it kills a relationship fast

These things are very rampant these days, one just have to be very careful. But I dont just know why your gf and her mom are so indifferent. Ditch them for all i care if they dont wanna hear u out.

The mail below was written by one of my colleague who had an encounter with them last week
@all BEWARE .



PLEASE BE ALERT TO PRANKS OF FRAUDSTERS

This is a recent mail from someone who was nearly scammed.
Beware and Be Vigilant.

It all started when I received a call from someone
claiming that he was from the telephone service provider and
he asked me to shutdown my phone for 2 hours for 3g
update to take place. As I was rushing for a meeting,
I did not question and shutdown my cell phone.

After 45 minutes I felt very suspicious since the caller did not
even introduce his name. I quickly turned on my cell phone
and I received several calls from my family members and the
others were from the number that had called me earlier -
3954380.

I called my parents and I was shocked that they sounded
very worried asking me whether I am safe, My parents told me
that they had received a call from someone claiming that
they had me with them and asking for money to let me free.
The call was so real and my parents even heard 'my
voice' crying out loud asking for help. My parent was at
the bank waiting for next call to proceed for money
transfer. I told my parents that I am safe and asked them
to lodge a police report.

Right after that I received another call from the guy asking me to
shutdown my cell phone for another 1 hour which I refused to
do and hung up. They keep calling my cell phone until the
battery had run down. I myself lodged a police report and I
was informed by the officer that there were many such scams
reported. MOST of the cases reported that the victim had
already transferred the money! And it is impossible to get
back the money.

Be careful as this kind of scam might happen to any of us!!!
Those guys are so professional and very convincing during
calls. If you are asked to shut down your cell phone for
updates by the service provider, ASK AROUND! Your family or
friends might receive the same call.

Be Safe and Stay Alert!

Please pass around to your family and friends!

Hehehehe nairaland no go kill me.

u don die finish, nobody dey kill u.

olodo like u, coconut head

I don c say una no get work to do lol
Abeg I gat some serious work at hand,u guys should come assist me
instead of falling head over heels for wot u want to be called.

^^^^^ this is an outdated and non effective method that is nolonger used in developed countries.  you need to map your hormones, cervical mucus levels and body temerature to accuritly determine when you ovulate.  most women ovulate once per cycle, around 10% ovuate twice while it has been reported where woman can ovulate up to 5 times in a cycle.  some women ovuate the day after thier periods, some in the middle some on any other day.

hmmm Please can u enlighten me on how this works, was introduced to Billings Method sometime ago, didnt quite get it. u can send me a mail at worldstar2020@yahoo.com, I will greatly appreciate it. Thanks

Hello People,

Am so confused about counting a woman's cycle and dont know the right time
a woman can concive, I only know that it's around 14days after Menses which is your ovulation period.
It's all so confusing to me.

Please can the masters in this game educate me

Thanks

Hello People,

Am so confused about counting a woman's cycle and dont know the right time
a woman can concive, I only know that it's around 14days after Menses which is ur ovulation period.
It's all so confusing to me.

Please can the masters in this game educate me

Thanks

Does your friend knows what she want in life at all? where is her pride? This is about the biggest joke I have heard in ages.
Please and please if she knows what is good for her let her do it. This is the height of degradation any woman can condescend to. She should stop seeing him ASAP and mind u even if they eventually marry, it is going to be worse. Any little quarrel the man will send her packing, is that wot she is worth.

Both families has to meet to finally resolve this issue once and for all. Girl, tell ur friend to return his pride price and move on with her life. she will meet a man that will love and appreciate her.

Though u didnt tell us wot led to the quarrel or wot ur friend did that made her "husband" to chase her out.
no matter wot, the "marriage" is way too young to be undergoing this major set back.

Make hale while the sun set. A word is enough for the wise.

May his gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

I dont just get what the matter is here, why did he ask her to withdraw from her MBA programme
is he threatened by her intelligience or what? dont like guys tossing ladies around.
If the guy is no longer interested, they should just call it quit rather than behaving childishly

What if a Yar'Adua lookalike has been smuggled into the country and is presently undergoing speech and attitudinal training?

What if this person is a ventriloquist and can mimick the voice of anybody?

What if Physical Therapists from South Africa are also working on his gait to fit that of Yar'Adua?

What if Specialist Plastic Surgeons from North Korea have also been flown in to perfect his facial features to match that of Mr President?

What if he will address the nation very soon, and will take over power from Goodluck pending the next elections when he will not contest the next elections?

What if the ongoing story of his ill-health are to buy time to perfect work on this Yar'Adua look alike, which will happen very soon?

What if this is all goofy poo

All these really scares me, what if all these are really true?
Turai and the cabal are so so desperate and can do anything to retain power
where are we going??
My people, let's be on our guard too. Maybe we should start looking out for a machine that will detect whether he is the true yaradua or not when he comes.

I am really scared for the future of Nigeria

Am so loving this, so good to know this.
wishing u all the best in your marital bliss

thanks once more, I wished I have known and applied all these tips b4 now

God bless u real good Analytical

To all the gals in da house, hope u gained one or two things too.

am blushing

analytical u too much

thanks

@ Analytical u a genius, are u a psychologist Am so happy I shared this problem on Nairaland.
You just hit the nail right at the head. I never these also could have contributed somehow, na wah oooh, one has to be very careful

Firstly u got me in some places I must admit, I really have to improve in some things though I call and text but not often. He calls me more than I do, not that am not romantic, I think I just have to more creative like u said. Thank u Analytical.

Again ALL the things u said about my husband’s  job are emphatically correct. He doesn’t like his job anymore not one bit, and have been wanting to quite. He is a graduate of Mechanical Engineering and have been working as an Engineer in a multinational org. he feels so overused and now hates his profession with passion, on d other hand am in Marketing/Brand Management, he has come to realize that there are lots of prospects and opportunities in my career, he comes around my office, I discuss our core business with him and now know that it’s far more rewarding than his. He earns more than me though but there’s room for advancement in my career.
B4 we got married, I tried to discuss a career change with him but he wasn’t just interested, he sounded too contented with his job, I bought some books so he could read. Now he is so so desperate to leave, he complains his job has become so routinely and boring to him while I work in a very exciting atmosphere. He works at night some times and he hates that a lot.

I advised him to take some professional courses in markting/mgt which he has done but he has not been successful in his search maybe cos he doesn’t have a marketing background or something. Rather than sit tighter and pray he will tell u they already taken those they wanted b4 calling 4 d interview and just be complaining here and there.

He knows about the STD, when I asked he said he contacted it through the office toilet I know it’s a lie, when I probed further he said I was the one that infested him that he will call a family meeting to ask me how I got it. But he later gave me money to treat it. Not sure he treated his well cos it keeps reoccurring in me.

Analytical u dey there

Analytical, how come u know us so well

u just brought out some hidden truths which I never envisaged could pose a problem.
u are simply analytic, will respond to u soon
thanks