I graduated since last year from a very expensive private uni and I'm yet to do my clearance , I arrived home 1st October 2023 and I've been in my hometown ever since .

My dad with all the influence and power he has , refused to let me work in his company after all his big promises , I came back home and met him sick and I forfeited my chances to travel to Choba where I had someone willing to accommodate me and would've found work sooner than here , I left my cashier work because of school and now I'm done and it feels like , I have been standing at a place.

I got a teaching work for 15k per month and was owed 3 months salary after being paid the very first salary 3 weeks late, I was alone and I needed money , how can I keep working with a small salary that is still not being paid online.
That is a bad work environment.
I stopped and started hawking pancakes , the sun almost finished me , when I kept it at a place sometimes it goes to waste because most people only patronize me by morning , men who have nothing better to do will act like they want to buy and call me and start blabbing , if you ignore them they will act as if they wanted to buy something and you're not serious , its very discouraging.

I have work experience as a computer operator , cashier for a bet business , I was the only cashier in the most populated bet shop in Maryland street Choba , I've managed online page of a hair brand as its social media manager , interacting with customer , organizing ads and doing basic research on what favors the business.

I no get big eye , even if its 15k I'm earning as salary let me at least see it , how can I be going to work everyday and still depending on my bf to survive for so long , a particular week I went to teach for the whole week eating only once because I don't live with my bf and he was broke that period , I only eat when I come back and go to his house , my sister too was broke , I was so depressed but everyone is saying I should have endured , if my school covered my feeding I won't quit , my highschool covered feeding for its teachers .

Now I'm jobless and at home and I need a job but I don't know where to start , I really don't want to teach now because of my experience .
I have a BS.c but I feel like I have nothing since I can't even clear my fees on my own 300k plus tfare from rivers to Ogun state and accommodation .

I have my dads old Sim and he has the numbers of influential people in our town who don't know me , I feel like sending them messages to plead for a job but I'm tired of the questions , people asking me "why didn't you ask your dad?"

My dads wife is behind all his decisions , he keeps saying after service I'll get a job in council that pays me 100k and above but I've been home since October , school was hell for me , I thought by now I would be at peace , I'm just disorganized and its eating me.

I am lucky but it doesn't mean I should be comfortable depending on one person for everything , even as his leg is not strong he's doing a lot , if I were to get a job it would be better for both of us

LenaJon:
Washing on the floor makes it easier for me. And in that way I'll get to every corner. After that I wash the floor to remove the pieces of blood.

Me too , I like to wash properly and the WC can't do it for me

Freelancerboy:
Anyone who's Interested here should Send a message to my WhatsApp my number is on .y signature.

I'll teach anyone here how to read your cheating partner WhatsApp messages directly on your phone .

It's not free.
Hold your #1000
Before you message me

Lol when you can just ask them to open it for you , without pre informing them , if they throw a fit then your relationship is probably just for ducking

Auxtan:

I need an AA & O+ in my life. You have a sister?

Lol they're too young for you and my second is in a serious relationship as well , so no

Auxtan:

Love can make you say a lot more good things about him. But if you are right in all you said now, then he might just be that guy for you. Go and check your genotype and other medicals. You can as well take in again for him to make things easier since your mum is being too stubborn. Happy married life in advance!

When the time is right I will do just that , as for the genotype , I'm AA and O+ , I did my test before gaining admission.

Auxtan:

You just have to think more and be careful. People can be who you didn't fathom them to be. And your boyfriend could be acting very understanding because he wants to tie you down first as you're of a different status. If not he would be more interested in marrying you the right way and not getting you pregnant first. THINK!

When we met I was selling pancakes as an hair dressers apprentice , using a damaged button phone (giving damsels in distress)

He didn't know anything about me , he's not from here , he moved to my town last year , even with how he was acting at first I knew he knew nothing about me , he used to talk to me like I was unexposed and local , it was people that knew me that would tell him who I was but even still , if he had grown up here , I would never even give him a chance , the men here have approached for that status thing and its always so obvious.

If I tell the other men I'm hungry , they'll give me a history lesson about my dad , thats why i only date outside ,but with him its as if I'm his child, he sees me as his innocent and sweet person, he's always thinking and making provision with the little he has , most times I don't eat till he's back from work so that we can eat together , even if there's food , I'll wait so that we can eat everything together , it feels good sha.

I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

He's been itching to meet my family officially but from where I'm standing that's a bad idea..... My mom is materialistic and artificial , she doesn't believe in humble beginnings and I don't want her to get involved and make him feel bad.

He's orphaned and fends for himself and me , he's very kind and understanding and he cherishes me , other men that came want me for stupid reasons and most of the men here are not single , you'll be a side chick to a man that can't give his wife money to make her hair (waste of sin) ,

But my bf is like my best friend he's my type and I'm his type, young , handsome , hardworking and caring , I love that we both look very good and I usually imagine having a baby with him, that will look just like him

I recently got pregnant without realizing it on time but whilst treating a suspected infection I put myself and my pregnancy at risk and we were adviced to terminate it , it was life threatening and I was bed ridden ,I had him with me from start to finish , helping me go through this hard time ,both of us were emotionally ready for the baby but God knows best(maybe next year)

My mom says he's a nobody because he's orphaned , didn't further his studies after waec , does hard labour and he's not from our town .

My father also had no opportunity to further on time and I wasn't born with a silver spoon , it was after I had grown a bit that we became highly privileged , and got wealthy.

