blessedaunty:
I think she is your mum, maybe you probably look like your dad. Does she have a good relationship with your father? This may be the reason.

My dad really gave her a hard time but I don't think her dislike for me comes from there i always felt like my mother didnt like my relationship with my grandmother, my grandmother brought me up as a child not that my mother couldn't take care of me but in our culture it's very normal to give one child or have one child stay with the grandmother for sometime which was until I was a teenager ,I would visit my family at times tho,anyways my grandmother would let all her grandkids know that she loved me the most ALL THE TIME and when she moved to the u.s for her treatments she would call and ask for me all the time and cry saying I always see her in my dreams,my moms expression always use to change to like an angry one like she didnt want to hear !


Part of me thinks since shes the only child of my grandmother and grandad (my grandma married twice) she wants my grandmas love all to herself.

Oyindidi:
Is it also impossible to stay away from her? Please answer me

No not possible!

UjuJoan2:
Maybe you are your father's love child and not her biological child!

I'm sorry, but I can't just understand why a mother will be that way with her own child. Something is just not right!

But we all have birth Mark's that look alike and I know its from here cause she has it too,I always thought of getting DNA done but never had the courage,my dad did cheat on my multiple times

Hi ,I rly need some advice on what to do with me and my mothers relationship.

Since my childhood I knew my mother never really favored me it was always my elder sister.I have 2 sisters one is younger and the other is older than me. Three years ago I got married and and just gave birth last year anyways I always knew my mom disliked me for some reason even tho I was the most obedient to her than my other sister which I never reallyyy understood! On so many occasions they have disrespected her in public talked back and hurt her feelings to the point where she sobs and sobs and theres me always comforting her and by her side but she treats me like I'm not there!

anyways my elder sister got married again (shes a divorcee) and moved to a third world country , it was a love marriage and my mom was unhappy with their marriage she didnt want her to live there but her husband earns enough to give her a comfortable life but still my mom was very unhappy as she was her favorite daughter she always wanted her to get married to our far relatives son whose from the u.k, but instead I did ,but not to the same guy my mom wanted for my sister but my husband too is a far relative. anyways last year when I gave birth my mother and my younger sister came to help with the baby ,I just gave birth and I was extremely deprived of sleep so one night she told me to get some rest and they will stay up with the baby ,I slept for good 3 hours when I woke up to the crying of my baby I stood up and went to check before I went inside the room

I heard my mom say to my sister how she wishes the life iam living for my elder sister instead how she wishes it was the opposite and that iam not fit for this life or deserving I obviously was shocked and backed away never mentioned it to her acted like nothing happened I was confused sad angry why not me? Iam I also not her daughter? I still dont understand to this day!

I always send her money, buy her gifts take her outisde take loans from my husband to give it to her when she needs money always treat her like the most important person in my life! I was very very confused to the point I started having thoughts of me not being her biological daughter ,when I was young she would never praise anything that I do I use to make her favorite dish she would not say anything or find faults in it on another occasion when I started getting good grades she would tell me do u think ur smart now? Instead of praising me cuz that's what parents do right


I still love her to death and just wish she showed me a little bit of compassion I dont dare ask her why do you dislike me what have I ever done to you!

Please help me understand I'm desperate.am I overthinking? How do I handle this?