I didn't earn my life , I was blessed and lucky to be the first graduate in my family but none of this is his fault , but my mother thinks I should bring home some big guy that drives a car and has a degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?

labake1:
Apart from the trolling and bashing, has anyone found love here?

Yes and he was the first man to treat me right and set me up to be this confident

imagrg:
This one is a fake!
She's not reasoning like a 22 year old girl.
This one is a professional male scammer.
He will use his girlfriend to collect stuffs from sympathisers to this fake story.
This is a new format.

And where did I drop my acct details or claim that I was dying and needed urgent cash

How are 22 year old graduates of psychology supposed to reason ?
I am documenting my experience so other people with families understand that its not just crocodiles and sharks out there.

If you're bored , just say thst

CrownedPhoenix:


Hello

So how did it go?

I moved out and I got a job and its going really great , I moved out last year December , patching with a cousin sis , then moved in with my ex who was my bf then , he traveled and left me in his family home.

His people weren't pleased and after a month of not hearing from him , they politely asked me to leave around February , I was forced to do it all on short notice.

I asked family members to let me rent their vacant place but they insisted I go back home and told me I wouldn't make it and I won't find a place.

It was a very stressful month , I was given hope by many people , but dissapointed at last minute.

But at last I rented my first apartment, the lady who moved out convinced me that she would let me use her things and come get them by December , because she didn't have where to keep them.

I had no property of my own ,no bed , no gas , pot or even plates , just bags of clothes.

By march without informing me , the former tenant showed up and packed everything , including her gas which was filled by me for 3 months and I used her pot to cook , so I had to waste my sauce because I lost appetite and no way to even warm it .

I moved home to clear my head and was awaiting my overdue salary when I got a reminder as to why I left in the first place and got depressed again , called up a friend and cried and boom they sent me money to add to my savings for gas and pots and plates

I purchased my own gas , pot set , ingredients container , buckets.

I got a job as a Junior High school teacher and also a private lesson teacher.

its been exciting.

I've also gone out on dates so I'm doing great

dkidd:

Coloured braids are cool just don't shave ur hair and apply dye...that's ugly. The hair do fits u btw

Thank you

folake4u:



Mai dear!!!!! I dey swap black hair and colour 33 all the time. I want to do something totally out of my preferred line.

You tinted your hair wine? Was it natural virgin hair? Cos mine is virgin hair, and I don't know if it'd affect my hair if I get it tinted. Na the major reason I never do coloured braids.

Las las, na church beret sure pass oh. If anybody give you bombastic side eye, kuku mo ya look away.

The current hair I'm carrying is black. I kuku don tire for the Rinse and repeat styles!

Thank you.

My hair is natural too , I go find scarf after week 3

Kobojunkie:
Danyyyyyyyyyyy, please ignore the crude yaps of such as these who think the world — nature included —and that of others ought to revolve around them and their preferences.

Like I don't know how they are , they were ignored , especially when I have better people to reply to , like you and others

Sublimesuccess:


Are you in Anambra State?
I have business proposal for you.

I'm in rivers

Evolutionism:


Start Olosho business already.

I know you just want someone to tell you and give you go ahead. No long thing.

I cancel that evil prayer on my head oh , back to sender

Kobojunkie:
You rock those locks!

Thanks sis

Error401:
You look really pretty. My kind of woman, just that you have a small boooobs. I prefer your kind of physique with big boobbs. Slim girls with big boobs are perfect

Lol wahala for who get preference

I wish you a happy preference day

ikeno:
The gold looks lovely but i would have prefer black it will blend with your skin and bring out the Africa beauty that you are.

I'm always on black , let me try and do a bold look

Persephone1:
It fits perfectly! I love it on you, you really look good.

Stay strong sis, better days ahead.

Loads of love from here 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

Staying strong oh
I'm not going anywhere

folake4u:


You are right. I was thinking about this earlier today. I always do more of black and brown hair styles.

Been admiring this colour of hair and don't know if it'd fit me.

Try it oh
Don't knock it till you try it

Persephone1:
If it's not black hair it will be color 33 arrrrrgggghhhhhh very boring I remember when I tinted my hair wine, I wanted to retouch it but I find people in my new environment giving me bombastic side eyes so I allow it wear off. But the truth is deep down within me I know I'm going to do it again because I lovvvveeeee it. Las las I go use beret cover am in church and be ready to tear eye for anybody ni. I want my tinted hair back. Now I hardly find black appealing...

You can try it with an inexpensive hair first, if you don't like it, you will remove it. The color can be mixed with black / gold to cool it down if you don't want it flashy.

Its always color 33

It's my first time going blonde and I'm waiting to try more colors

garriAndsugar:
Yes

Thank you
I love it too

Mhizzard:

really
i won't mind if you could accept what pop up from mail

Alright

Jeon:
Wow, I love your small face.
The Korean beauty standard. You look good.

I go find work last year December , they were asking if I'm up to 18
Old mama like me

Awwwn Jeon baby , its been awhile , do you still remember me?

Balablue64:
You fine sha, i love your smiles. Your face just looking innocent hope you have not done the things.

Run oh

Mhizzard:
You are finding someone compliment you here,why don't get someone who will compliment you physically.

I already have many , I'm just here to debunk the colored hair theory

Growing up I always heard that colored hair was for lightskinned girls , one spirit inside me told me to do blonde hair and I went ahead and did it .

I guess this is my revenge look for losing my job , having no home and many more annoying things that happened inside this small December.
Sometimes a new hair can make you feel a little Berra

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